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February 13, 2004
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MEC: Hey I wrote to you in Help please

February 13, 2004
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Hey,

Sorry had a conference call had to attend to. I will look to see what you wrote.

Are you doing okay? Are you going on your date tonight? Anxious?

February 13, 2004
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Im kinda anxious, cause I do like him, he's nice, I just know that I also have to PICK STUPID up tomorrow and so that I think also is making me anxious.

February 13, 2004
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I am sure that if it goes well, you may forget about STUPID tomorrow or not feel so guilty about not picking him up.

Are you going to get him a gift or flowers?

February 13, 2004
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I think you and I are the only ones out here during the day ... or ones of the few ones ...

I really hope Zinnie is not mad at me b/c she hasn't written in a while. I hope she's okay.

February 13, 2004
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I hope you have a really good time on your date tonight Aces!! and remember even if this guy is not the one for you, there is someone else out there waiting for you that's better. (I know...)

Anyways, make sure to tell me how your date goes and I am so anxious to know whether you will go pick stupid up and how he acts.

I hope I have a good time today too. Ali has been really nice and attentive today and called me a number of times already. So, it's cool.

February 13, 2004
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MEC: Yeah I think we are the only ones at least the only ones talking, I hope Zinnie isn't mad at me either, I think the date will go fine, and you will have a blast tonight, and yes I will pick stupid up because there is a huge part of me that wants to see him even though he is mean. But tonight will be good for both of us it better, so what else are you guys going to do besides go dancing? Dinner? then you are leaving him tomorrow you will miss him I bet. AND NO I AM NOT getting him anything

February 13, 2004
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We are going to an armenian/lebanese restaurant and the cover charge includes dinner and live music. They also have belly dancing there and stuff too so that should be fun. He has to work. Actually, he starts work at 4 and will be working until 10 when I go meet him at his work so that we can go to the place together and then drive home in one car and we'll pick the other car up tomorrow after breakfast. But, once we get there, it should be fun. I know I will miss him, especially if we have a really wonderful time together tonight. I just hope he misses me too. A part of me still keeps wondering whether he is being so overly nice b/c he wants something even if it just to get back at me for what I did to him? You think?

Why would Zinnie be mad at you?

February 13, 2004
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I think Zinnie would be mad, cause she gives out the best advice and most of us don't take it,,,, I think that he will miss you, and only you can tell if he has ulterior motives for what he is doing. But most people aren't that great of actors especially around people that know them, so I would think that you would be able to tell. Maybe he realized how much he cared about you, I don't know, do you think you could just come right out and ask him?

February 13, 2004
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Insecurity and low self-esteem ... i still have to work on that ...

Did I tell you already that the mysterious package from my mom was a V-day gift?

February 13, 2004
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No, I definately don't want to put myself in that position. I had someone tell me once that you should never ask questions where you want a certain answer but have doubt that you may get it. I think I would rather wait.

I wrote him a card yesterday and in it I told him that I am really freaked out that he is just doing x b/c of y, etc. I wondered if he would read it b/c he is traumatized by the cards he found before over Christmas to the other guy. But, last night in the evening, I went to borrow his car for some work at my house and I saw that he had already opened (and hopefully read) it! That made me smile.

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Yes you did, what did you think it would be? I didn't catch that part,,, what do you think Pancho will get you for V-Day? I hope this weekend goes well

February 13, 2004
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When I was trashing his place, I also saw that he had kept in his agenda all the other cards I gave him before from the beginning. He told me that he had thrown them out over Christmas when he found the other ones to the other guy. But, I saw them. They were all there. He didn't throw them out, he lied about that. Somehow, I'm not sure why, but, that made me feel good also.

February 13, 2004
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WELLL yeah because it shows that he cares a lot more than he is letting on, and that probably scares him you know, I would only lie about something like that if I thought the other person didnt care as much as me

February 13, 2004
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I still have some clothes and other items at my mom's house. Since I go up there about once a month for a weekend, I like to keep clothes there instead of packing and repacking each time. So, I imagined she had packed up all my stuff and mailed it to me. Funny, huh?

I'm sure Pancho will get me something small like flowers or something and maybe some jewelry. Those seem to be the trends with him. I hope he doesn't over do it though b/c I know he doesn't have money right now and I really don't want him to invest so much in me.

By the way, it's kind of confusing with the 2 threads, should we just try to stick to this one when you and I talk about this stuff?

