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Mom Venting
June 28, 2009
10:34 am
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honey1111
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My mother believes the whole world should revolve around her.

But I have children so it can't. I am there
as much as I can be but sometimes I can't be there.

She is so sad she is always bringing me down.
I love her but tired of taking care of her,it feel like I have always taking care of her.

Thanks for letting me vent.

June 28, 2009
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honey, maybe its time to set some boundaries for yourself. Yes, you can still love and help your mom, but only if you have time and if its ok with you.

Boundary setting is all part of becoming healthier.

June 28, 2009
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Is she well? Do you have other siblings? I agree with Camer, set boundaries and let her take care of herself. As soon as she realizes you are not falling into the guilt trap anymore, she will find another one to take care of her.

June 28, 2009
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The natural order of things is for the parent to take care of the child, not for the child to take care of the parent (emotionally ever) unless the parent is physically incapable of taking care of themselves. I keep saying that Love Thy Neighbor as Thyself means you have to love yourself first. What would the world be like if we treated other people the way some of us treat ourselves?

Bitsy

June 28, 2009
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Vent away Ms. Honey.

June 29, 2009
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It feels good to vent.

Just remember, you come first. Your children should come first. Your mother is dependent on you.

My therapist said, to practice the word "NO"

It's very hard because I'm a "YES" person.

You can still have a loving relationship with your mom, without always being there physically.

I wish I had a relationship with my mom, but it's too unhealthy for me.

Good luck in putting yourself 1st! ((((HUGS)))))

June 29, 2009
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Your mom probably gotten to use to you being around and likes the company. Have you tried telling her how you feel? Hugs

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