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Moving on-fear keeps telling me I wont meet anyone else
June 1, 2010
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I am divorcing my husband, not by my choice. He has moved on with someone else. My fear is telling me I wont meet anyone and who going to want me this late in the game. I love people and I love being in a relationship, just dont know if I can sort through whats real and wants fake. What is it like in the single world now its been 3 years and 9 year relationship before that, but he pass away at 39.

June 1, 2010
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Ricky I was married for 14 years divorced and in another relationship for almost 5 years. It ended when I found out about his new girlfriend. I understand they are getting married. Like you I am good at a relationship but I never learned how to date. I don't know how to flirt. I have been single and alone for two yearts now. It is not the end od the world. I actually have moments of true happiness. I used to say I wouldn't want a man who didn't want me. Then it happened I love love loved him and he didn't want me. My body really did crave him. I would lie in bed missing everything about him. His kisses his touch his smell but he didn't want me. Ge wanted her. I was afraid I never would meet anyone. Thati would become old and bitter. That I would dry up and wither away. I haven't and you won't either. Will it be easy. No. Will it hurt will you cry? Yes. Buy you won't die and at some point you will wake up and discover you have a life and you ae doing pretty damn well thank you very much. Look at the when your lover is a liar thread. Get the book and tell yourself you wouldn't have a man thay didn't want you

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June 5, 2010
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Have you met yourself? How is your relationship and your love of yourself?
Stay strong within you and your fears will wash away. Stay afraid and those same fears will hinder your life from living happily and healthy.

June 8, 2010
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I am starting over at 43 I thought the same thing at first then I started to realize that there are people out there who would like to be with me I just needed to take better care of myself and stop putting myself down.I think about my good qualities not bad.

June 8, 2010
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Mugsie is right.

When it is all said and done, the only person we really have is ourself. It is time for you to begin a relationship with yourself, time to heal her and take care of her.

It's time to focus on you. Once you begin to construct your life as full around you, things will change, and you'd be surprised what that leads to.

I have spent the last several months doing the same thing, healing me. Now I am finding many men becoming interested in me, but I couldn't give a crap. I spent my life investing in my partners, pouring all my love and energy into these men, only to find myself alone. Now I don't care whether I ever have another one. I never even think about it lately. Instead I spend my time remodeling me, rehabbing the me into the person I want to be.

Its true, my divorce is not final either, but I have been seperated for 9 months and have NO DESIRE to date anyone other than me. Outside of my friends, she is all I really need. Men are just not something I am ready to handle-so needy, so demending, so time consuming, and in the end I always end up in the debt column, so what's the point?

I think of this as my selfish phase, its all about me! (I have to warn you though, some men find this attitude quite intriguing-that challenge thing-) Good Luck.

June 1, 2010
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I am
divorcing my husband, not by my choice. He has moved on with
someone else. My fear is telling me I wont meet anyone and who
going to want me this late in the game. I love people and I love
being in a relationship, just dont know if I can sort through whats
real and wants fake. What is it like in the single world now its
been 3 years and 9 year relationship before that, but he pass away
at 39.

June 1, 2010
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Ricky
I was married for 14 years divorced and in another relationship for
almost 5 years. It ended when I found out about his new girlfriend.
I understand they are getting married. Like you I am good at a
relationship but I never learned how to date. I don't know how to
flirt. I have been single and alone for two yearts now. It is not
the end od the world. I actually have moments of true happiness. I
used to say I wouldn't want a man who didn't want me. Then it
happened I love love loved him and he didn't want me. My body
really did crave him. I would lie in bed missing everything about
him. His kisses his touch his smell but he didn't want me. Ge
wanted her. I was afraid I never would meet anyone. Thati would
become old and bitter. That I would dry up and wither away. I
haven't and you won't either. Will it be easy. No. Will it hurt
will you cry? Yes. Buy you won't die and at some point you will
wake up and discover you have a life and you ae doing pretty damn
well thank you very much. Look at the when your lover is a liar
thread. Get the book and tell yourself you wouldn't have a man thay
didn't want you

Bitsy

June 5, 2010
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Have
you met yourself? How is your relationship and your love of
yourself? Stay strong within you and your fears will wash away.
Stay afraid and those same fears will hinder your life from living
happily and healthy.

June 8, 2010
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I am
starting over at 43 I thought the same thing at first then I
started to realize that there are people out there who would like
to be with me I just needed to take better care of myself and stop
putting myself down.I think about my good qualities not
bad.

June 8, 2010
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Mugsie is right.

When it is all
said and done, the only person we really have is ourself. It is
time for you to begin a relationship with yourself, time to heal
her and take care of her.

It's time to focus
on you. Once you begin to construct your life as full around you,
things will change, and you'd be surprised what that leads
to.

I have spent the
last several months doing the same thing, healing me. Now I am
finding many men becoming interested in me, but I couldn't give a
crap. I spent my life investing in my partners, pouring all my love
and energy into these men, only to find myself alone. Now I don't
care whether I ever have another one. I never even think about it
lately. Instead I spend my time remodeling me, rehabbing the me
into the person I want to be.

Its true, my
divorce is not final either, but I have been seperated for 9 months
and have NO DESIRE to date anyone other than me. Outside of my
friends, she is all I really need. Men are just not something I am
ready to handle-so needy, so demending, so time consuming, and in
the end I always end up in the debt column, so what's the
point?

I think of this as
my selfish phase, its all about me! (I have to warn you though,
some men find this attitude quite intriguing-that challenge thing-)
Good Luck.

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