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more mom problems
March 16, 2006
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thumkin
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I am in my thirties. I am co-dependent. I have been divorced twice. I am in a relationship right now. I do not talk to my mother about that relationship because she thinks I do not need to be in it. I cannot hardly even talk to her anymore because she is so judgemental and then tells me it is because she loves me. Everything I do disappoints her and I am so tired of trying to live my life to please others. I know that premarital sex is wrong, she has big issues with that. She thinks I deserve better than my boyfriend whom she has only met for a very few minutes two times. She almost completely ignored him both times which really hurt me. I know he is not perfect, has some problems, but I also know I have grown while I am with him. He does not let me answer him with I dont know when there is something wrong with me. In the past I always pretended I was fine or said I didnt know what was wrong. With my b/f I am learning to communicate how I feel, what I need. That cannot be all bad right. Anyhow if you have followed this far my problem is I really want things to be better between my mother and me but some days I just want to get as far away from her as possible. I dont know how to deal with it and I cannot talk to her. It is like she turns things around that I say or feel to make it all my fault and like I am a bad person. Then she tells me I have low self esteem and I deserve better. She needs to make up her mind and decide if I am a bad person or not. She tells me Im not then tells me everything I do is bad. I feel like I am twelve years old. Any advice?

March 16, 2006
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I have a very controlling mother that is very hurtful with her words.I have told her that she must respect me I am a person with feelings. I confront her and I do'nt woorry about hurting her feelings anymore I to am in my 30's an I say it's about time I put my foot down I even went as far as writting her how she hurt me over the years.Why because I let her Do'nt live to please people it is such a freedom when you stop I to felt like running far but face it take a stand for yourself you deserve to be happy.my mom has always showed rudeness to people I have in my life an nothing would ever be good enough .There are no bad people only wounded souls and broken hearts and scrambled minds that are set by what people say or think about us.Life is a gift you deserve to laugh love dream an be you. God bless you say a prayer that you'r mom changes her heart .

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