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MSU won the game but I lost
October 7, 2001
12:29 pm
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well Sje finally called me yesterday around 4pm. She told me that her and her ex had talked and they had both decided that their marriage would never work. So she asked me to come over so we could go to the game.
So about 30 minutes later im 2 blocks away from her house she calls me and ask where i am. I tell her im just around the corner.She said that i needed to turn around and go back home . That she was going to call her ex and tell him that she wanted him to go with her. This really confussed/upset me.I kept her on the phone till i got to her house.When i went inside she told me that she wanted him to go and not me,,,its like she was under some sort of spell . I asked her why? She said that she loved him and could never love me the way she loved him. She had spent the whole night before telling me that she loved me. She told me that it was a lie, that she had been lying to me and to herself. She said "I have to call him" she sounded so desperate. " I have to catch him before he gets home ,I want him to tell him i want him to go to the game with me". They had been together all day. She said that he told her that i didnt love her. And it seems that he believed her. I dont understand how a guy can treat a woman so horriblly and still have so much control over her. This has totally distroyed all of the plans that we had talked about. I havent been able to eat or sleep. I want to be a "real man" and walk away from this.But i cant. I love her.I love her children. I could feel her love for me.What the hell happened? I have no desire for anything now.I have lost my will.I dont want to do anything. Im really confussed.Im so hurt.All i can think about is how much I love her and how it seems that my life is over now. Ive waited so long to give my heart to someoneand now the one that i have given it to has ripped it up and thrown it back in my face. I miss her so much............

October 7, 2001
12:51 pm
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think about it, if this is your dream, your not dreaming big enough. Some one who loves you , shouldn't treat you this way. Why not draw some protective barriers, take care of you, get some support say through CODA, read some books, go work out, but take a break from the heart ache. It hurts, but we are really in controll, don't give your power away so easy, get that survivor mentality going, and do something nice for you.

October 7, 2001
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Diamondctr, that was COMPLETELY inexcusable on her part. Think about this. Suppose a friend of yours called you up and said "hey, wanna go to the game?" You said sure, then one block away from your friend's house he calls you up and says "Hey, I was thinking, I'd rather go with my buddy Tom instead of you. No hard feelings, K?" What would your reaction be to that?

You're worth more than that. She doesn't deserve you, or anything even remotely close to you. Let her go back to her shatty marriage and "deep unexplainable primal love" that she could never feel for you. That's truly where she belongs at this point in her life, and you don't belong with someone like that. Grow some balls and go find someone that will treat you with the respect you deserve.

Sorry to sound so harsh, but the solution is right in front of you, but you are seeking any advice anywhere not to take it. You deserve better, not someone that selfish!

October 7, 2001
3:34 pm
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But I Love Her......

October 8, 2001
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Why do you want to put up with this treatment? There are people out there who would find this abhorrent - like me for one. You must find some self-respect and tell her not to call you. Love does not mean you have to sacrifice yourself. It is a two way street, and if only one person is driving, then what have you?

October 8, 2001
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"But you love her?" Reread your posts. You do not love her. You love what you think she could be, her "potential". See her for what she is, actions speak louder than drunken declarations of love. Who is she really?

Still love her?

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