February 13, 2004
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Yeah lets do that I was thinking the same thing,,, we'll stick to this thread now, well thats good, I wouldnt think you're mom would do that, would you, I know though that when I get mad I tend to do rash things, then regret later, but I figured that's my personality, It is weird how much we do have in common, I think that this other guy Ray, he wanted to go out on V-day but I told him I would be out of town, because I thought that was nicer than saying I dont want to see you, I do like him he is just a little needy and that freaks me out like the calling three-four times a day when I said I would call him, I mean hello get a clue, take a break and simmer down, its kinda like there is no challenge so I dont really like stuff that I have wrapped around my finger does that make sense?

February 13, 2004
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ANyways Im Outta here for the day so I will see you on Monday online, have a great weekend, I might be in tomorrow to check some stuff before going to the airport but get online if you need to and have a great time, talk to you monday chica

February 13, 2004
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Sounds good. Have a nice weekend also!! I will keep you posted but make sure you do to b/c I am dying of curiosity and I really hope you don't end up going to the airport.

February 13, 2004
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February 13, 2004
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By the way as we were talking about Ali me getting something for V day and as I was thinking about flowers, I thought I would tell you the story about what happened on my birthday. It actually makes me smile when I think about it, but, maybe I am insensitive and wrong and should feel bad about it.

Anyhow, last Sept for my birthday, among other things, Ali planted some flowers in my back yard. He knows I like to sit outside and he said that whenever I am sad or whatever I can look at them and they will make me happy and I will also think about him, if he is not with me then. Well, almost since then, I never mowed the lawn in my house or cleaned my garden. So, the flowers got totally overgrown with weeds and stuff and then last weekend Pancho came to mow the lawn for me and he mowed the flowers down (I don't think he knew Ali had planted them). Ali saw and was really upset that I didn't appreciate the flowers he planted with his own bare hands. I told him that it was a stupid gift anyways, that he should have known better that I don't really have time to mow the lawn, rarely to clean my house, etc., how am I ever going to find the time to weed??? That is exactly why I only have lawn ...

Anyhow, when I thought of that it made me smile and I thought I would share it with you.

I was thinking about other gifts he had given me before and he got me jewelry and a plant before too. But, really, I don't expect to get anything from him. As long as he treats me right and I have a good time tonight that will be gift enough.

February 13, 2004
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I somehow missed your earlier comment re Ray. I think you are right that the reason you are not interested is b/c he gives you too much attention. I'm not sure what the best way to deal with that is though. I've never had that much attention from a guy I wasn't interested in before. But, most of them, I don't go out with people that I just sort of like. I either like them and then don't mind if they are needy, or, I don't like them and don't even really waste my time on the phone with them. Did Ray send you flowers to work? I had flowers sent to my work 3 times this year and I loved it. I wish someone would send me flowers to work ...but .. no one probably will. So, that's okay.

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MEC: So I went and picked him up at the airport, lets just say I wasn't the nicest to him, and he kept asking me what was wrong, then he has the nerve to ask me if I had gone out on any dates and when I told him no, he says well you can date whoever you want. what is that?? So then I dropped him off at his place and he said he was going to go in and take a shower and sleep but that he would call me later, so he called around 2 and woke me up I took a nap, and then went back to sleep and now its almost 7:30 and he is still sleeping and hasn't called so when he does I am not answering the phone, Im not going to be there at his beck and call, No way, and my date last night, SUCKED,,,, lets just say I did like the guy but he was kinda weird like he had to go to a fancy restaurant and then he complains cause of the wait cause he didnt make a reservation and then he tells me over dinner he has no job, so then after dinner I asked if I needed to help him pay and he said no, then we went for a drink, I didnt drink though and we talked but I just dont like him like that, didn't feel a thing for him, and infact I just wanted the date to be over, and I think I really need to be done with STUPID because he just makes me angry and then he thinks that I didn't sleep well because he wasn't here, I told him yeah right it had nothing to do with you slick, and he just has this ego that everything I do revolves around him, when in fact it doesn't I didnt even like having to pick him up. All the way back he told me about stupid cancun and blah blah blah I almost puked having to listen to him, BUT the funny thing was that he drank the water down there and got sick, I know I shouldnt find enjoyment in that but for some reason I really do, is that bad. So we shall see It's Valentines day and Im going to go home and eat, watch some lame lifetime movie and pass out, I had three offers to be taken out, and I DONT WANT TO,,, I am just not in the mood to have to be happy around people when Im not in the best of moods, and all because I had to deal with him and the thing that sucks the most is that I still like him, but I also know that Im not going to be there for someone when Im the only one giving and they dont give me anything in return, you know.

