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my alcoholic is dead but i still love and miss him, how can i get a life?
July 19, 2005
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in 1998 by love died a terrible death from alcoholism. I still miss him and love him. Totally dedicated to our child who is 14. I haven't been the same since. Can't hold a job, I don't have a life only the life of the daughter whom I love passionately.

I pray, and wake every day positive, but still without monetary resources and I live one day at a time. I want this to go away and become successful

July 19, 2005
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im so sorry for your loss hunny have you ever thought about counceling?

July 19, 2005
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hip, I'm so sorry you are still hurting from your loss. Seven years is too long to still be at this stage of grieving. Something is going with you to cause this. Get the help of a counselor or support group to get you beyond this point so you can start healing.

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kathy

July 19, 2005
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Your daughter is at the age where she might not realize it, but she needs you more than ever. Let her be your motivation to take the necessary steps to heal. Counselling is a good idea, and coming here to talk will help. A lot.

July 27, 2005
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I hope you find a support group or counseling. Your daughter and you both deserve to find happiness again. I can't imagine what you are going through.

Have you tried to splurge on yourself, go to the spa go shopping get your hair done, have a night out on the town with your friends? Sometimes a night out can do wonders.

Keep your chin up.

July 27, 2005
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to lose any one is very hard you love him.its only natural dont beat your self up for missing him you are sposed to but i do firmly believe time is the greatest healer.
I think you should take up all offers of time out weather it be a cuppa with a friend in the morning,dinner at a friends or even a night out do it all, the offers will stop coming if you dont take them up on them.
start doing all the things youve always wanted to do weather it is singing lessons , skydiving or just to learn something new at college do it all now break the routine that once was and soon enough time would have passed and one day you will wake up and think i still love him but i actually feel like i can go on with a different forfilled life .
it will be hard but get your self out there .there is so much to do so much to learn. be brave your love will never fade it will just make you stronger .good luck

July 27, 2005
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hi ((hip))) i too lost my beloved alcoholic to suicide, he took his own life almost 3 years ago, and not a day passes by with thoughts of him, missing him, etc.

For a life to be taken from this world is the toughest thing for anyone to deal with. Feel your feelings, keep talking and know that it takes so much time to grieve, your life has changed, take very small steps and don't rush into doing anything too quick too soon.

My life changed forever, i stayed alone, for almost 2 years, and tried my hardest, to understand and recognize what a change in life i was going thru, i reached out to family and friends and prayed and used my spirituality to get thru
the toughest of times...it takes time.

Keep coming back and sharing, i am here to listen.

love, camer

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