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light bulb!
August 23, 2006
3:34 pm
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Isn't it so GREAT when the light bulb goes off and you finaly put your finger on that thing that you just couldn't "well quite put your finger on"?

I figured out what the deal has been with my b/f, he hasn't accepted me for who I am and my past. although he said he has, my past disgusts him. I see it in his eyes, I feel it in his touch, I can see it in his actions.

He tells me I'm wrong and that I have no right telling him how he truly feels, but I see it, I know it without a doubt, it all makes so much sense now, all of his actions the way he looks at me EVERYTHING makes so much sense now, so much that I am confident in knowing how he feels without him having to tell me, so no matter how much he denies his actions have spoken a lot louder... I love light bulb moments "ahhhh" such relief, it's sad, but relieved to finaly put my finger on it....

August 23, 2006
3:55 pm
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good for you Codep, for going with your gut instincts on this one....and no matter what he says or how he feels....you, know the truth.

August 23, 2006
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codep -

The only caution flag I would throw here is that you are still recovering from BPD. BPD can cause you to "imagine" or "suspect" that your SO is harboring thoughts or feelings which they are genuinely NOT thinking or feeling. (My ex-BPD fiance did this to me all the time and it used to really upset me.)

So, I would be more in favor of you both going to a couples counselor (or therapist), presenting your feelings and concerns, letting your BF present HIS feelings, etc. and have a neutral party (the counselor or therapist) sort it through with you both. If by any chance you are wrong in your suspicions, you might be hurting your BF very much. Unjust accusations can really rankle the soul.

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