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Loverbee could use a little advice with my pregnant sister
August 26, 2006
9:59 pm
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Ok here is the deal, my sister is pregnant with a healthy baby and I have tried to take care of her as best I can seeing she is all the way in hawaii. However, all is going well except for that one factor. My mother. She is an alcoholic and has a paranoid disorder coupled with bipolar disorder. She has been leaving non stop drunk messages on my sisters voicemail that make no sense and just stess her out so I have decided to intervene. But now I am worried that my mother will just overwhelm me instead because I have asked her to divert the energy to me. So I am at a loss of what to do and I am pissed off that my mom can't get her sh** together. could use some advice.

August 26, 2006
10:18 pm
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Hi loverbee - I think that if you're going to take the time and the trouble to intervene on your sister's behalf, why not take it a step further and let her know that the drunk calls aren't appropriate, period. Diverting attention away from your sister and having her do the same to you, isn't solving anything. And with her issues that you spoke of, it won't be an easy conversation, I'm sure. You know her best, and you probably know what makes her react favorably and what makes her flip. So, be gentle, and just remind her of how delicate and sensitive she must have been when she was pregnant with you girls... and explain that calling to chat isn't the issue, it's calling while drunk that is inappropriate. Good luck to you... I know how hard it can be to say something that seems so simple, to someone who is bipolar.

August 26, 2006
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The problem is, her drinking sux and I have been asking her for the past 20 years to cut it out and she never will cause there is always an excuse as to why she can't stop drinking. So I have no idea. I am going to have to sleep on that one.

August 27, 2006
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Just got off the phone with my drunk mother and It was a two hour screaming match with a little bit of progress at the end of the conversation since she began to sober up a little and all that crap but man was it exaughsting. I hate that she drinks and then lies about whether she is drunk or not and it is so lame. Oh well. Thank god she left my sister alone today. I f***ing wish my mother wasn't such a selfish drunk....

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