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MamaC from Sew
February 22, 2005
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Really? wow thanks, this place is so special and I feel really blessed to have found this site......I feel everyone here sees what is gooing on and are there/here in support. We all help each other. It is amazing how what we write to others, many others read and may not even post back and yet they have been helped and touched. Thanks for the comment. It is really hard to know what to so or say, isn't it? Any comments or ideas are appreciated. Thanks SD, you are special to in all you do around here, trust me in that, ok?

February 23, 2005
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Hi Sew:

Hey, where is OMW tonight?

Sorry, had some computer problems. I am gonna post to Jigs and remind her I will be gone till 4p central time. I would like to let her know that I asked my friend, Sew, to stand by if she wanted to talk and that you will look in on the 00 of each hour like I do. ok?

Been quite a night. Also a teaching experience here. My daughter is aware of what is goin on w/ Jigs. She wouldn't go to bed tonight coz wanted to know what was goin on.

Think I already gave you the update on me medically and my daughter medically. Will be gone tomorrow to doc appts. all day. my daughter and the twins each have a separate appt w/ different docs too. Gonna be a long day.

Give me the ok and I'll give a post to Jigs and intro for you. Thanks.

February 23, 2005
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Sorry i was gone. Been posting on thread with WD.

Sorry about the family being sick. I want to say I think you did a marvelous job and given much of your time with stand by and helping this young child. You can write my name and perhaps ready, as she was on the thread already, and let jigs be introduced to us if you so desire. Let me go look in my Franklin and see what appoints, I have for tomarrow. BRB

I posted to WD as I trust his judgement as things are a bit crazy and changed around here for awhile. Perhaps he will have some input, guidelines or direction here. he has been on board far longer than I.

Now BRB...be right back

February 23, 2005
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Okay...I am available tommarrow. What do you want/need me to do?

February 23, 2005
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I am gonna remind Jigs that I will be gone, but my friend Sew will be here if she wants to talk during the day and that you will check to see if she is here on the 00 of every hour.

You available for that?

February 23, 2005
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Yes.

So you go on this site, say five minutes before each hour and stay on until like 5, 10, or 15 minutes after the hour, every hour on the hour?

What times again has she been on? Sorry for not looking thru the threads to find the times, getting tired here.

Still waiting for WD to respond for input.

February 23, 2005
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Thank you.

I go on about 5 till each hour and stay till 15 after each hour. She came on at 6:30 - 7:00 am cst the last two days.. Then 3:30 - 5:00 pm cst the last two evenings.

I really didn't expect to see her this evening. It was God that put me back on here. I was off for the night. To much opposition here. But God had other plans and there ya go.

Will be glad to see what WDs input is.

I'll go post to her now, coz I have already fallen asleep once on the thread. lol.

February 23, 2005
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Ok, post away.

Then PLEASE get some rest. Tomarrow is going to be a big day for you. You need to elevate those legs and rest your neck!

Good nite and sweetest of dreams. ((((hugs))))

Love and freindship,

Sew/C

February 23, 2005
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Thanks for standin in. I really don't know how far we should tell her to go... she was gettin terribly spooked tonight. Ask WD ok? unless you have an idea yourself.

Gonna get to bed. Later.

February 23, 2005
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OK Done. I'm goin on to bed or I'll be sleepin in this chair all night.

February 23, 2005
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Just wanted to say you ladies are doing a great job~

I didn't jump in to the little girl because I don't want to overwhelm her (and you're doing just fine by yourself)!

The fact that mom isn't acting on this is a little scary. The girl mentioned that he had done this to her mother- mom may not be ready to handle her own abuse let alone her daughters. Whatever you can do to get the ball rolling will be critical (as you know, I know). I know there's rules here but surely this takes priority.

Maybe you could suggest she talk to the parents of the friend she already told... or have her friend tell her parents for her. I don't know how much she'll give out before she clams up.

Anyway, good job- I'll try to follow this and see what the outcome is.

~Murphy

February 23, 2005
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Yes, I know she was getting scared about the state, wheere she lived. I thought it might be helpful in knowing what to do or who to contact, if that is even possible for a phone number for her.

