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Mood Swings
May 26, 2005
11:21 am
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jastypes
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I was doing so well. Just got off the phone with my husband who is supposed to be cleaning the house before the visit from Children & Youth this afternoon. Our house gets really dirty, really fast, and usually it's only me cleaning up. I need to train the kids, but I've haven't figured out quite how to do that consistently. Anyway, he's feeling "lazy" so he'll start cleaning at noon. Luckily I was able to put off our case worker from today to tomorrow, but I'm frustrated because Mark is home on disability now, so he's home all day, and instead of cleaning a little bit every day, he's let it get really bad again. Of course when I get annoyed with him, he turns it back to me because I was supposed to train the children and everybody is supposed to be cleaning up after themselves. Of course, he's right. But I'm sitting here feeling stressed and sorry for myself.

Do you know how hard it is to work full-time and part-time and have a husband who is a non-active yet non-recovering addict, and train 3 teenagers, and 1 pre-teen, and take care of doctor appointments, dentist appointments, keep the house clean, participate in ministries, exercise, etc. etc. etc.

I'll be fine in a little while. I just needed to whine.

May 26, 2005
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oh jastypes, I"m sorry you dont have the support you need at home. I know it must be hard for you. I"m not sure of the situation about the home social worker coming, but had that not been involved I would have suggested going on strike at home and not doing anything eithier lol... I would put some heavy feet down with the kids and start taking things away, I used to throw in the trash anything I found on the floor "anything" lol.. husband is another story. my thoughts are with you.

May 26, 2005
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hey hun my situation is a little diffrent but my husband wont lift a finger around here either our kids are 1 1/2 and almost 3 i am starting to teach them to put away there toys. Unfortunatly when i grew up i did all the house work. So i am trying realy hard not to be like that cause I had no friends time so try not to load it on them all at once

May 26, 2005
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Codep,

that's funny that you say that.

My best friend does the same thing to her step children.

After YEARS of them taking advantage, she now gives them one chance....pick it up or else. They have found if they don't take that one chance, they can look for their stuff in the trash. Clothes, shoes, mail...whatever....

You go girl.....

May 26, 2005
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jastypes, I saw a commercial once - it went like this: How much does the world weigh? and it showed Atlas with the world on his back. The next frame answered with: Ask a single mom! I know that you have a husband, but I'll bet it feels like you're a single mom with the weight of the world on your shoulders! You can vent anytime you want - you've definately earned that right. BTW, I have a 7, 6, and 3 year old, and hard as I try to train them to pick up after themselves, it's just EASIER to do it for them. I'm working on that too - codep has the right idea! Bests, ~saralynn

May 26, 2005
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You go girls- Saralynn, you said a mouthful.

Jastypes I know just what you are saying. Whenever I ask my husband to do anything around the house, his stock reply is, "No, it's not my job."

He works outside the home. I stay at home, run his company, run my own property rental business, care for my Alzheimer's Mom and chase after our 4 dogs who have passed the training stage and now require a whip and a chair. He works an average of 14 days a month. I work every-bleeding-day!

The other day he asked me why I don't do all the little things I used to do when we were dating and first married. With a straight face, I answered him, "That's not MY JOB!"

Ah....paybacks are hell!

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