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More foolishness has gone down... and I nearly called him to say "we're through"
April 8, 2005
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ok so he called from his bar scene tonight--first of all was surprised to find me home. Stuttered, didn't know what to say.... my guess is that he was going to leave some romantic message. Keep in mind that I am very angry right now.

So, while I was on the phone with him he moved outside to hear me better. Then I hear him say, "Wow. heh heh." I said "what is it?" he says, "oh it's just that this group of women just walked by, and... blah... blah..." Then he started saying that they had just surprised him. I think it's a lie. I think he was just drunk and just let out what his mind was saying, "WOW"... so rude again to me.

I honestly am confused. He does all the romantic things, gave me a ring,... does that seem strange after dating two and a half months? when we hung up, he told me he loved me, etc. But, I'm beginning to think all the stuff he's said and done is bull crap.

He does these thigns, but then I could swear he looks and tonight, his expression was one of manly appreiation. Anyway, I'lm feeling like an old wet rag and he's still in the bar having a great time.

I just want to spoil it for him by breaking up with him. but I will wait until I'm not angry and simply tell him, "Look I'm seeing a bunch of red flags here. If we can't get something worked out then I think i need to step back from all this. And by the way here's your ring back. I think giving me a ring is way too soon. I think you need to think really long and hard about what this means to you. It just doesn't seem to me like you're ready to be that involved."

April 9, 2005
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hi artist, So you are engaged? If you are engaged after 2.5 months that is pretty quickly for me.

Do you want to break it off? Are you ready for this?

April 9, 2005
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He is in the bar, and you are at home. That just doesn't sound right to me. I just don't think this guy is right for you, especially since you have been having so many doubts so early on. Why rust things. I told a friend who ran off to Vegas and got married right away not to do it because marriage is FOREVER and that she didn't know what she was getting into. Well, now she is divorced and she realized that she had made a huge mistake. I don't want that to happen to you. One night at home while he is out at the bar could turn into more, this guy doesn't sound like a family man if you know what i mean, he sounds like a college boy just wanting to have a good time. Well I posted on your other thread also. U will be in my prayers.

April 9, 2005
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It may or may not be innocent "flirting" or "looking" on his part. If you were in a better place for a relationship yourself, that would be an issue to resolve. But its actually seeming that the more pressing issue is within you. Not trusting him and not comfortable with whats going on. Is this the guy you were posting about being in love with right away? Its just so fast I think it caught you in a whirlwind of emotions the relationship is just to new to be able to handle. does that make sense? but I know love is not controllable. and I also know...once you do love, its so hard to back down to a more casual level. If your still at a point you can back off, considering your feelings of mistrust etc, I think you should. Maybe after you've stepped back some you will get a new perspective and maybe be able to try again alittle slower.

April 9, 2005
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Good Morning GodsGirl,

I read all your posts. Yeah, I'm thinking more and more that as compatible as we seem when we are together, I think in his heart, is is still living in college world. He is a loving person, but I don't know about being a responsible role model. He always talks about his father and what a good man he is and how he brought him up with morals. yes, our values are similar, but this drinking/bar thing disturbs me.

WoudedSpirit,

Thanks for chiming in. I think you're right--that I need to step back and get perspective. With all the love letters and things he does for me, it is a bit overwhelming. I could stand to get either perspective, or just see him for who he really is. I did not like what I saw last night, and they say drinking brings out the real person beause you defense mehanisms are down.

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