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Losing Resolve
February 18, 2004
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You are too funny! Don't call/email. It's just an excuse. He cannot protect you from CR even if you email him.

February 18, 2004
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Okay Marley.

Benadryl works great for sleeping, just don't use it too often. You DO need your sleep. And it won't knock you out like a sleeping pill will. Just makes ya drowsy and kinda takes the edge off. You've a hundred pound dog sleeping with ya as well. Focus on that. I had a hundred pound Rottweiller sleeping with me. Your puppy won't let anybody hurt you. So sleep is okay.

Let us all know what the police say, and how it goes.

My thoughts and prayers are with ya. Feel free to ask any questions at any time and I'll do my best to answer. I check in here all the time.

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February 18, 2004
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Marley,

First of all DO NOT CALL OR E-MAIL HIM IN COSTA RICA!

Like I said, you have indicated that these things always happen when he is out of town.

Let me tell you something - again - go read the "Abuse" thread and the "My Daughter" thread.

The man that attacked my daughter, she dated him for over two years. When things did not "go his way" - he waited. Very patiently at that... when you read the thread you will see EXACTLY what I'm saying. But, you see these sick people know what they are doing, and they attract other "sick people." He had two friends go along with him. One of the friends, upon DNA testing when he went to prison - his DNA matched six unsolved rapes in British Columbia.

I know, we all think this will NOT happen to us. Just like I'm telling you, just likfe Free is telling you... it CAN happen to you. Also, like what Free said in a comment once on that "Abuse" thread - she wishes she had a thread like that seven years ago.

My husband volunteers his time now with the Family Place here in North Texas. Helping people file the necessary paperwork, etc. Also, what to look for - what do do, what not to do.

I agree with Free though - 222 means something, to somebody. You might now know what it is, but chances are - it means something.

One last question - does this guy have a key to your house?

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February 18, 2004
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Marley? Check in soon ok?

Did you email him? You're going to be ok without contacting him. It's going to be ok.

Have you involved the police or women support network in your city?

Please be careful.

February 18, 2004
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Marley, I hope I didn't frighten you away. Remember what I said- I LIVE like this, this is normal to me. Doesn't mean it will ever be normal to you or that I have the plague. Just means my responses are usually fairly quick and deliberate now and I see things from a stalking survivor's perspective- there's a history. That doesn't mean you are a stalking victim. Like I said, I don't know.

I'm accustomed now to the "oh, my God's" and startled responses, but pray that in sharing nobody is ever frightened away. Not into a state I was in where I was afraid to say anything even to those closest to me. One of two things happened when I shared. 1) there was an oh my God response that panicked me. I did my best to avoid that after awhile, and sometimes, still do Or 2)It got old, like same shit different day. and I shut up. When I shouldn't have. So many nights I would just tell my fiance I couldn't sleep and I didn't know why. I did know why. I was scared. It's hard to tell somebody that all the time, so I learned to just be scared by myself. I don't wish that upon anybody.

There are many survivors out there- I'm one of many. Doesn't mean you will join us.

The three # thing with the penal code is a way that gang members communicate. For example, 187 is murder. They'll tag and write "Blood 187" meaning a blood gang member has been marked to be killed soon. Things like that. This is known by many people, and many stalkers have assumed this kind of communication in their threats. That's why my first response is to ask if it could be significant to you personally as in a fight or something that could have occurred at 2:22 am, or something that MIGHT occur at 2:22 a.m., and if not, to turn to the penal code, your extension number at work, a pin number, last three digits of your social or drivers license, something relevant to you. Something was being said to you if no neighbor left that note. what other explanation could there be? That your door was mistaken for somebody else's? Twice?

Why respond like this? Well, to me it has become normal to decipher phrases and such. I don't do it in a panic. Ya just start thinking quickly after a while and zoom in really fast.

This is what it's like to be stalked. And if it is happening to you, then I want you to know just how NOT alone you are.

A person inscribed "bitch" on your door. a person left a very strange and incripted note. Your dog is sick.

Be upfront. Ask the neighbor's if they left that note. Confront them personally. Could be nothing. Well, if it's nothing then you have the right to know kuz otherwise you;re being scared over nothing. And you were scared or at least unsettled- you said so yourself. So ask them, personally, at their door. Politely. "This note was left on my door and i was wondering if you had left it? I'd like to apologize for any inconvenience I caused if it was you who left it."

It is not likely that the inscription on your doorknob was a fluke. Somebody came to your door and did that.

The dog sick could be a fluke. What did he eat that was bad? If you can figure it out, then no need to be thinking somebody poisoned him.

What I'm trying to get at is this. Inquire about things that are happening kuz if there's an explanation then you have the right to know. So as not to be unduly frightened.

If there's not an explanation, then you are aware that something is very awry. And that awareness is power.

That's all I'm trying to point out.

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February 19, 2004
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well thank you all so much for your support. I have called the police and they are on their way over. I have not called/emailed to costa rica. I highly doubt he could be involved - but in any event I am not involving him myself.

I truly believe my doggie got sick, just cause she ate something yucky. Like I said I live in an apartment and noone can "slip" her anything.

I am terrified, b/c this is not the first time this has happened to me and I am beginning to think that I am being watched/followed/stalked. I hate the why me attitude but right now that is how I feel. I wish Dr. Jekyll was here right now b/c he always made me feel safe and yet I am beginning to realize this may just be a way for me to work through my own shit and feel safe without him. I hope that is the case and when I come through all of this, then I will feel less of a draw to be with him.

Free - I know that it must be difficult for you having lived through such a terrifying situation, but I just can't bring myself to believe that people are as nasty as they can be. Blame my mother, she still leaves all the doors unlocked in our house - in fact there are no longer any KEYS to my house back home.

But in any event thank you all so much for your support and wisdom. I know now that everything will be ok b/c you all jumped in and gave me great advice and kept me from going around again in circles.

Marley

February 19, 2004
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Hi Marley,

Just checking to see if you are O.K.

Yes, your pup might just be sick from eating something. Mine get into stuff all the time. I love your description of your dog a 100 lb. puppy! They are funny when they are big like that. Actually puppies are funny period.

But... let us know if you are O.K. - someone pointed out that this might not be productive by scaring you. I don't believe we are purposely trying to scare you, just telling you what is out there. Being aware is not a bad thing. It does not mean you need to live in fear, it only means you need to be aware.

Again, the only thing that I really have to wonder about is why does this happen when he is NOT around? Understand?

Z.

February 19, 2004
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Zinnie, I hope I didn't offend you by what I said. That wasn't my intent at all.

February 19, 2004
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Marley, there's no need to say you are sorry for what I've lived through. I like my life and don't need the "I'm sorry's," but thank you anyway for the thought.

People that nasty are out there.

If ya ever need anything, let me know. I like to check in here fairly frequently.

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February 19, 2004
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I am ok everyone! The cops believe the incidents are unrelated . . . but now they know about them so I feel better. I have had a great day today. I feel so empowered and just knowing that I can take care of myself makes me realize how little I really NEED a man. However, there is the issue of how much I WANT this particular man, but each day seems better. I am just afraid of how strong my resolve will be when he returns. We have only ever gone weeks without talking once before and then the second we started . . . well let's just say it doesn't take long.

Please stay posted and keep sending me good energy. It is keeping me strong.

Marley

February 19, 2004
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Hi Marley,

Well good for reporting it to the police. Better safe than sorry O.K.?

How is your dog doing? Hopefully better.

By the way... speaking of dogs... the little red LOUD dog is bouncing all over the place today. I came home early, actually straight from treatment, called in to work and he feels that I'm here only to play with him.

Z.

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