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January 14, 2002
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Didn't even read it, will later, but your not alone, gl, and alena and I are pissed as well check out the planets, what is shifting ? Oh f*** it what difference does it make sis too is in a mood, its a girl thing, damn it, call or not ? tommorow, tommorow, its only a day a way.

January 14, 2002
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Well I don't know what to say to all of that Blondie. I just know I don't have to deal with all of that shit. I think I would want to use the knife too. Mybe the gun would be faster right between the eyes, lol just kidding. As far as spitting just hack up a big green one and let if rip!!! Hope you get to feeling better!! damaged

January 14, 2002
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Hey Blondie: does life suck or does it blow? It is all a matter of perspective.

I used to know these hippies that said that the air in Viet Nam didn't blow, it sucked. It opened my eyes to the possibility that sucking and blowing could be one in the same.

I say that life BLOWS, man! Like a tempest that carries us far into the horizon.... Build a sailboat and sew your sails and catch that jibe! You can soar.

Whenever I go to the sea, I am fascinated by the sea gulls that are born without feet. They must fly forever...and so must you, my friend, fly through your storm.

Life blows...use the wind to shape your life to look more like what you want it to be!

Forty seven is never too old. You don't even have your Full Deck yet until you are 52!

OXOXOX

This is either a kiss or a face fart. It's your choice.

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January 15, 2002
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Blondie, can you pass me the tissues? Oh and I'm gonna need some iced tea also. lol

I hope you feel better, I have a sofa and a bed that you can come and sweat on.

January 15, 2002
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Blondie, you make me laugh even when yer bitchin'! Not that I'm laughing at your expense, I just admire how you can keep a sense of humor when it seems everything is in chaos. Please don't ignore your illness or try to be tough about it. My 35 year old sister passed away from pneumonia a couple of years ago. Take care of yourself first. Kick BF's a$$ out if that's what it takes for you to get some rest and healing. If I lived closer I'd bring you some homemade soup and hot tea. I like your lesbian comment also! I sometimes think it would be easier to be in a relationship with another woman. At least we'd have some clue as to how the other's mind works! There must be something in the air....I've been in a pissed off mood for a couple of days too, and there's no reason I should be. Hmmm......

January 15, 2002
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Hey Blondie, I definitely had what you have and there is no way out(and not quickly either) but through it. Hang in, kiddo--notice I said "kiddo"--you may be feeling like a 90 year old women today but it will pass--rest as much as you can--ignore the b.f. and concentrate on you and think of the inconvenience this way--you are improving your karma for tolerating Mr. Inconsiderate while you feel anything but tolerant--and if you need anything from the store--make him go out and get it--your sick, too and it's his turn.
Try some chamomile tea if you have it with honey and lemon--if you don't make b.f. go out and get it.

Take care of you.

Love ya--Artist

January 15, 2002
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At least you didn't say he asked for sex.... You did mention the c***, but why, when they are at their very worst, on the edge of death, right inbetween whinning for homemade chicken soup, and the aloevera kleenex, like when the channel surfing has bored them, they go ugh honey come here with that snot filled throat, inbetween blowing and sucking ugh come here baby, while they are sweaty and in that tee shirt they put on the day before, with their sweat pants full of snot rags, actually want it ???? I under stand wanting to kill him, real clear, but make sure you do it close to the snot rag pile, or right out side your door, so you don't have to clean up more mess.
Take care girl.........

January 15, 2002
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Why do guys do that!!! Blondie, the bitched-out-GL hears you loud and clear. And yes, I'm on the warpath, men beware.

