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letting go of negativity - bonni
September 26, 2009
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Negativity can bury us. A positive attitude can lift us up. I do not mean hiding behind a facade of fake happy. Acknowedging truth can open us up to pain. But also to healing. You have to wash the dirt out of the wound, so it does not fester.

Picking at scabs can discourage healing, but a scab screaming to be picked at may mean that you didn't get all the dirt out of the wound and its infected.

-bonni

September 26, 2009
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I've got to go do some stuff with my family. any help burying negativity is appreciated.

September 26, 2009
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Bonni, you know that I am always in your corner. What was the line from WWI --Praise the Lord and pass the ammunition.

Just keep on shoveling.

Bitsy

September 26, 2009
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Bonnie everything you said is so true!!!!! Thank you.

I know I cannot thrive under negativity and can’t tolerate negative people for long periods of time. Changing people places and things in my life has helped me tremendously with negativity. Although I cannot change my family or their behaviors I can change how I react or don’t react to them. I know myself enough to know when it’s time to leave a family function or cut a visit short.

Finding a new way to think about that screaming scab may help you view it in a different light depending on what it is screaming. I also have found that when you talk about something, release it – it no longer has the power to own you.

For many years I had a very difficult time spending any time with my mother who was the queen of negativity. It was eating me alive and I had no idea on how to solve it. I cringed when she would ask me to take her shopping and all she did was talk about gloom and doom nothing every happy or joyful. She always turned the happiest occasion negative. I felt I was a bad daughter for having frustrating feelings and not wanting to spend time with my own mother so I kept this all to myself.

One day a friend began to share her own frustration with her mother and I opened up like a dam. What a relief I felt and now I had the ability to talk about my frustration with someone else experiencing similar. My friend pointed out to me something I never really gave much though about, my mother and father lost a 13 year old child to leukemia how more negative can life be then that. No wonder she faces life from the negative side.

I was able to better understand my mother after that but more importantly better to understand myself and my reactions.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

September 26, 2009
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((atalose))
I'm digging some more threads to the top, but I'll be back.

bonni

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