I looked on our site Homepage under sexual abuse. The National child sexual abuse page did not come up or site not responding. Maybe I will look it up on web for further reference if needed.

It is hard for her to trust any one. Remember her saying: "do you think anyone can see what hapened " by looking at her? That spooked me to the harsh reality of sexually abused victims, body image and all that it emcompasses.

I wonder how she found our site? How did she know or what did she type in to find us? Very interesting. I googled in "codependency" to get here. I wonder how many links there are to get here? Not my issue, just wondering.

I am not sure what else we can do except to help her out until her mother gets her act together. We do not know what their life is like or what conditions they are in. No matter, what is important is that we can provide support to her, validate and believe in her and be there for her.

A victim needs validation of someone believing them. That is ultimate importance. How many people have been as abused children, told, then never believed? That does more harm than anything. We have at least given her the one important thing of value to her. At least some stranger out ther believed her! She will carry that memory with her forever! Hope mom gets it together for her!

I am tired and need to get away from here for abit,

You go nite nite, okay? Hope OMW does not have her hands full with her sons tonite?

February 23, 2005
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You're right about validation... and I think that's why mom isn't pulling this together. There's a very good chance mom was never validated... and even though it seems so logical to us it probably does not to her. It sounds like we have 2 victims, really. Since one is still not 11 something does have to be done.

There used to be a site coordinator here. If there is still one maybe they could offer some advise...?

I wondered about her finding this site as well. I found it through counseling -or something like that- on google.

Well, good nite for now--

February 23, 2005
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Thanks, Murphy123,

Interesting, we have 3 murphys here!

Anyway, good point. Yes, it seems after two days mom would step up faster and at least validate her own daughter. I just hope she does take some action before the weekend arrives and this little girl has to be sent to grandpa's house again. I think that would be quite traumatic. I am going to contact SC and also google some things for information, to al least be prepared. Thanks again for the ideas,

Sew

February 23, 2005
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MamaC, just wanted to let you know that you are wonderful and you are doing and saying exactly the right things. This really hits close to home because my own daughter was long term sexually abused by her father and she never told me or anyone. She didn't disclose the molestation until after she graduated from college. I wish that she had been able to talk to me or that she could have found someone like you to tell her to talk to her mom. Now I live with the guilt of not protecting her from the sick bastard that I made the father of my children. You have helped her, MamaC, and Lord willing she will come back and talk to you some more. God bless you, wonderful lady, and to all of the wonderful ladies that are helping her. Love, Bonita

February 23, 2005
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Good AM Sew:

Hope you got some good sleep last night.

February 23, 2005
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Well, out the door I go to a glorious day of doctors. Whoo hoo.

Give us a prayer please and thank you for talking to jigs.

Later,

February 23, 2005
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February 23, 2005
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This is the 'background"\; thread we have been using while talking.

February 23, 2005
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prayers going up, mamac...have a good day!

February 23, 2005
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No mamaC, I got no sleep, just not telling....when you get nome I am sleeping, my eyes are reallyy blurred. This is hard staying with you when she in on board and all am too. Not complaining, jsut afraid I am going to sllep befor you get home. We or I cannot keep this pace

We are going to have to make a 'work schedule' out if we are going to be vigilant the nex week. Just statin the facts, ma'am.

I am going off line and get something to eat and take the garbage out befor e the truck comes. If I am not here, fols when jigsasw somes onplease stay with her. Thanks,Sew

February 23, 2005
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bumping this up

February 23, 2005
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Sew: It's mamaC. I got access to a computer at the hospital. Just wanted to know how did it go this am?

February 23, 2005
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Sew:

Took the time to read the thread. I think it went well. Also read what the other 3 threads said. We have 2 appts done and are trying to get the 3rd bumped up so I can get home earlier.

Left a little note for her.

Will check in as soon as I can get home. Thank God they let me use the computer. I was goin nuts not knowing.

Will be here for a few.

February 23, 2005
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OK, Gotta go. Times up. The 3rd doc will not see us early so I guess it'll be close to 4pm central. Sorry. Want to relieve you as soon as I can. Hang in there. I owe you for this one. 🙂 PS Any word from Ren'ai?

Will be in touch as soon as I can get home. Till then am praying.

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