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Married to a cop and I hate it....
November 3, 2000
7:52 pm
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Hi, I also have another thread , i figured I could get more response on that one...
My husband is working for a big police agency . He is on a special team where they mainly deal with drugs...
His job is very stressful for both him and me.
The department is totally playing with these guys minds. They want them to be close which is good but it is also coming in the middle of our lives.
Any guy who is a cop has to be a little crazy to get in this type of work.
They are married to their work more than to their wives.
The department doesn't care for one minute about these guys' families... As long as the job is done that's all they care about. They should worry about their officers and wether or not they are happy. but no they don't care.
No wonder 82%of cops end up getting a divorce.
These guys are more loyal to a department that doesn't care wheter they live or die than about their families who love them.
As you can see i'm very frustruated.
Help.
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November 3, 2000
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Does your husband know how you feel, and what this is doing to your marriage? If he does, then I'm afraid to say it but it's his responsibility to speak up and possibly make some changes in his job. Many people demonstrate a great deal of dedication to their jobs and police officers are no exception. They are however in another class all their own. I almost became a police offiers wife but we knew our relationship wouldn't survive with the late hours, odd vacation schedules and most importantly the time apart. I hope things work out for you.
Good Luck!

November 4, 2000
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One other bad thing, is that the work its self is addicting, the endorphin rush, the power, the surrogot family, just like on TV, the partners are more important than the wife, because they go with this life and death pump up. I would suggest that you get into therapy with some one that specializes in working with families in law enforcement. Obviously you are not ever going to have the fantasy life of Ozzie and Harriet, it will be you and your kids and other officers wives, with the pay check and benifits,and the forever mood changing visiting spouse/dad. TV and Movies come from real life experience, I always told the girls they can marry any one but a cop, went out on a date with one twice, they are nuts, and all most as exciting as bad boys. Get some support. Good luck

November 4, 2000
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i wish *I* was addicted to my work!! (atleast a couple of months).

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