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More of his crazymaking nightmare!
September 15, 2005
9:26 pm
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SO, my ex just wrote saying that he has already written twice about wanting to visit in early Oct. He has not, and would not have mentioned writing twice had he actually written at all, so I 'm annoyed as heck and driving myself crazy now that I know what he is doing, trying to make me look like i am withholding his daughter from him when he knows I am not. The worst is that he doesn't need my permission, it is within his legal rights...why does he always toy with me like this?! He even went so far as to say "if I don't hear back I am getting the tickets tommorow". Making his first mention of it into a scenarion where he must lay down rules if I don't cooperate...I loved him and this is something he can do to me, literally systematically tear me down! It drives me CRAZY!

September 15, 2005
9:34 pm
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EF,

I am sorry he is doing this to you. Did he write a text or email? I would write back and politely but firmly let him know that he did not write those first two letters, that he doesn't need permission to visit his daughter and that you will not tolerate this attitude. I think sometimes the crazy makers are themselves crazy and need "help" to snap out of it. If he can get the tickets and get to u without hearing from u, then why did he bother?

Don't let him get under your skin girl. You have a lot on your plate already as it is.

Hugs to you!!!

September 15, 2005
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Dear Exotic Flower,

I think "abusers" only do what they know they can get away with...and what WORKS. If he knows he can push your buttons with this stuff, he will keep on doing it. If you tune him out and don't give him the reaction he is looking for, he will back off. Maybe you could try that?

Just hoping to come up with something that might help you.

September 15, 2005
10:09 pm
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Yeah, he is really just trying to get a rise out of me, it's why I came here to vent it out first. I said directly that I have absolutely recieved no such letter, but have no legal sayso whatsoever in his visiting and always welcome effort to spend time with his daughter. Ice Queen, ala kc30. He was trying to make me defend myself, that is his way of controling me, but I did nothing wrong and refused to engage in abusive behavior. Yippie, me!

thanks for the support, always helps. As does writing it out here to reference back when he starts changing history to make me doubt myself, here I have it all documented for my own sanity!

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