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know nothing about co-dep
August 30, 2005
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I've just read some of your posts. My divorce hit me like a bomb; it's been a years since we split. I think she thinks I was co-dep. because she did all the dirty work. I swear it was no plan it just happened. If I'm co-dep it's because all my self worth came from her. With out her to think I'm special I'm not. She was like the chunk of uranium that powered the sub. She was cheating on me. I suppose that's what she needed to be able to leave. Now I have no life. Now I have no status. It's not that I can't care for self, I just feel I'm not worth taking care of. Help?

August 30, 2005
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SO HARD TO HEAR THOSE WORD'S. do some reserch for your self. if your not sure your codependant,start with the book CODEPENDANCE NO MORE. THIS USUALLY WILL SRARK SOMETHING. if you relate, keep digging. so many of us didn't know,now we know. stay here to post,alot of great people here to listen. KEEP THE FAITH,SUSAN

August 30, 2005
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Thanks Suzie, I guess I'm asking for personal opinions because when I feel like this I can't stop and read--though will. It seems like most relationship issues--especially couples councelors are basically saying the traditional model is flawed and so the chances of being affected by something are more likely than not.

August 30, 2005
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hi hollow, now is the time to build yourself back again...and part of being coda is focusing too much on the other person. I know myself, i used to be this way, "my man" was my world, i had no other hobbies or interest, and didn't hang out with friends, i got too caught up on fixing him....now i have balance in my life, still hang out with friends, work out, and have hobbies. Try to
gain yourself back and know that you are worthy. And start reading some great books on Coda by Melody Beattie, they are so helpful...oooh yes, you could try coda meetings, locally by logging onto http://WWW.CODA.ORG

GOOD LUCK!!!! (((CAMER)))

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