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Mental Problem and Need HELP desperately
August 8, 2012
12:32 am
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lilianluv
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My mum had a depression issue when she was young. She couldn't take any pressure or people scold her or else she will be not able to sleep. She is the person that keep in heart and will not let it go. When I was small, I did heard her many times talking to herself but when I confront her, she will say she did not did that. I had to talk to her what makes you into this? And she will always say the same answer, it was my grandmother that put too much pressure on her. I had to agree that my grandmother did give her a hard times and I do hate her for that but since she already passed away for many years yet she couldn't able to forget how she treat her previously. This had turn her to not able to work because she couldn't stand people scold her or gossip her. Then she will talk to herself and start singing in the working place. People started to call her crazy and therefore my dad don't allow her to work any more. She could easily done something that beyond your expectation that terrified us as I still remember there is once she took out a knife from the house and went to the aerobic class outside in the court to ask them lowering the volume by pointing the knife to them. I was worried but luckily nothing serious happen as we did manage to persuade her. Since I know she couldn't handle any pressure, I did not give her any pressure at all but how I manage to block pressure from the outside society?

My brother on the other hand, since small couldn't speak because his mind will be remain as a kid EQ as what the doctor say. So he could only play game. Sometimes he will shows his temper to us but I simply ignored it because I understand the fact is he could not understand. He don't even know what is money and what is the purpose of it. He don't know how the world around him. But my mum constantly crying when my brother throw his tempers at us because she will say her son scolded her. I did explain to my brother not to show temper on our mother but he couldn't get it. When I explain to my mother that he is not capable to understand that is why we need to be considerate on him but still she could not accept it. How to make my mother feel better? And how to make my brother understand? And how to make my dad understand that he should not raise voice over my mother since she had an issue already. I know my dad will get tension over this problem but raising voice could make matter worst. I simply tired and do not know what to do?

August 23, 2012
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August 24, 2012
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lilian,
I am so sorry for not seeing your post sooner. I was terribly busy. Not only can I identify specifically with your problems and the troubles in your family, but I can really feel from the way you posted that you are in tremendous pain about the situation in your family. The fact that you are so concerned with your Mother & brother is precious. It shows that you guys have a great family even though there are some difficult problems. What happened with your Mother & her Mother is very sad. It seems that your Mom cannot deal with the average amount of stress in our world, but I suspect that she is still a rather wonderful person. As for your brother he has inherited her issues & it appears that your father does not understand his involvement in making matters worse. You however seem to be standing on the outside and are very good at being objective about the situation which I commend you highly for being able to do since you live right in the middle of all this trouble. It is not up to you to fix the problems, but you should try to go and see a therapist or social worker so that you can learn to cope with it. Maybe the therapist will offer advice as to how to calm down your father and brother without getting yourself in the middle of it. Most people in your situation would simply try to get away and live apart from this chaos so I really respect how much you care and want to help your family. I hope your Mom learns to cope a little better with the stress, perhaps with the help of medicine. I hope your brother can find a way to live a fuller life as well. Please write back & let me know how you are doing.

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August 26, 2012
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Heidi aka site coordinator aka chelonia mydas is still posting as onedaythiswillpass.

August 26, 2012
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One Day is One Day. If you guys don't stop, I am going to leave you my real name & phone #. I should not have to do that. Please Stop.

September 1, 2012
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I hope all is well with you today and know that we are all here to support you.

September 26, 2012
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It might be best to consult a counselor/therapist regarding the condition of your mother. She maybe suffering from chronic depression and anxiety or any mental disorder which she may not be aware. Get some professional help so that you will know what to do and how you can help your mother recover. Also, she will be given proper treatment and advice on how to deal with her condition. You'll get through this soon, just be strong.

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