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More nightmares Please help
March 15, 2006
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I had another nightmare last night. I remember wandering around the hospital for some reason. Then I went into this room this person had given me tylonal or so I thought for a headache then my vision started to blur then the person raped me. I went running around the hospital looking for help only to see that everyones faces was turnning into the face that raped me. I woke up so terrified. Does anyone have any ideas on how to stop these terrible nightmares?

March 15, 2006
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How do you feel right before you go to sleep? Are you stressed out? Do think about bad things that have happened to you? I don't really know how to answer this, but maybe listen to soothing music before going to sleep. Relax. Meditate. I wish I could help.

March 16, 2006
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So sorry to hear you had another night "terror". I have had them for about 10 years and find that the more stress I am under the worse and more frequent they are. One of my counselors was a specialist in EMDR I can't remember what it stood for but it was very helpful in a couple of ways (1)it helped me create a "safe haven" in my mind that I could go to before I went to sleep.(2)It replaces the helpless feelings that I felt while the abuse was happening by giving me a voice to express my anger at my father for the things he was doing to me.
Some of the other things I have learned over the years are; not to drink caffine after 5pm, if you have small children and they are awakened let them know that you are okay and that sometimes Mama has bad dreams so they won't be freightened, Remind your family that it is nothing personal towards them, and lastly make a feel good scrap book to look at after especially bad ones. My children are now 11, 9,and 8 and all know not to touch Mama while she is sleeping and know I have bad dreams and they are all very respectful and sweetly comfort me.

March 16, 2006
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thank you and wish me luck im going to try and sleep

March 16, 2006
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what do you all think of this dream?

March 16, 2006
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Im hoping tonight will be diffrent. Cause I am really tired of nightmares

March 17, 2006
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RW:

Honey.... have you spoken to your doctor about the nightmares? Counseling really seems like would be the best thing. You need to get the feelings up and out and deal w/ them.... then the nightmaare should stop.

I'm hoping you don't have any nightmares tonight also.

March 17, 2006
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Random,

Do you keep a journal? Sometimes it helps me to just sit down and write down whatever is on your mind. Your innermost thoughts to get them out. Maybe that way they won't be on your mind when you go to sleep.

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March 17, 2006
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the thing is that I will be fine before I sleep. I have been reading the Good book before I go to bed I found my favorite verse in there that realy brings me healing. I am trying so hard to feel better thank you all for your support

March 17, 2006
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Do you think maybe you are trying so hard to not have the nightmares that it might be triggering them? Just a thought. šŸ™‚

March 17, 2006
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I dont know

March 18, 2006
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I am just so scared to sleep anymore

March 18, 2006
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Please you need to talk to your doctor about this and be referred to a counselor. The dreams are not gonna stop and you are gonna develop a phobia to sleeping if you let this keep going. Actually, you'll start having them during the day when you are awake if you don't stop this now. This is what has happened to Jigsaw.... she didn't tell she was having the dreams and then started having them during the day and and and...... Please RW... Call your doctor tomorrow or first thing on Monday. I'll be here a bit if you want to talk.

March 18, 2006
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I started seeing a counsler today shes a lady from my church actualy its through my church anny way she sees me for free and we are starting the book called the "wounded heart" Hope for victims of childhood sexual abuse. I will see her once a week.

March 18, 2006
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RW:

That's great... May I ask if she is versed in dealing w/ severe childhood sexual and mental abuse? To be perfectly honest... I think you need to see someone whose specialty is on this type subject. If she is just a lay person who has taken a course or two then she may not be equipped to handle what may come. I just want you to have the help you need and in the quickest fashion possible. I care.

March 18, 2006
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she and her husband have delt with this issue before I dont know if she has delt with it as sever as mine but its nice to have someone to talk to. She told me that if I feel that I need it there is a counseling service though our church called pastoral care and sometimes the church benevolince fund would pay for it. But I think for now I will stick with her until I feel other wise. I am going to try and get active in the church and maybe that will help me too

March 18, 2006
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RW:

I'm so glad you are finding the help you need. I'm also glad you and she spoke about the severity of your abuse and that there are other options available to you. I see prayer bein answered. Do get started in church. I think that will be good for you also.

I have to sign off for the night now. (hubby's home). Take care and if you do have a nightmare do the steps you know to do for now. I'll be remembering you too. šŸ™‚

March 18, 2006
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thank you and goodnight. by the way neshema says hi

March 18, 2006
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The "Wounded Heart" is a wonderful book, Random. I've read it myself, as it was recommended to me by someone from my church. I really believe you are on the healing path. I'm so sorry about the nightmares. I would only suggest you tell your doctor about them.

March 18, 2006
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I had no nightmares lastnight !!!!

March 18, 2006
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Oh, Random, that must feel WONDERFUL!!! I remember my first night without nightmares. LOL. I was having horrible ones, but for me it was because I was reading and watching a lot of horror, true crime, mystery stuff. I started reading all Christian books, and my nightmares stopped. Duh!!!

March 18, 2006
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WOW that is totally fantastic. A true blessing to you. The power of prayer I would say. I to believe you are finally on the road to healing. There will be stumbling blocks along the way so do remember to get back up, brush yourself off, and keep movin forward and don't look back. I am so happy for you. šŸ™‚

March 18, 2006
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I've had nightmares off and on my whole life. As a child I had the same nightmare for 6-7 years. It lessened as I got older. I'd had a couple of therapists tell me over the years that I was supressing some terrible memory. I never believed them. Then last summer, out of the blue, old memories started coming back to me. It was true, I'd suffered a terrible trauma. A great book to read is Healing the Tiger by Peter Levine. Also, it helps to have a therapist who specializes in trauma. Recently, I had a TERRIBLE nightmare that I'd had as a child. It was so bad I had to keep all the lights on and for days after I was afraid to go to sleep. This same thing happened when I was 12...and I didn't sleep well for nearly a month. At first when I had the nightmare again a few weeks ago I thought: I can't do this without my therapist present. But as the days wore on, I decided to invite the nightmare back, to face it, to tell myself that whatever is the cause I have the strength to face it. But I've done A LOT of work and had much help in the past 9 months from true experts so I've developed some skills and means of addressing and facing the kinds of terror about which you write. My advise: get help...the nightmares might go away temporarily but eventually they'll come back until the underlying issues are addressed. Hope it helps to know someone else has been there...you can get relief, but in my experience, not true relief until you get to the core of what subconsciously is causing the terror.

March 18, 2006
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Im working on it

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