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Moving on - picking up the pieces
February 23, 2004
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Hi All - I put this on another thread - but thought perhaps this might be a good topic for all to look at if they are not following that particular thread.

Now, please I'm NOT saying I have all the answers - remember - I'm just a simpleton. But - I hope it can help someone.

HI all,

I have to keep this short. I'm in a meeting/seminar all day today, but I'm out for lunch and wanted to check my e-mails, etc.

So, you are all sitting around obsessing about him?

Why? What good is that doing? It is earning you money? Compounding interest in your bank account? Helping you meet new and interesting people? Helping you lose that extra weight or toning up?

What exactly is the result of sitting there obsessing over these guys?

It leaves you feeling: stupid, inferior, unloved, depressed. These men that are so wonderful - this is what they make you feel like?

Life is short, really really short. All of this time that you are sitting there obsessing about them, hoping and praying and planning, scheming, and coniving to get them back - is wasted time.

At the end of our lives, we CANNOT get that time back. We do not get a "do-over" - the time is gone. For what? What exactly did you get out of wasting that time? Nothing. Well you got some things... headaches, heartaches, ulcers, sleepless nights.

Have you ever wondered WHY they are not feeling as bad as you? Could it be because - the did just that? They moved on. Yes, I know that hurts like hell to think about - and in the long run believe it or not, it's not healthy for them because they just leap from one relationship to the next. So, while I encourage you to move on, don't just leap into bed with the next person that smiles your way. Give yourself some time to heal.

But in the meantime, when you catch yourself doing these things, make the EFFORT to do and think something different. Even if it's painting your toe-nails a silly shade of pink. Or talking to your dog. Or writing a letter to your friend from school that you lost touch with. Take a class on underwater basket weaving - just DO SOMETHING!

Because right now, you are wasting your life.

Z.

February 23, 2004
3:03 pm
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Thanks Zinnie. Much needed.

February 23, 2004
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Thanks Zinnie. Definitely words to live by.

February 23, 2004
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Hear hear! Grab each day and make it count!

February 23, 2004
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You said it Zinnie!

I am putting a copy of this in my journal so I can remember it.

Ladyace.

February 23, 2004
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I too am keeping a copy of this.
I am proud to say I did just what it said today. Signed up 4 Kung Fu and kick boxing in a dojo, as I have wanted to do for years. Enhancing my gym work out.
I spent very little time thinking about him today. Each day gets easier. thanx for sharing.

February 24, 2004
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Kick boxing? Now THAT sounds fun!

February 24, 2004
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Thanks, Z. Yoga anyone?

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