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Letting go and trying to move on
February 6, 2006
10:45 am
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hey! I'm learning some good and hard lesson's. i've desided to let my husband go his own way and love him as a friend would love. my husband has been battling a drug addition almost our whole marrage. we have a 3 year old son . i finally looked at the emotional damage it was causing him to have a dad that's only part time and not there when need be unless it's good for him not our son. sorry if i sound a little bitter or angry .I know my husband love's our son also. i just think he need's to grow up and stop making the wrong choice. he went to drug rehab for almost 4 month's and we all tryed to help him. i went to marrage councling. i just told him because of our past i wanted to take thing's slow and build our trust again. i'm just trying to make a healing choice. i'm so scared of damaging our son. i love my son with all my heart. he is the reason i'm trying to move on. i want him to look back and know i loved him and wanted him to have a good childhood. not one filled with mom and dad seperating every 2 year's. my father grew up like that his whole life and was angry at his mom for not staying seperated from my grandpa. so did my mother-in law. she had a abusive relationship with my husband's step-dad. step dad was one of the people who gave drug's to my husband at 15-16. some time's i'd like to say a few thing's to that man. the only thing i did tell him was he'll never be my son's grandpa. my mother-in-law is remarried and that guy is more man than my husband's step- dad will ever be. her new husband was there every day of our son's life. sorry for venting. thank's for your time. please respond, if you have any advice.

February 6, 2006
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Sounds like you are looking at your reality honestly. I wish you and your son happiness, security, and hope. I have no advice for you. I think you will continue to find your own answers and do what is best for all of you. Good for YOU.

February 6, 2006
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wow! I know its so hard to have children with a drug addict. It sounds like you were on the same roller coaster i was. The seperating and getting back together only to seperate again and again....Alot of times I wonder if my children will know how to have a relationship. I'm sorry your going through all this but its good to talk to other people going through the same things. Concentrate on you! Your probably drained and need too.

February 8, 2006
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Thank you all for your support. it's been a hard but impowering last few day's. In the past i would check up on him or want to know what he was doing. i look back now and think i was trying to save him. i realize now i can't. only god can help him now . well my son is not taking this to good but he's better at dealing with this after the last 2 year's . well wish me luck :}

February 10, 2006
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I'm sort of in the same situation only i'm not married to my daughters father. I hate that she has been exposed to so much at such a young age, but my prayer is that God will heal her and she will be able to have a healthy, happy relationship. I really thought things would change over the years. He has been through many rehab programs and could teach the program but can not stay away from the drugs. He is a good person that is making all the wrong choices under the influence. I am just now after 11 years of our daughters life just now had enough. I kept thinking he would change but until I see it clearly and I mean clearly I plan to keep him out of our lives. I know there are so many women and maybe some men dealing with the same issue and I would also love to her from them. We have to trust God through this.

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