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August 23, 2006
2:47 pm
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I am a codependent woman with an addiction to relationships. I am working trying to be stronger. I am wondering though if anyone has ever been in the following situation and can give me some hope. My bf and I have been together for 1 year and prior to that 5 years earlier were together for 2 yrs. He is older and seems more motivated and willing to change. He did not have a job when we first started dating,he also does not have a driver's license. He did find one within a week, and has pretty much worked steady since, but has changed jobs 6 times (but always started a new job within a day or so) He has now been working steady for about 2 months at the same job, he is going to be taking his learners test soon, and already bought his own vehicle. Prior to hooking up with me he was getting blacked out drunk everyday, but now only drinks like once a month, and yesterday was disappointed to discover he has all the characteristic traits of an addict, and is upset that even though he barely drinks he is an alcoholic. Oh yes another positive is that he is seeing a career counsellor to help him set future goals. So my question is even though he started out as a little lost puppy that needed my care...is it possible that with the posiive steps he has been making that he will change? Or is the floor going to drop out again? Also, even though he quit drinking all the time, but does still carry the peronality traits of an addict...does he need help should he go to a support group?...I guess I just want to know if anyone else has ever been in such a situation?

August 23, 2006
3:58 pm
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had same type of relationship in past, man w/no job, no car (but a license) went thru about 20 jobs etc....had drinking issues...yes, they can start out as lost puppies, but all an all its up to them to make the necessary changes in life, and its up to him to go to a support group, you can always "talk" about support groups, but HE is the one who would have to WANT to go., and yes, i do beleive people can change for the better, as long as they take the necessary steps to do so, and the willingness to WANT to get better without having anyone enable them.

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