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Mishy - update on hubby's seizure and all
January 6, 2006
9:26 am
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Mishy2sons
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Well, it's official. He went for the follow-up doctor appointment yesterday and the diagnosis is alcohol induced epilepsy. A person cannot abuse alcohol for 35 or more years without suffering some health consequences. His lifestyle is catching up to him now.

Now, it just remains to be seen how much brain damage has already occurred and whether or not he will continue having seizures. Even when alcohol is given up, some people continue having the seizures. If he continues drinking, he will definitely get more and more severe seizures.

This one was bad enough. I talked to the neighbor who assisted him when he had the seizure. It was worse than I thought. Apparently, Hubby had wandered half way down the block in a semi-naked condition. We live in the mid-Atlantic and not in a warm temperate climate, so, there he was, outside, in the cold, with barely any clothes on.

I hate to think what could have happened if he got any farther from the ofice and neighborhood where he is known. He might have been an unidentified, unclothed body in the gutter.

As it is he sustained a broken ankle in the fall from the seizure and seems to have some memory impairment. He still seems to get confused very easily. He just isn't with it mentally.

I fear he may also be suffering from the beginning stages of alcoholic dementia, an Alzheimer's like condition.

One thing I am insisting on immediately is that we take our savings and establish trust funds for our children's college education. I don't want to see every penny we have being eaten up with Hubby's medical expenses and the children left with no futures.

Hubby is swearing to amend his ways, stop drinking etc. We shall see. He has refused to enter rehab or even attend AA meeting. His rage is worse than ever without the alcohol to calm him down. Life is he** right now.

January 6, 2006
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(((((mishy))))) I am sorry to hear of all the pain you are going through. What a horrible ordeal. I will keep you in my prayers. Stay strong, take care of yourself and your children, and know that the decision to heal himself lies in your husband's hands; you cannot make him change. I wish you peace.

January 6, 2006
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Mishy.....my prayers are with you and your entire family. I know the road ahead is going to be very difficult for all of you. Hopefully this horrible scare will really cause him to give up drinking and seek help for himself.

Make sure you take time for yourself thru all of this. You need to be kind to yourself right now, so you can remain strong for your children.

Much support and many hugs for you...

Snow

January 6, 2006
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Mishy,
Thanks for this thread, it gave me something to research. My mom has been having seizures, and her MRI and EEG came back good. We are unsure of what has been going on. I was unaware that there was such a thing as acoholic epilepsy. I was aware of the alcoholic dementia as my brother and sister's biological father has it. But- I did not know the term. His family says he has a "wet brain" and I kind of inferred that it was from the alcohol.

I am sorry what you are going through- I think you are right on about protecting your children. You are the one who can do it and I commend you for putting them first before his medical bills. He has brought this on himself, it is not the children's fault as I see you are aware.

I am proud of you for keeping a clear head through all of this!

Love and hugs
Mamabear

January 6, 2006
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I second everyone above, especially Mamabear!

Oh, Mishy! I hear your first concern for your kids... how very wise of you. You have an opportunity here to alter the course of your life, theirs, your husband's, your marriage. I suggest you do some really hard looking at your options, benefits / liabilities. Of course, you want to stand by someone ill, but if he does not begin to help himself, the gutter may be where he needs to go. You do him no favor protecting him from his bottom. Every drunk has to hit it to rise again, and do things differently. Stop cushioning his fall, just because the family is depending upon him. You are going to have to get out of the way, here, and let him face the music.

Love you especially, sweetheart. Lass (T)

January 6, 2006
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Ugh Mishy -

I'm very sorry that you, your family and your husband are experiencing such upset. That said, sometimes God answers our prayers by placing a big, red stop sign right in the middle of our lives. As much as I'm hoping that your h recovers from this condition, my biggest hope is that this is a big enough scare for him, to begin to change for his sake, and the for the health and happiness of his family. It's ironic that his life and well being has fallen right into the hands of the people he has been abusing all these years. The tables turn on a dime sometimes, with not warning. That should be a lesson to everyone - I know in reading your post, it's sure a reminder to me how every thought and every move I make matters.

Lass has a good point. It's one thing to be there to support someone, and it's another to enable them, and to keep them from helping themselves. In my opinion, this awful thing has happened for a reason... and he needs to learn with that reason is.

You've got your work cut out for you, my friend. Don't hesitate to ask for any support, as you need it. Take care Mishy.

January 7, 2006
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Thanks everyone!

January 7, 2006
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(((Mishy))),

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Love,
Lolli

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