The bf is still laid off, still has his own place thank god, but is always over at my place. Bitched me out last night for not having any food in the fridge and got crabby because he had to order out for hot wings for something to eat, then complained at me because he didn't want to "live this way" (a la ordering crap from delivery to eat at 11:00pm at night). I was like whatever dude. Yes, I take responsibility for not having any food in my house, and for that I'm didn't eat any dinner because I'm ok with that, had a big lunch, and I'll go grocery shopping tomorrow. Then he stays up until like 2am while I'm in the next room trying to sleep, he's got the TV blaring, so I go out there and shut the damn thing off. He's sound asleep on the couch anyway. Well, at 4am, I get woken up by some explosion, and he's got the effin' TV on again and I can hear him snoring loudly. So I go out and switch it off again. So around 5:30am he crawls into bed, then 15 minutes later my alarm goes off, so I haul my cranky ass off to the gym while wonder boy slumbers. It just drives me fricken nuts.

So when I got back from the gym and got ready to leave from work, sure enough I see the living room is a wreck, pillows all over the floor, an empty box of dominos hot wings slowly bleeding buffalo sauce all over my nice clean white carpet. I've got $20 that says the mess is still there when I go home today.

Last night after a really rough day at work, I saw that he'd taken the bottle of good scotch I keep around for emergencies, had used my new brand new crystal tumbler that I haven't even had a chance to use yet, had left it dirty on the counter, and then took the scotch home with him because he thinks that I shouldn't have alcohol in the house because I he "doesn't want me drinking alone in my house". So I couldn't even have a sip of the scotch. Whether I should have the scotch is another question entirely, but this is my freedom I'm talking about here.

Am I expecting too much? I expect that when someone dirties a dish at my house, they wash it out. When they go for a tinkle, they put the toilet seat down. Basically, leave the place as you found it. These little things are driving me crazy. Am I being unreasonable?

Plus he's been wearing this stupid baseball cap around for the last week and I hate it, it makes him look like a frat boy. I hate it that he tells me all the time how he wants to live a life with meaning, refuses to follow schedules, just gets distracted by everything. I think he has ADD. When he gets focused on a project, watch out! But stuff that requires real work, like working out, eating right, finding a job, all of these things that he keeps swearing he wants to do, excuses just keep popping up. It's gotten that I don't even want to see him and want him out. I don't want sex with him, or anyone (which is a really really huge deal for me because I used to be this total sex maniac, bouncing from guy to guy, now it's like I don't care if I ever see a penis again).

I've heard and seen all of these things before from the ex and previous relationships, and perhaps I'm at a point where I can accept that it's me that needs to change. Everyone can't be wrong and me right after all... could they? It must be me, right?

What's up? Why is this driving me so nuts? I personally dislike my job, but it pays the bills. I've started my little exercise regimen... maybe I just need to busy myself up and spend less time with him, make sure that he stays at his own place for a while.

Grrrrr... GL ON THE WARPATH.

January 15, 2002
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GL--no, your not being unreasonable--this is your life and your house--you have not been declared incompetent and unable to take care of yourself, have you?--and this guy hasn't been appointed your guardian, has he?

I don't know what agreement the two of you have consented to in regards to your relationship--but if you are unhappy tell him and do what you said--busy yourself and create some space between you and him until your sure of what you want. Trust me on this one--don't just swallow the resentment when things aren't going the way you like with him--he's not a mind reader and can't be blamed if you aren't doing any talking about what is bothering you.

Artist:)

January 15, 2002
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Sound, smart advice. Thanks artist. I really do want to talk about these things that bother me, but he gets quite defensive, says that I'm picking on him and trying to start a fight. I don't want to fight, I just want him to pick up his mess. He says "if it's not one thing, then it's another. I'm not perfect." So then I think that what I'm asking isn't unreasonable, but then I wonder if maybe I am nitpicky, and maybe if he really did get a job and pick up after himself I'd find something else to nag after him over.

Wait, I just read that. Did I really write that? "Maybe if he really did get a job and pick up after himself..." jeez I sound like a whiny doormat.

"My friend's got a boyfriend and she hates that dick, she tells me every day... I won't pay, I won't payyah. No wayyyy... nah nah why don't you get a job... say no way, say no wayyah. No wayyyy. Nah nah why don't you get a job. I won't give ya no money, I always pay. Nah nah why don't you get a job...." Gotta love the offspring.

