I gobled up the article about the course of committed relationships. I certainly can remember being there a couple of times. The second one I married and stayed in it for close to 24 years. I have just taken a "break" from a relationship that started as a secretive sexual one. Now I want more committment, get out a bit and start meeting the world. Unfrotunately he does not want to do that for various reasons, insisiting that he is still in love with his incomaptibel last relationship which lasted three years. She apparently coerced him into getting engaged (he has a fear of committment) and it went downhill from there. If it ever was uphill, from my understanding it was a battle. But he loves her even given the grave incompatibility. So here I am, having to make a decision, purely sexual realtionship or let him go. I know one I want him to sweat for two weeks (he loves his sex.) But unless he has a complete change around he certainly will not be getting it from this girl.