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September 30, 2008
2:16 am
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lilainneed
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Hi everyone.
Well i am in denial that i have gone back to codependency. how do we get so wrapped up in it.

My situation is that my boyfriend wanted to be with me 24-7 and now he is sick of me. I feel like i did something wrong which i know i havent. it doesnt help that we own a business together and work together everyday. he stopped meeting my emotional needs and i dont know how to get it back. i helped and helped him with the business and then it just seemed he was using me. everything is about him now and i don't like it. i cook clean iron, and do whatever it takes so i can take care of him. It is that codependent of always helping. i am not sure where to go or who to talk to. i am in a world of unhappiness and want to find a way back to the old me who did not depend on helping as if i was having obsessive compulsive issues. I help everyone but myself. i cant do a damn thing for myself. i rather be piss ass poor then anyone else. it has gotten to be a pain this codependency. is it sparked from childhood. i think it has. my parents taught us that it was not ok to have feelings. which was wrong. i just went through a bad divorce where my ex cheated on me and now he is marrying the chick he cheated on me with. my boyfriend and i were doing great until i popped the big question and now he is pushing me away. we were engaged but now we aren't because he has not treated me right.
Oh what a mess.

anyone have some words to help me. i would sure appreciate it.
Thanks

September 30, 2008
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(((Lilaineed))), I just wanted to say hang in there and encourage you to attend CodA meetings in your area. Have you read Codependent No More? If you have, perhaps it's time to reread it. I need to sleep but I will write more tomorrow!!!

September 30, 2008
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Thanks fantas. I need all the support i can get and i will have to check that book out. Please write more. I will be on later to check.
I appreciate it!

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