At least he isn't hitting me up for money. 🙂

January 15, 2002
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When the walls come tumbling down-----
Har har har tell him he owes you for the scotch, and room service.... cleaning up the mess........ Freeloader, butthead, male, mess maker, TV watcher, disrespectful, lazy, pig, unemployed, slacker,toilet seatleaverupper,rude, selfish, ugh controller,cap wearer, excuse maker,bevis,wanna be..........
Tell him his cap lowers his iq, how much unemployment has changed him, how you will keep scotch in your house if you want, if he wants food in the fridge to bring it, the store is around the corner, and he can replace the scotch while he is at it, there will be no TV above a whisper when your in bed, respect for the working class, and your not his mama, to pick up after him self.
Un reasonable I don't think you come close. Let him have it GL, we create the terms of our relationships, remember, no Ms nice girl. You give him money, we will have to hurt you.

January 15, 2002
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Molly is right! You don't have time for this mess. Life is too short.

January 15, 2002
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Boy, am I glad I don't have a bf right now. I was actually getting depressed about it, even thought about calling up the drug addict ex and see how he was doing! You guys all slapped me back into reality. When I get home from work, my house is exactly as I left it!!! Blondie, I hope you're feeling better soon. Take care of that pneumonia! Don't let it get out of hand. Go into the hospital, make someone else wait on you for a change.

January 15, 2002
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The only person allowed to make a mess in my house is me and I refuse to clean damn it.

Should have kept the scotch at my house, I would have kept it safe for you.

Ooooh, wine sounds really good right now. Anyone want to comeover and bring some wine? I only have five dollars left to my name. I will clean my house for you. I live on first and scenic.

January 15, 2002
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$5 can get you a bottle of "Cheap Red Wine", an actual brand that believe it or not ain't bad. If you've got an extra 5 to spare on top of that, there's a rich red out there called Fat Bastard that kicks ass, and of course is a huge hit at fancy schmancy wine/cheese gatherings.

Y'all are right. Definitely time to stick up for myself. Tonight is GL-time, and that's that. Eff it, I'm picking up a bottle of wine tonight for myself. I deserve it. Fat Bastard it is *grin*

January 15, 2002
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Come on Molly, don't hold back , tell us what you really think!!! LOL ....holy cow...

GL, old buddy, Tribe War Princess of the Highest Honor, you have every right to be pissed...

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO, it is not you. Shall I repeat? You KNOW it's not you...don't even question yourself for a moment. Remember that husband? Put his picture up somewhere and see it everyday and remember the pain from back then... you werent at fault then and you sure as hell arent now.

I laughed about your bf's free spirit, that's what freeloaders with dreams and no job usually refer to themselves as.... I love it. And we fall for it every time...you aren't a Sagittarius are you? But you are in a good financial, emotional, position to boot this guy out....speaks volumes when you don't want to even look at his face...uh....time to waste no more time, don't ya think?

See, I must have a lesbian streak somewhere in me..I keep believing and finding more proof all the time that men and women just do not get along on a long term relationship. I could say I just don't agree with monogomy, hmm...but I think women know what women want...I think they can be to each other what no man can be...perhaps it's not lesbianism after all because I still think we need them to have great sex, but then, adios, you can only fullfill me sexually, not emotionally.

Some men have great qualities, I mean, really nice, ....in their own right, on their own....over there.
Stay over there.....because it's just too difficult to try to bend, and tug, and reshape myself to your liking, and then, ...I don't like myself. Some of us chicks think we can get accustomed to their nasty little ways, because we are soooooo in love....well, not so, it just doesn't work that way.

Must be something in the air, water, wheat, Chilean fruit I'm getting here in the Northeast...but there are a hell of a lot of men f*ing with us and I just think it's destiny.

