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March 26, 2008
10:31 pm
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I am in a relationship in which i should have been gone long ago. As it stands I tend to let this thing go on and now it has gotten to a point where things are dangerous. The thing is we have been together for nearly 18 yrs and now she is thinking that no matter what we will always be together. we use to getr high and use together but I got clean a nd have been clean for 6 yrs now. She continues to exhibit poor judgement and can not hold a job becuase of her addictive behavior and thinks that I should take care of her no matter what. I probably could go on forever with the things that I go thru but the bottom line is I am enabeling her to do what she do and I need to just leave. Is anyone out there going thru this?

March 26, 2008
10:41 pm
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Congratulations on your sobriety!!. It must be difficult for you to see your partner continue to destroy her life with her addictions. My question for you is this, Do you want to leave her or do you want her to change? If you are ready to let her go, then I'd say you have done well by her, by sticking with her for 6 years after your sobriety. If you want her to change perhaps you can get together an intervention team and get her to rehab.

Regardless of what you do, you must stop enabling her. All the best to you. Keep us posted.

March 27, 2008
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Hi Truthless,

By the way you aren't truthless. For you to come on here and say things are getting dangerous. COngratulations you never said anything truer.

I know the word dangerous.

If you are saying things are getting dangerous.

DANGER

DANGER

DANGER

Your truthful.

When danger is in the house. When the cops could come at anytime. When blood might spill. When someone will say something that can never be taken back. When you can't let go.

It is time to hit the ROAD. SNEAK OUT THE BACK JACK.
FInd a new plan stan.

Adopt children in CHina. Get a new ID> Get a new city.Do anything fast. Do it yesterday. Don't stick around cause you think you are helping her. You are not helping anything. You are the wood and she is the fire. You are the needle in her arm. Run for the hills.

March 27, 2008
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Hello Truthless Welcome.......

I really can't give you any other advise than what fantas and Linda have said but..... if it makes a difference I agree 100%

You have worked hard to be clean and sober for all this time. You understand her problems and I am sure you care about her but you MUST understand you cannot fix them. AS you know only you can fix yourself.

Please take care. Keep posting.
and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Celtic

July 13, 2020
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good post

July 13, 2020
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This is an example of a successful education. I recently read about military events https://gradesfixer.com/free-e.....mples/war/ and the waves of life. We build our success through the failures of others. It's hard to understand, but the main idea is a fight. I am sure that your life can get an additional incentive for development.

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