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Lost in love to another
March 18, 2005
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Lacyone
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I was going with this guy that always was the center of attention. He always had to speak before anyone because what he had to say was more important. He always introduced me as his friend. He is very charming and could always say the right words. I would do anything for him. I "loved him". I went with him 2 1/2 years. I thought he was the one. He could play the cello, teacher, did wire art and traveled. We traveled to Europe twice. Such a great time. Then there was a side of him I didn't know. I guess he was thinking I was going to get a win fall and he would get his money back that he spent on me.

Then he went to a workshop and met a married woman. They started e-mailing, talking on the phone and sending snail mail letters. He said he needed to talk to someone. Well, I got angry. He got angry about the finances.

He then didn't want to see me anymore. I was devasted. This was about the time his mother died. I then found out he was seeing his mother's doctor and also an old girlfriend. I found out that he was e-mailing a woman in WI that was a nurse and he was telling he how she helped him. Now she is in love with him. (He met her in Paris a couple of years ago, exchanged e-mails but no correspondence for about 2 years)

I haven't seen or talked to him in about 4 weeks. I felt like I was going through withdraws from this relationship.

I still think about him...oh my...

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March 18, 2005
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Lacy:

Your ex-beau is sure carrying around a lot of friendly female baggage there(wink) for a dude who probably said that he loved you and has recently split.

Imagine what it would be like being actually married to someone that must be the center of attention most times and maintain a portfolio of female companions?

Perhaps he did you a favor that you cannot thank him for enough.
FYI...you are experiencing withdraws and as you may know, time heal all wounds. At least when you realize that you almost made a major mistake in your life and saved yourself the trouble of a very troublesome seperation after marriage.
Of course you will think about him for a while longer as the better times always seem to surface more when we miss someone special.

Convince yourself that the next time you give your heart away it will be to someone more deserving and give you their full-time attention.

March 19, 2005
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THERE IS NOTHING WRONG TO HAVE FE-FRIENDS I HAVE LOT SOME ARE MARRIED BUT YOUR HEART HAD TO BELONG TO THE ONE YOU LOVE AND YOU HAD TO PUT HER FIRST AND AT THE SAMETIME KEEP YOUR CHIP CLOSE FOR THE OTHER LADIES THEN THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WHITH FEMALE FRIENDS IF YOU CANNOT DO THAT YOU HAD TO THINK IF YOU FEEL SOMETHING FOR YOUR GIRL.

March 19, 2005
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Hi Lacy: Since you mentioned a few key words (charming, center of attention, multiple women) I would like to refer you to a past thread that was invaluable to me. If you go to thread search and look up "How to Become Prey to a Charmer /Abuser Personality " you will find a thread written by Ladeska. I'm not saying your guy fits, but sounds like he has a few of the traits. It may give you some perspective. SD

March 19, 2005
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Thanks for all the information. To Aladdin. I know that men can have platonic relationships with women and I think that is okay. My problem was he would take me out and I would think I was staying awhile and he would say he was tired. Then I found out that after he saw me he jumped on the phone to talk to another women for 3 1/2 hours in the middle of the night. He told me that since we were having some problems he needed a person to bounce his frustrations too. They would test message to each other. He then started leaving his phone off which was strange as he is a talker.

Thanks again for all of your support.

Lacyone

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