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My family is causing so much drama for me and i don't know what to do
May 30, 2009
2:21 am
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I'm not the most popular girl in the world... mostly because I'm really shy. My little sister (she's only 13, I'm 17) on the other hand is very popular. She has a lot of friends, goes out almost every weekend, is always talking on the phone, oh and she's mean. She reminds me of one of the girls who made most of middle school experience a living hell. But we're still really close, she tells me just about everything. But then there are other times... the phone will ring and she'll say "maybe if you weren't such a loser someone would call you".My mom's always putting me down. Indirectly calling my ugly, stupid, among some other things. But I still love her and respect her. My brother is going on with his life (he's 20) and every once in awhile will drop in to ask me what im going to do with mine. My half-brother (he's in his 30s) hasn't seen me in over seven years and now he's trying to send me emails and call me and text and act like we're still a family and that nothings changed. But i don't want to talk to him because I don't want to be let down again. The cherry on the sundae? My mom keeps confiding in me that she's unhappy in her 20 year marriage with my dad and that she feels helpless. But I'm just 17, I don't know what to say to that. I don't know what I can do about that!!! I love my entire family sooo much and they're always there for me but right now I just feel like I want to scream, and cry, and i just don't know how to deal anymore.

May 30, 2009
7:26 am
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At 17 very few of us had our act together and knew how to deal. First off, it is unfair of your mother to confide in you about her marriage. You cannot fix that. Only she and your dad can fix their marriage.

Second, give your oldest brother a chance. He may sense that you really need him right now and has realized his selfishness of the past. Just a thought.

Little sister is 13 and that makes her inheritly mean right now. I am an only child so I really don't have much advice on dealing with siblings.

Bitsy

June 1, 2009
4:21 pm
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Is there any possibility that you can meet with your school counselor? You really do need some support right now...someone "safe" to talk to.

I will also tell you that it is wrong for your mother to speak to you that way. Totally. I am so sorry that you have been subjected to that kind of mistreatment.

I have two sons. They are as different as night and day. One is extremely extroverted and outgoing...has lots of friends and dates a really nice girl. The other son is introverted. Very intelligent. Funny. But quiet and on the "shy" side. He has few friends (mostly guys he plays computer games with) and does not date.

None of us (including his big brother) put him down for it. Everyone is different and unique. We all grow socially at our own pace and with the people who make us feel comfortable and accepted.

I do hope you can find a good counselor in whom to confide.

Please do keep posting.

- Ma Strong

June 1, 2009
6:23 pm
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I hope you can see a counselor at school or elsewhere,as suggested in the last post.If you are happy with yourself just be yourself. I am very shy too.It is so hard to go somewhere
that I don't know anyone.If you have low self esteem a counselor may be able to help you work through it. Please try not to take all the mean things your sister says to heart. Siblings can be very cruel.Teens are the worst. Give your brother a chance.

June 2, 2009
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Thanks guys, soo very very very much. And... I know i need to see a councilor, I've actually been contemplating it for awhile now... but I'm out of school now, my official cap & gown graduation was just a few days ago. So... how does that old Jojo song go? "it's just a little too late". For a school councilor anyway. And getting one unrelated to school would require me to actually tell my parents what's going on with me and asking them to open their wallets for me... which I'm not so good at. I don't like asking people for things... especially when I know they'd give it to me without a moment's hesitation. I'd just feel guilty because... the money or whatever could have been used for something else that they wanted or needed.

June 2, 2009
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Strgr,

Is there any alcohol or addiction problems with in your family?

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

June 2, 2009
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Strgrl4eva,

How about Alateen?

June 5, 2009
12:12 am
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uh.... thanks but no one in my family is an alcoholic. My dad drinks beer occasionally and maybe wine at a special dinner or something but thats about it.

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