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LL, GG, ...I found the positive thing for today...
October 25, 2006
12:22 pm
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1.) I have four beautiful children...
2.) I have all of you...
3.) I have a good therapist....
4.) I am a loving, compassionate person...
5.) This one is longer...Since my husband went and talked to Jim lsat week, he has been very decent to the kids. We had a fight on Sunday, but that is normal on occasion. And I am not certain that I didn't bring that one on and blow it out of proportion. (which I have been known to do) On Monday, my youngest daughter (Aryn) was being a huge brat. All she was doing was crying and would not stop. Usually he would just yell at her to knock it off and tell her to suck it up because noboduy wanted to hear it. Which is true, but, instead he went over got down on his knees and calmly asked her what was wrong? Why she was crying, etc. In a HUMAN voice. He settled it without yelling at her, or being mean. He asked me friday night what he could do to be a better husband than he is. He cared enough to ask me if I could change a few things about him what they would be. And actually acted as if and appeared to be listening to me. I am glad, I just hope that it continues. I do NOT think that he is an awful monster. I just think that he needed to have his ways pointed out to him, by someone other than me. I also think that he knows that he was riding a thin line of losing his wife..and his four children. He IS HOT, he would find another wife...but, he swears that it is me that he wants. He wants us to work and be a happy family. He wants to be a good dad, and husband. I believe that with my heart. Yes, there are moments that he is a complete jerk, but there are times that I am too. I can handle arguments here and there, and they don't usually get out of hand... But i can't hande living in fear. I do think that he is trying desperately to stop making me feel that way. I don't think he realized what he was doing to me or the kids. I believe that he knew that he had done things wrong, he admits that. I just think that he is trying to change. I don't care if this sounds like the naive little co-dep trapped in her own little world or not. I believe him, and I am seeing things improve with him. I am trying to have some faith in him, and my marriage.

There is my positive for the day.

October 25, 2006
12:25 pm
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To me that sounds very positive. It would be enough to put a smile on my face. All I can say is wow!

October 25, 2006
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Mich -

Your posting here makes me so happy. Everyone gathered at my little church Sunday prayed for your marriage to heal. I am so very, very glad to learn that you are seeing signs of change. There is, indeed, HOPE.

Love,

Ma Strong

October 25, 2006
12:33 pm
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mich, I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!! To be able to admit all of this and you did it so well, has me finally feeling better...This thread by you just made my day and I thank you for it...Gosh, we are so much alike except for the stinking age difference...I too gripe about my husband, yet I do know he loves me and he is a fantastic father...He just can't demonstrate love, no kisses, no "I love you", etc. This maybe why I long for affection, who knows. Gosh, you got me thinking that maybe I need to go do the same thing during these low times... mich, thanks so much for reminding me and others that there is always positive things even when it is dark...love ya gf

October 25, 2006
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Mich, May I intrude?

I think you have great positives for today and every day. I am glad your husband LISTENED to Jim and then applied it. I am happy that you have confidence he is sincerely making an effort.

BUT make sure you take care of you. I want you to be a happy and whole soul. I want contentment to reign in your life. I want peace for you and your household.

I don't think it sounds naive to have hope. I am glad you have hope again.

Regards,
Cyndra

October 25, 2006
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Cyndra,

You are not intruding. Youa re welcome to respond to me anytime you want, on ANY thread you want. You are a sweetie. Thanks for the afghan. It is truly being well used by GG and I. It gives us comfort.

Strong,

Please continue to pray though. I am trying to have hope, that I am not that little naive co-dep that is holding out hope for no reason. Please continue to pray for my babies too please.

Thumkin,

I am trying to find the positive, where i am not always good at that.

GG,

Just remember, you are one of my positives.

October 25, 2006
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LL, now that I know that you are around, I am bumping this up for you to find it. I told you that I would be positive...so there you go.

October 25, 2006
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Another positive...

I just heard my three year old say bye-bye to her poopy as she flushed it down the toilet. That is positive because this potty training thing has been a nightmare. Trying to get her to pee has been hard enough, but her pooping is SWEET. I love it. Not that you all needed to knwo my daughters poop status, but I was excited.

October 25, 2006
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Mich,

Sometimes we take the positives where we can find them. Having heard what "fun" potty training is I say HIP HIP HOORAY for you and your three year old daughter!!

Cyndra

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