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landlord being creepy
March 5, 2011
1:41 pm
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yesterday i had a weird experience with my landlord. We've lived here 8 years and hardly ever see  him except when there is a problem or he comes by to do routine maintainance. He's always been very business like.  Yesterday he started in about my eyes, how beautiful they were. etc.  then he wanted to be able to come over and see me 'alone" without my husband, around. then he kissed two fingers and said, i want to give you this present one for each eye." is that just some lonely middle aged man being a bit over bearing to someone who should him sympathy?  He has recently lost his wife.or is it something more sinister? I mean I am middle aged and fifty pounds overweight myself so it's not like I am out there attracting attention.  What do you think what should I do about it?

March 5, 2011
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hey there tiger tamer, you can call me z if you like, i know i have a long nickname,

 

if i were you i wouldnt look too deeply into it, but still be on guard, you said he recently lost his wife and you were sympathetic, it could be he is just being nice because you were nice to him, you have known him for over 8 years, maybe he just feels comfortable enough with you to say such a thing, i believe in innocent untill proven guilty, i do agree that that does seem weird and a little flirtatious what he did, but who knows? maybe its just his style? again, dont look into it too deeply would be my opinion, chances are he is just being OVERLY polite, and i wouldnt see him alone, unless its in public and never in the same car, just to be safe, dont know if he would make a move or something, not saying he will, but better safe than sorry. i am a guy, and i persoanlly always say ridiculous flirty things like that, its just something i do, i always say to all women they are the most beautiful woman inth world and i hate myself for not meeting them earlier in life before they got married, its just a funny joke i play, so i would say dont look too deep into it, but dont be silly and meet a man privately, i would always advise against that, better safe than sorry

March 6, 2011
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You're probably right and he was just be reacting to a sympathetic woman.  thanks for giving me a man's perspective.  I told my husband and he acted like it was a compliment to him for having such a hot wife. ha . I am going to have my  husband do the talking to him in the future but I am sure that things will smooth over.

March 6, 2011
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Tiger Trainer said:

yesterday i had a weird experience with my landlord. We've lived here 8 years and hardly ever see  him except when there is a problem or he comes by to do routine maintainance. He's always been very business like.  Yesterday he started in about my eyes, how beautiful they were. etc.  then he wanted to be able to come over and see me 'alone" without my husband, around. then he kissed two fingers and said, i want to give you this present one for each eye." is that just some lonely middle aged man being a bit over bearing to someone who should him sympathy?  He has recently lost his wife.or is it something more sinister? I mean I am middle aged and fifty pounds overweight myself so it's not like I am out there attracting attention.  What do you think what should I do about it?


Greetings Tiger Trainer~

 

zarathustra brings forth Excellent points & in regards to the *alone*...
It could place You in an Uncomfortable position IF he were to come over without Your Husband home...
Eight Years may be an extensive time to have contact with this Man however If You feel something is NOT
right with his mannerisms... I Encourage to go with what YOU feel within... Gut instinct is a Powerful tool
& I have said in the Past... a tool to NOT be ignored for it could mean the difference between Safe & Unsafe.

We may not be able to Control the Actions of Others but we can Control our Own~

Have You mentioned to Your Husband what he said & how that made You feel? I'm not saying he needs to
do something about it but just be aware because it appears to bother You somewhat... might be Better
to mention the next time this Man wishes to be *alone* or speaks where You are Uncomfortable...
redirect conversation where it can basically be done... brief in passing & without accepting invitation he offers
like what You mentioned... mentioning of Husband can help deter the passes made... like...
I imagine my Husband would wish to be present, catch up on current events... LoL
or
Thank You for the compliment, well I don't wish to keep You any longer... Have a Great Day! & vamoosh... LoL

Flattering he is with Compliments & I imagine You are a Beautiful Person- (I Encourage to not discount the
Beauty as a Woman You possess)
with You knowing he just lost his Wife (his actions appear to demonstrate a Loneliness alongside a want for some
type of Companionship)...
I would imagine he might be possibly needing an ear & or shoulder to lean on however You might not be able to
meet his needs that he might be seeking if You know what I mean... & he would need to Understand that so
Your boundaries are not crossed~ Thought... he has been businesslike in the Past so for him to have a different
approach then it might be advantageous to have heightened Awareness that *overfriendly* doesn't sit well in
Spirit. His *routine maintenance*... IF he needs to be inside home to fix... might be Advantageous to have Another
with You while he is in home... whether Girlfriend or Husband... Family... now I am not saying to be Alarmed... but
this way there is the avoidance of an Uncomfortable confrontation... He might be Harmless...
but again IF You are Uncomfortable... then there is something about the encounter that gives You reason to be
a little more Vigilante with Future exchanges (If any).
Hope what was spoken gives something to think about... helps in some way.

Wish You the Best with this situation ~ Have a Great One!... Blessings~

March 6, 2011
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Greetings Tiger Trainer~

I am so Silly... I read where You had mentioned to Your Husband... (Gently slaps Self in the forehead)
Geesh... I need to lay off the coffeeYell... I'm Glad he was Flattered to by the Compliment... LoL
Awesome! Now I will stop twitching & dance off this page... Laugh

Have a Great One!... Blessings~

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