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moving and no stable job....feel panicky
June 28, 2007
3:29 am
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Dear friends,

I have to move out of my home of 10 years due to divorce and my children are all out of high school. I am a substitute teacher and although I can work every day of the school year, I am afraid and fearful that I'm not going to make it. Also I have no place to go and my ex-husband ruin my credit. Just trying not to freak out and live one day at a time, seeing a counselor, but i am still anxious, frustrated, and scared. Any suggestions?

June 28, 2007
7:41 am
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Hi collie, I'm sorry that you are going through this. First, know that you are not alone. Second, what are your options? Can you move in with a friend till you get off your feet? A relative? Can you save up a little money before you have to take on a big financial commitment? Can you take a second job? Do you have a church or place where you can worship and pray about your situation? Divorce is hard, I'm starting to realize. I'm dating a divorced guy. And he goes through a lot of emotions, anger, financial stress. Try to surround yourself with friends and people that will uplift you. You will be wonderful. it is only natural that you are stressed. I'll be thinking of you. HP

June 28, 2007
7:47 am
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Hi collielover,

Hey! I love collies too. One of my fondest childhood memories was when I would sit with my grandmother and watch Lassie (by the way, my grandmother was from Italy and could not speak a word of english). To this day, if I see an episode on cable, I will be glued to the television set.

Anyway, back to your situation. I could understand why you are feeling anxious. You are definitely in a stressful situation. YOu have to move (a stressful thing for anyone to go through) and you are going through the stress of the dissolution of your marriage (another stressor). ANd to top it off, you do not feel financial comfortable (as your exh ruined your credit).

Yes, you are going through stressful times, but there are things you could do.

In terms of your credit, you can rebuild poor credit. Apply for a credit card and begin making very small purchases. The key thing is to pay your bills on time (always). Never, ever submit a late payment. This will begin to improve your credit standing. It will take some time but it could happen.

In terms of your job, is there a way you can become a permanently assigned teacher? I know in my state (NY), a substitute teacher does not get any benefits and the salary is a small fraction of what a regular teacher gets. ANd besides, won't you feel more secure if you had a regular position to go to day after day?

In terms of where to go, can you stay with a friend or family member temporarily until you get on your feet? Are your children moving with you or are they on their own? If it is only you, can you perhaps, rent a room somewhere until you can save some money for a small apartment?

I am glad that you are seeing a counselor. Hopefully, he/she is providing you with much needed support and guidance. You have come to the right place in terms of posting a thread here. We are all here to listen and support as best we can.

I have been overwhelmed with the wise advice/comments/suggestions that I have received. Hopefully, you will feel the same.

SO we have some things in common. I love collies also and I am also a teacher. Oh, I am also going through a breakup even though my situation is quite a bit different than yours. But the pain is still the same.

Keep posting and we will keep listening. Good luck. YOu will get through this.

Sad Sack

June 28, 2007
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you could apply to your county for section 8 or HUD housing assistance become of your income level. This DOES usually involve a wait of some kind, tho if you are truly homeless, or about to become homeless, sometimes you get bumped to the top.

Do you have enough credentials to become a full time teacher?

could you apply as a full time aide?

if you get established in your own place, could you do daycare? sometimes that pays extremely well.

I wish I had more advice...stay positive and do the best you can.

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