Sorry, if I sound so pessimistic, ...you just stay the strong chick you are and give him the heave ho if that's what you're feeling. We all got your back girlfriend ! *smile

January 16, 2002
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Blondie...when I hear stories of women surviving hell such as you did, I'm terribly proud to be a woman. We are the strong ones. Regardless of our many posts here of depression, loneliness, dependency, we claw our way out of it and it does make us stronger. Men could not survive some of the situations in which we find ourselves, from birth..up. Oh, I know they have their legitimate suffering also, I'll never minimize someone else's pain. But, you rarely hear of a man being forced to live in the kind of marriage you did for instance.

I've been one of those women I warned GL about, she's a smartie pants though, she got herself out of one nasty jam, she's got her radar on and she'll be cool. I, like many women my age, have really twisted and tugged and pulled ourselves into this jumbled up glob of junk that we don't even recognize anymore. I'm not whining, I'm not on a pity pot, I'm just acknowledging your climb out of the crap and I really do applaud you.
I could have it alot worse, ...but it's that thought that I could have it alot better that eats me up.
I think that's where the Tribe thing came in, we are all survivors, we have all run the "gauntlet" and lived to tell about it.

Cold all gone? We keep passing that shit back and forth in our family too, since before Christmas...yeachhh.

January 16, 2002
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AAARRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!! *cough*

That's a tribal yell for all you folks who have your speakers turned off. If I had a kilt I'd lift it up and moon mankind. "Ya cannah take muh frrrreedom!!!"

Thanks Alena, I needed that. I've been drawing the parallels between the behavior I see now and that of that ex-husband of mine. This time maybe I've gotten smarter and know how to nip these things in the bud, draw good boundaries and keep them for once. Like Blondie alludes to, sometimes the guys are wonderful, sometimes they drive you insane. I'm in one of the insane phases right now obviously. I can count my lucky stars with this one on all of the parallels I can't draw... no drug or alcohol abuse, no porn, no kiddie porn, no cheating on me, no prostitutes, no putting me down in front of other people, no hiding me from his family... all those really good key things are there. But I refuse to settle, and no one else should either.

And no way Molly, will I ever loan money again. The GL National Bank is official closed.

Ah yah, btw, the ex husband is still unemployed after 9 months, and last I heard tucked his tail between his legs and ran himself and his girlfriend back home to Texas. I think they are living with her parents. I haven't had contact with him since July. How's THAT for a 21 day plan?

AAARRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!! *wheeze*

January 16, 2002
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well I aM STARTING A new religion where women have man-slaves and they are here to wait on us hand and foot. They have to learn to live in our homes together in harmony, except I get my own peronal private space where they are not allowed cause I get annoyed easily and need time to recoup. They have to still work and bring home the bacon though. They can have their litle playthings on the side cause I don't want sex all of the time, but I get last word on who the choose. I am in charge of my own home.

January 16, 2002
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BLONDIE:

WELL I AM SORRY YOU FEEL SO BAD SUG. YEAH MEN EXPECT US TO BE THEI MAIDS EVEN WHEN WE FEEL BAD AND THAT DOES SUCK. JUST GET BETTER, THE FIRST OF THE YEAR IS ALWAYS DISEASE RIDDEN, FROM THE STRESS OF THE PREVIOUS YEAR. TAKE CARE AND YOU ARE IN MY PRAYERS

January 16, 2002
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blondie:

the yuck is going around i have fluid in my left ear and need to have it looked at. boy

hey artist: get back with me at pam77092yahoo.com so we can get together

January 16, 2002
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pam--I sent you an email yesterday--did you get it?

Artist:)

January 16, 2002
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BLONDIE:

YOU BETTER TAKE CARE OF PNEUMONIA WHEN I WAS 17 I HAD IT IN MY SENIOR YEAR AND I WAS IN THE HOSPITAL A WEEK AND IT SCARRED ONE OF MY LUNGS I HAVE TO BE VERY CAREFUL NOW AND DEVELOPED AND ALLERGIC REATION TO PENCILLIN. SO YOU DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO FEEL BETTER AND TELL THE BF TO TAKE CARE OF HIMSELF.

January 16, 2002
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artist didn't log on sorry for not checking

January 16, 2002
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Some guys dig it Blondie...

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