February 15, 2004
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Hey Aces,

Thanks for writing. It's 5 am here, I didn't end up going on my trip up north. I woke up early and was going to drop in on Ali but he is not picking up his phone so I decided to check this site instead. (I think (am pretty sure) he's sleeping b/c last night he went to the Bob Marley festival with some friends and since it was his b-day I'm sure he got drunk or something.) So, I'm glad you wrote because I was wondering what you did and how you spent your Valentine's Day. I'm sorry it wasn't the greatest for you, but, I know exactly how you feel not even wanting to go out with other people b/c you know that you will not have fun at all so you might as well stay home. I tried that a couple times too going out with other people, but, then I had a miserable time just like you did on your date and decided that maybe it's better not to waste my time by going out with people I won't like anyways (b/c of my state of mind). I hope you come on today and maybe have a better day.

In light of your day, I almost feel bad telling you about mine, but, mine was pretty good. Ali and I went out Friday night as planned. He left work a little earlier than we planned and we went dancing and had a pretty good time. It wasn't the greatest honestly b/c I was a little bored and didn't feel like dancing much (which is weird for me b/c I love dancing). But, overall it was okay. After that we went to his house and hung out. (He still wanted to go somewhere else after dancing but I was tired and just wanted to get some sleep.) Then I woke him up at like 4 am and we talked and laughed and had a good time. We went out to breakfast at like 6 and again had a good time until 7:30, when Carly (his ex-bitch) called to wish him a happy birthday. He didn't pick up but I was still pissed, like who the hell is she to call at 7:30 in the morning????? She left a message and I flipped out. I told him that I'm not putting up with that etc. I didn't really cause an argument or anything I just wasn't nice any more if you know what I mean. Anyhow, he let me listen to the message before he did, then erased it and told me he's not going to pick up her calls, not to worry. He wouldn't let me leave until I smiled and then when I got in the car he called me and told me that even if we don't talk he will call me and keep the phone on with me the whole day so that I know that he is not picking up her calls or calling her. (I thought that was kind of cute.) I didn't keep him on the phone all day just until I got home. He then called me like 2-3 more times before he went to his bob marley festival at 2:30 or so. SO, overall I was happy. He got me one red rose for valentine's day and a little stuffed puppy that looks like the real dog that he gave me and is really adorable. I told him I was going up north even though later I changed my mind and didn't tell him b/c I figured I would drop in on him at some point today or tomorrow to make sure he is behaving. But, actually, he's gotten a lot of my trust back. I hope I am not being too gullible.

The question I have for you is this (and I haven't read) your entire thread/story, but, does stupid ever treat you nice? Did he end up calling you? Did you pick up and do anything with him? and by the way did the guy you went out with yesterday get a clue that you were not interested in him? I hope he doesn't keep calling you 4 times a day. 🙂

Anyhow, fill me in!

February 16, 2004
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Hey Aces,

So, it's 4:30 in the morning Monday morning. I go to check my phone for missed calls/messages and there is a message from him. It's just music, romantic stuff, still, makes me happy he thought of me. He spent the day with his son yesterday and I spent it with Pancho.

I am having real separation anxiety I think. I was with Pancho for 3 years (our 3 year anniversary would have been on Feb. 28 of this year) and now he is getting ready to go to Phoenix and leave me permanently. Finally, yesterday, for the first time, we were able to talk like adults about him leaving and about us trying to stay friends afterwards. I am glad the moment finally came where he didn't tell me that once he will leave I will never hear from him again. I am really sad for having hurt him and for hurting him now and letting him leave. I know he wants to stay and wants me to ask him to stay and promise him that I will be good, etc., but, I just can't do that right now. I feel like I could ask him to stay but even if I promised to be good and even if I tried, I'm not sure I could really do it.

Yesterday I spent the whole day feeling a bit sad about that. Am I doing the right thing? Should I just stay with him? After all he is a good man?

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MEC: so I guess we can Call Stupid by his name now, Ron, and we talked sat. night, but we fought, because he was upset about me going out, he didn't think I went out with my friend Josh he thought I had a date. So then I didn't talk to him most of sunday either since he is sicker than a dog, he has a really bad chest cold, and sounds terrible. I talked to him Sun. night and ended up going over there, I took him some cough medicine, and went over, we had kinda a conversation and I told him if I annoyed him so much and made him so angry than why would he even want to still talk to me. He didn't answer and than I asked him if he could walk away from this and he said if he had to and I asked him if he felt he had to and he said he didnt know. So Im still confused. I think I am going to talk to him today and say to him that I want us to try and be nice to each other and see how that works. We rarely are nice to eachother. SO tell me the whole story on Pancho? You use to date him, and then you guys broke up? Why did you break up? And if you had to choose right now between Pancho and Ali who would you choose? I think you like Pancho there cause he is your fall back guy kinda you know. Like you know that you won't have to worry about being alone because you will have him there? Anyways, Im sorry I wasnt online yesterday, I didnt come into work and I dont have internet at my place cause Im never there that much. Oh and new guy called and asked to make me dinner sun. night, I told him NO

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