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lolli
February 5, 2006
12:16 pm
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penny lane
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Good Morning Lolli...I recently read your story about your boyfriend....have you ever read anything about "Narcisim" Well I just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years and experienced huge amounts of the same problems you have endured...no sex, capricious behavior, secrative, unable to be intimate...many painful experiences...I finally asked him, 4 months after he moved in, to go with me to counseling...he flatly refused and I finally got the courage to tell him to leave...kicked him out...and have gone through the last month and half recovering from the emotional and verbal abuse I took.

February 5, 2006
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Pennylane,

Thank you so much for sharing your story with me and congratulations on your courage.

I have read about Narcissism and although he does have some narcissistic traits, I do not believe he is a true narcissist. There are too many "sypmtoms" that do not fit his personality to actually describe him as such.

However, regardless of what his issues are....he certainly has them.

We had actually broken up this past September and although we still had minimal contact (he lives downstairs), I was doing pretty well. I had finally come to a place where I could let go of the anger and just see it for what it was. We were just too different. BUT, at one point just before Christmas, I allowed him to "suck me back in". I allowed it because I wanted to allow it. I thought perhaps our time apart made him "grow up" and realize he needed to make some changes. He is not a bad person. I believe he is a good man with a good heart. However, here were are just over a month later and we just can't seem to get it together.

My main focus at this point is to try to get myself back to that place of acceptance.

It's going to be hard. I do love him and I still wish that things were different, but I need to accept that things are not different and I do deserve better.

Thank you again for your thoughtfulness and your support.

Take care,
Lolli

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