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February 18, 2004
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everhopeful
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I am a 57 year old male who has just discovered that I am codependent. I have always known something was wrong but have only recently been able to articulate it. My codependence is not on one person but on everybody I know! I have ruined three relationships and have six children. I am currently alone and would like to have one last chance at finding happiness with someone.

I think I can trace the roots of my problem back to my childhood but I am desperate that my children do not suffer as I have suffered. They do not live with me but I see them regularly. I can see symptoms in at least two of them. Can anybody help?

Also I am trying through self help to overcome my codependency but am not progressing very well. Can anybody give me some tips on that please.

February 18, 2004
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Hi welcome to our site. I am a
56 year old male that is also
codependent. Recognizing that you
have this problem is the first
step in a lifetime recovery process.
Have you read any books? Melody
Beattie's "Codependent No More",
and the daily meditations of
"The Language of Letting Go" are
great. "The Dance of the Wounded
Souls" by Robert Burney is
also excellent.
By surrendering to your higher
power, and working on the healing
process of your inner child you
will find that your relationships
can and will become healthier.
The key is in acceptance that you
can only change you, letting go
of what could have and should have
been, and moving on to what your
higher power and your new found strength that you have developed
by surrendering to your higher
power and trust in your beautiful
soul. Most importantly gratitude.
Take inventory of yourself and
your blessings. Find inner peace and happiness with that and that will
get you through. Grieve and allow
yourself to heal, but don't dwell
in a place of heartache and pain.

February 18, 2004
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bel
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Welcome Everhopeful and HarryO, I also was codependent and to some degree still am but I can now recognize the signs and work from there. Its a long road but you can make it and move on.

Bel

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