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My ex boyfriend of eight years called today....
November 5, 2001
9:29 pm
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ShellyM
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Well, the ex boyfriend of eight years called today to tell me he and his new woman are getting married..bought the rings and everything....How do I feel? Well...shocked and yet relieved in a way.....I asked him if he was sure he was ready since they've only known each other for 3 months now.....said he loves her very much.....I almost started to laugh....eight years....always loved me...ya right....I wished him the best and hung up...
I am relieved that I will no longer have to take the abuse of someone who never really loved me in the first place...I'm grateful for actually getting the closure that I needed...I knew deep down that my love was just part of my childhood issues...Seeking....and wanting someone to love me and in the end...I may hurt for a while, but my love for him was the codependency person that I am...and hopefully, I can learn from this....get the help that I need to heal from all the years of emotional abuse....
As for him, I really do hope for the best...but I really think he's just found another crutch in his life to avoid his unresolved issues with himself...God help her.....believe it or not...I feel sorry for her....he may have stopped his drinking and drugs to win her heart, but she's in for the ride of her life.....Enough said about that...there I go again....dog gone that codependency thing...
I'm just grateful that it's over and I can finally go on with my life....live my life...do what I want to do....and not feel like I need to worry about him....I've been sick for a very long time...and it's time for me to be me and love me.....Thanks so much for all your help and support.....Shelly

November 6, 2001
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Blondie - excellent point and I say it often to men and women. Look at a person's past and especially at how they treat their parents and what the mechanics of that are.

If a man has no respect for his mother, for whatever reason - (good or bad doesn't matter) because that anger and disrespect unresolved will come out at the woman in his life - sooner or later.

The same with a woman who has unresolved issues with her father - same deal. I don't think I've ever seen a time that this one didn't play itself out. I look at all my relationships in the past and this one truth has been - right on the money.

The best man to have as a partner is one that has a really healthy relationship with his mother. I've seen a few of these men in my life and they are fine catches for a good woman.

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