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Making myself accountable
December 31, 2005
2:18 pm
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One of the things that happens with New Year's "resolutions" is that you end up letting all good intentions "slip" or fall by the wayside as the year drags on.

And since I don't want to be in that spot - I have come up with a solution that will help me be accountable to my "action plan" that I call my "makeover".

And while this may sound childish and immature - I reason that sometimes you have to make it "that simple", so it works.

The first goal I have was to start journaling. But being the "perfectionist" that I am - my handwriting usually bothers me. So I figured that I would "treat" myself to some "pretty" computer paper - and type my journal out on the computer (I type faster too) and then put them in a pretty binder. And while I am at it - each entry will include a "letter to god" for which I pray and ask for what I need. Kills two birds with one stone and makes it more "real" than praying in my head or talking out loud.

The big part of my plan is a reward system.

I am going to make a list of all the actions I want to do daily to better my life. Things like drinking 8 glasses of water, taking my vitamins consistently, getting exercise, thinking positively, praying, journaling, etc.

And each "activity" done will get a quarter in the piggy bank. And each month, I get to empty my piggy bank - and spend it on myself as a reward - either new clothes, my hair done, my nails, candles, a new craft project, a movie or something for me.

The way I see it, if I just do FOUR of my goals a day, I will have $30.00 a month - which can get me a few new shirts, a pair of jeans, a haircut or some fun thing.

I may change the goals from a quarter to a dime - as I don't know if I can afford to "earn" more than a buck a day - and I have alot of new things I want to try and do each day...but I will revamp the plan before the weekend is over.

This plan was sparked by a "reward chart" I saw in a children's store, which rewards for things like taking care of oneself, taking care of pets, chores, homework and stuff and after so many "stickers" were accumulated, you "win" a prize as agreed upon with parents.

Maybe this sounds silly - but I think in some ways - I may need to reach back to my "inner child" type psyche to make this work - since it is my inner child who was taught that she doesn't deserve anything good in her life and she can't succeed at anything. I think I need to reteach "her" that she can. I also don't want to make it so hard she can't succeed.

I also plan on "collecting" the coins in a clear jar so I can see them accumulating each day - so I can learn to plan "long term" for something - which is another skill I lack.

What do you all think? Any other ideas for incentives? Any other ideas for making "resolutions" stick? And other ideas for an action plan that can work?

December 31, 2005
5:12 pm
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Ali,

I think that your plan sounds like a great idea. Whatever it takes to keep you motivated sounds like a good idea to me and I don't think it sounds immature at all.

It's very easy and very common, especially at this time of the year for us to make resolutions for the coming year. Not so easy to follow through.

Personally, I would really like to quit smoking. I know that it sounds morbid but I constantly have a feeling deep inside me that if I continue to smoke, I'm not going to be around much longer. My mother died at 48 years old and I am scared that I will suffer the same fate if I don't stop. BUT....everytime I've tried...I've failed and gone back to smoking.

Perhaps if I come up with my own "incentive" plan, I will be more successful.

Thanks for the good idea and good luck.

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Lolli

January 1, 2006
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Lolli,

A friend of mine quit - and she would take the money she would spend in cigarettes and put it in a jar - and make weekly deposits in a special savings account.

And the incentive was watching it add up.

She also went to the doctor and has some kind of xray or something done on her lungs - to show how black they were - and went back after a year - and had another one done - so that she could see the improvement. And there was improvement. Although, this is tricky, with insurance companies being how they are - but her doctor was able to find a "reason" to do it so it was covered.

Another friend of mine kept pictures of her kids on the cigarette pack - so she would be reminded of what she had to live for....perhaps keeping a picture of your mom - as a reminder of not wanting the same fate would work for you.

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