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Mishy? What's up honeybunch?
December 30, 2005
11:27 am
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gettingthere,
I used to feel exactly as you are describing!

I don't know how old you are. I am 44 now and don't really care as much now what others might think of me. I am just going to me anyway.

When I was a child, I was convinced that all my classmates disliked me. I see now that it wasn't true at all and that I was actually rather well-liked.

I always felt "on the outside looking in." Somehow, with age (maturity maybe), reading and counseling, I don't feel like that very often anymore.

You can trust me in this: you do not get on my nerves!!!! I like you very much. If things were different and this was not an anonomous (sp?) board, I would seek you out as a friend. You are definitely someone I would want to know better and spend more time with.

Are you familar with the enneagram at all? It is tool for self discovery and personal growth. Try taking the test at http://www.9types.com/rheti/ho.....ctual.html
to find your type. Then read a little about yourself. I have a suspicion that you might be a "four." Of course I could be way off base.

Does this stuff sound like you at all:

The Romantic (the Four)
Romantics have sensitive feelings and are warm and perceptive.

How to Get Along with Me

Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me.
Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love and value myself.
Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision.
Though I don't always want to be cheered up when I'm feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.
Don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting!

What I Like About Being a Four

my ability to find meaning in life and to experience feeling at a deep level
my ability to establish warm connections with people
admiring what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life
my creativity, intuition, and sense of humor
being unique and being seen as unique by others
having aesthetic sensibilities
being able to easily pick up the feelings of people around me

What's Hard About Being a Four

experiencing dark moods of emptiness and despair
feelings of self-hatred and shame; believing I don't deserve to be loved
feeling guilty when I disappoint people
feeling hurt or attacked when someone misundertands me
expecting too much from myself and life
fearing being abandoned
obsessing over resentments
longing for what I don't have

Fours as Children Often

have active imaginations: play creatively alone or organize playmates in original games
are very sensitive
feel that they don't fit in
believe they are missing something that other people have
attach themselves to idealized teachers, heroes, artists, etc.
become antiauthoritarian or rebellious when criticized or not understood
feel lonely or abandoned (perhaps as a result of a death or their parents' divorce)

Fours as Parents

help their children become who they really are
support their children's creativity and originality
are good at helping their children get in touch with their feelings
are sometimes overly critical or overly protective
are usually very good with children if not too self-absorbed

December 30, 2005
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I think I found Hubby's trouble.

Can alcohol cause epilepsy?
A 'binge' on alcohol can cause a seizure, even in people who do not have epilepsy. Such seizures can be due to alcohol withdrawal, toxic effects of alcohol, too much fluid, metabolic changes in the body and vitamin or nutritional deficiencies. Studies suggest that alcohol withdrawal seizures usually happen 7-48 hours after reducing or stopping excessive or prolonged alcohol intake.
Some people who continue to drink large quantities of alcohol and who experience further seizures are quite likely to develop epilepsy as a result of this. Even if alcohol consumption is stopped altogether, the seizures may continue to happen unless anti-epileptic medication is introduced and seizure control gained.
(http://www.epilepsy.org.uk/inf.....cohol.html)

December 30, 2005
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WHOA MISHY - that's it.... start that book. I cannot believe what has happened in the last couple of days.

I agree with Lass - this may be God's way of slowing him down and slapping him into reality. Let's see what happens. He needs you, more than ever, so don't let him abuse you - you're the only one whom he has to depend on right now. Wow - the tables ALWAYS turn, don't they? That is SOME reaction that your kids had after finding out that thier dad had to stay in the hospital - that says a lot.

Hang in there, honey.

December 30, 2005
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mishy thank you so much for taking the time to write all that for me especially as things arnt easy for you i really appreciate it and what you have written is so me how did you see that in me,i am trying so hard to heal inside and you are right my biggest fear is abandonment i was adopted when i was six weeks old i think this may have something to do with it,my adoptive mum and dad were very strict and not much love and plenty of punishment thus why i went into abusive marriages ..................you have made me feel better thank you mishy for your kind words you are right i would of been nice to of been friends but this is nice here as every one is so kind hope you are ok ...............dont forget have been there too so if you need an ear or eye as that would be more appropriate ha ha dont forget .................gettingthere

December 30, 2005
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I am here reading with thoughts of everyone, but too tired to write much. Hubby is coming home tomorrow morning.

Shaney, Which thread has your latest news?

Gettingthere, no problem. It was a good guess. I just copied and pasted the stuff from the 9types.com website.

Peace to everyone,
Mishy

December 30, 2005
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Hi Mishy - that same old thread Shaney...in tears...

December 31, 2005
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Mishy,

My brother developed seizures after one alcoholic night. Of course, he also fell and hit his head when he passed out... so hard call. He had several grand mal seizures and was hospitalized. He has really never been quite the same since, following the head injury. More like personality disordered and angry. Not terribly able to cope with life stress.

LL

December 31, 2005
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Lass,
Oh geez! That is all I need. He is already disordered and angry all the time. Now, he'll probably be worse than ever.

I keep saying this might be his "wake-up call." Maybe it will be mine. Depending on how things progress, this just may be the "straw that breaks the camel's back." I may have to leave.

He is coming home this morning. My brother-in-law just left to pick him up. The official diagnosis is "seizure of unknown origin." Yeah right. I told the doctor about his drinking. Why can't the doc just call it what it is?

At first we were not sure if he fell and caused a concussion or had a seizure and then fell. Now it is pretty apparent that the seizure came first. There is no evidence of head trauma from the fall, just ankle trauma.

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