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Mamacinammon, you're wonderful
October 17, 2005
9:10 pm
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Thank you for your support. I'm a little better... as i slowly start to realize the traits in him I never appreciated anyway, but just chose to ignore, etc. I am still having a hard time but it's alittle better. I saw him for two hours on sunday, my idea..what a mistake. I had to take something to calm me down after that and i nerver did calm down. Not until I woke up this morning. I thought a nicer goodbye would be better but he just held me in his arms and said he was sorry he could no longer be with me.. so that was just toooooooo painful.. I recuperated today and I know that although I miss his comforting me.. it's much much worse later..
anyway, i wanted to thank you for writing back such amazing letters. I felt very comforted by you..it's not that easy to get comfort from a monitor and keyboard, but I really felt your warmth from wherever you are.. so thank you.. it made a difference for me.

October 17, 2005
9:17 pm
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Hats off MamaC!

October 17, 2005
9:39 pm
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I am so happy you are feeling better. Good for you for getting up and deciding he wasn't worth it. But, remember, he is just like any other bad habit. The urge to call him will come up; you will miss him; you'll what if things to death if you are not careful. But, like when the urge to smoke for me came up, you be strong. You find something else to do to replace that bad habit.

Also, wanted to reitterate the following: You really don't want to get into another relationship right now anyway. You must take the time to grieve the loss of this last relationship; you must have the time to find out who UnRay is, what UnRay likes and dislikes; you must take the time to heal UnRay; then and only then will you be able to find a new relationship that is healthy; not like the one you just left.

Try going thru Melodie Beattie's book Codependent No More. It is a great book to help you understand, learn, and start healing.

You can do it. I know you can; you just have to convince yourself you can.

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