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kids& X spouses and who buys the presents???
September 4, 2005
9:45 pm
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I'm having quite a dilema over this, My X has a girlfriend, that he's serious about and is probably going to move in with our daughter soon to this womans house. As soon as everybody's divorce is final!!
My question is, WHO BUYS GIFTS FOR HIM, THAT WILL BE FROM OUR DAUGHTER? ME OR THE GIRLFRIEND?
He's got a birthday coming up this month and I'm really torn, should I take our daughter age(7 1/2)shopping or does the new woman in their live do it?
Let me know guys...
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September 5, 2005
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I think it is the daughter that should do it at that age...give her a small financial limit, say $10, and let her pick something at the store that she thinks daddy may like, let her present it to him. No reason to make it a relationship issue, or to make this woman a stepmother before it is official for them. And nothing he could read into any of it, the parent child relationship is best left just that, there is no reason to drive yourself crazy with things like these. This lady is his girlfriend, and will occasionally reside where your daughter does, and that is it. She has no rights or responsabilities to their parent child relationship, and you shouldn't shoulder too much either...at your daughters age it's great that she can start working on that relationship with him independant of you...he can't use it to manipulate you then!

September 5, 2005
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Oh, wait, does your daughter live with him full time? If so then you can just take her to the store when you are visiting and let her pick something, then give her a gift bag to decorate herself at home so it is COMPLETELY from her with practicly no help from you--if she lives with her father it is just a helpful hand to her in her developing her own relationship with him, not really a responsability as the full time parent.

September 5, 2005
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Ef, yeah our daughter lives with him full time, and the only reason he hasn't moved in with this woman he left me for is because she is STILL his boss and well, you know what a can of worms that would be!

I was just curious since I am the mama but she's (the other woman) is going to be the next Mrs X. and our daughter will be living with them.

Guess I don't have to buy an anniversary present this year. It would have been 6 years in Oct but the divorce is due to be final the 26th of Oct. I'll go buy ME something special 🙂

September 6, 2005
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good question, cuz i am now involved with a divorced man, who has 3 kids, not full custody, but partial and has them on the weekends only.

For Mothers day, me & the kids Dad had them make MOM a nice card with pictures and drawings etc, coming from the heart.

As for Fathers days, the kids mom went out and spent a fortune on my bf (her ex) i think cuz she still is upset cuz of the divorce even though she wanted it, but hates to see him with me.

It does get confusing, and this may have not been any help, but i do think if your daughter made you ex a nice lil gift from the heart that would be nice. She is only 7 1/2 young, and its hard to tell at this
stage with your ex already moving in with his g'friend soon enough and the divorce is not even final...who knows how things will go down the road.

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