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March 25, 2000
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Each of us is here from the depths of our own pain. To negate one another is only to put off perhaps that one person who could have gained true insight and real life from the various insights and experiences we as a group offer.

We are all different and each of us is seeking to feel "REAL". We are all coming from dysfunctional lives. that is why we are here. To take offense, to be hurtful to one anothther is only counter productive to the reasons we are here..

How unfortunate for uys all..
How unfortunate for us all.

March 27, 2000
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Janes,

I agree. This bickering is bullshit. I know where it is coming from, but am letting that go. To each in his own time.

How have you been? Me, just learning and applying. Hows your daughter, hubby?

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March 27, 2000
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All that stuff would need a new thread and I am not into "unloading". "sela vie (sp)" or as a dear dear friend says...say levis.

The mundane goes on and I cope and read and reread and try

My wonderfully enabled family hubby and daughter are fine...
It's spring break and I have been internetting all day and doing laundry and kicking "arse's" to get work done so they can have their "own way"

late
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March 28, 2000
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I appriciate what everyone has said here. It is easy to give advise but I think in a way we all have a hard time hearing our own advise. We usually give the answers to others that we need to hear ourselves. I have a friend dying of cancer, he has choose to quit taking chemo, he was told they can't get it all they can only prlong his life. He wants to live the remander of his life without chemo. I was so mad at first I thought he was giveing up and wanted to die. He is scared to death of dying and wants to live. But he is tired of the sickness consumeing his life and when he takes chemo he wants to be dead because of how he feels. I love this man so much he has been my father. Just not biologically. He has taught me that I don't have to do want i don't want to do. In the sence that if I am in a bad situation I am the one to change it. I don't have to be there. That doesn't mean that leaving is going to be easy, it just means it is nesscary. I am so proud of him.
I know there has been a lot of bickering and bad feelings on this thread and that was not my intention. We all have our own opinions and we should be encouraged to share them. I hope you all feel like you can say what you feel, it is important. Our lifes are so blessed by those who chose to come into them and share a part of themselves with us. And all of you are in my thoughts and prayers and I hope that you will continue to speak your feelings however unpopular you may think they are. They are important because they are a part of who you are. And you are important. Don't ever doubt that.
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March 28, 2000
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KSUE,

I for one am sorry that what was said was said.... it really takes away from the primary function of this site.

BUT, I am sticking to my guns when I say that until a person actually lives their advice, they shouldn't preach it.

That is all on that subject.

I still applaud you and your actions. It is sooooo easy to stay, or go back. It takes a really strong person to move on.

Clap clap clap clap clap

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March 28, 2000
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Broc,
I hope you find the happiness you search for, you will find the ine who will cherish you and what you have been through. I have the same hope for myself and for the rest of the people who have posted. I believe that you have been angles sent to help me through a nessacary part of the healing that I am beginning
God Bless
KSUE

March 29, 2000
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KSUE..I hope that you are taking some time to spend with your friend. Hard to accept someone's decision like that. You and he will be in my prayers.

March 30, 2000
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I am spending as much time as I can with him. He has already out lived there expectations. But I have really seen him deterirorate over the past few weeks.
Thank you for your prayers, I am a firm believer in the healing power of prayer

March 30, 2000
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Yes...prayer does work miracles and change things. don't lose sight of the fact that sometimes the prayer doesn't bring the answer we want...or the one we ask for but the one God knows that we need.

I ask for peace for both of you in this difficult time.

April 3, 2000
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Janes,
Thank you so much for all you have written here. I needed to hear it and am going day by day. I know God answers prayers in his way not ours and we sometimes can't understand why. But I know there is a purpose for it, and some day I will understand.
KSUE

April 4, 2000
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Bravo!!!!!!! Putting God first in all that we do will help us all to make better decisions. Had I done that many, many uears I might not have gone through a physically abusive first marriage or a mentally abusive second marriage. I now am divorce and loving God who let me know it is okay to like me!!!!!! Ksue you will get there. It will not be easy, however when you do WOW!!!!!

April 17, 2000
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Please do what is best for your children. It'll be a struggle but in 10 yrs. or so when you look back at all you've done to protect them from the abuse, the exposure to it...you will be so glad you took charge of your life. No one should live in an abusive relationship...you need to think more of yourself and your capabilities. You can go to school somehow. It won't be easy but your kids will thank you for it, rather than end up having problems of their own when they grow up. Do what is best for your children, you owe them and yourself a situation without abuse. And please, try not to get involved with someone else for awhile so you can heal up and get to know who you are. Don't let someone smooth talk you into moving in with you. You will teach your kids this is how life is lived. Do the right and moral thing. Good luck.

April 22, 2000
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Yes, do what is best for your children but at the same time do what is best for you! You can not make your children happy till YOU are happy! I'm glad you got out of the relationship. If it was bringing you down and your children had to watch this abuse then that was the best descision. Soemone said something to the affect of people calling them stupid because they wanted to work on there relationship. Well I feel like this if you don't feel you are getting what you deserve and being mistreated and you have tryed and tryed again then yes it just seems like an endless cycle till you are confident enough in yourself to take no less than what you deserve. Why lower your standards, why try to change someone that doesn't want to change. Do what makes you happy and I feel that going back to school is a step in the right direction. Start off with taking one class and see how that goes. There are places that will train you once you are hired, you have just got to search. Say to yourself I am going to do the best that I can and you will! Keep your head up and stay active!

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