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Lying All The Time
October 3, 1999
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I have a 7 year old little girl that has been lying since she was 4 1/2. I can't handle it anymore. I have done all that I can think of. She doesn't get it from me or my boyfriend that I have lived with for 2 years. We will not tolerate it. WHY??? I don't understand. She is an only child at this point in time. She gets alot of attention and love. My boyfriend cherishes her like she is his. I don't know what to do. I have grounded her, threatened her (which I know is wrong), told her that liars never get anywhere in life, most liars are in prison, she won't have any friends. I don't know what to do anymore. If I could maybe find out why she is lying, than I could go from there. I think it is just to escape from getting in trouble. I don't know. I need help. I feel like I am raising a teenager already. And if she is doing it now she will never stop it will just get worse! I love her with all my heart and soul and would do anything for her but I need someone elses opinion at this point to help me this time.

October 3, 1999
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TW,

Hi, I used to be like her. I used to lie all the time and I would get caught to. It hurt to see the people I lie to get hurt because I have lied to them. Have you ever told her how much it hurts people when she lies. I can tell you it not easy to do this. My parents have struggled with it for years. Now I have learned and I am now a caring person for peoples needs. So, keep trying all you do. I will be praying for you.

God bless

October 3, 1999
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My nine year old son went through that phase when he was her age. It was hard. We began punishing for the lying instead of the offense. He has grown out of it a bit but still tends to tell tales to his friends. I think it has to do with low self esteem and his wanting to impress his friends. Kids are kids. As parents we do the best we can. There are counselors at schools that may be able to help you and your boyfriend cope. Please keep loving her unconditionally even though her actions aren't loveable. Hopefully by rewarding the truthful behavior and not the lying she will figure it out. And want to be truthful. Also a background with a church of some kind is helpful in teaching values and morals. Good luck to you and your boyfriend.

October 4, 1999
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Thank you for bringing up the church. When I think about it she was fine when I had her in a Christian Academy School. She lost all her morals when I put her in public school. Need to do a change before it is too late. Thanks again to all that replied. I love this website. It has helped me in alot of different areas in my life.

October 4, 1999
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TW,

KThomas is right.... love her unconditionally! Let her know that you do love her with all of your heart but you do not like her actions and they can not be tolerated. This will cause many problems for her later on in life not to mention cause you pain. Do you ever smack her butt? I know most people do not believe in smacking there child but sometimes children just can not be reasoned with. They will test you to see how rebellious you will let or allow them to be.
Take away the things that she likes the most... Watching TV, playing with friends, sports she might be involved in... try and schedule some more family time,
maybe just you and her... she might be struggling to gain more attention from you. I don't mean to ask questions that are none of my business, (you don't have to answer) but where is her natural father, if he is involved in her life maybe he can do something. Try and be as patient with her as you can, she is obviously struggling with something. Check out who she hangs out with at school, maybe they are influencing her. I know you want to be her friend but right now she needs discipline and security. If she keeps lying all the time maybe getting her some couseling might be good. Hang in there, parenting is tough, I have 4 girls, 5 and under and have had my share of "I did not do that, when they did". Take care.

Jaskid

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