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Kessie?
April 27, 2004
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Has Kessie disappeared? Perhaps she is wandering the beautiful English countryside with the lovely Rosa?

Kess?

April 27, 2004
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She is one powerful women is our Kessie. I have proposed to her which knocked her quiet for a while I guess ( smile) I will look into my crystal ball - yes I see a face - not too clearly - getting closer - shit! It is my own reflection. Maybe I have managed to fool you all and the SC for such a long time. Do you think this is possible - that I could be a transvestite? Tell me good Shepherd what is love. The latter is a clue. LOL Anam.

April 27, 2004
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Wow Im so lost on this thread I think Im even more confused than before

April 27, 2004
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sorry - embarrassing - I have been unable to use Internet Explorer because of some problem - but it seems OK now - I did something called system restore (which those more computer literate than I will understand - and now it seems OK again. Anyway it's got rid of whatever bug I had acquired I think it might have been something connected with some music sharing software I downloaded - no idea what it was!
Twinks the last thing I said about being negative was purely coincidence!
Mind you - I have got on with lots of things hereabouts instead of constantly looking at my computer screen. I think it was fate trying to tell me something.
Love KXX

April 27, 2004
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The clue was that I am just acting up. It worked because it got her out of slumber, Play on sweet Kes - throwing red and white roses onto the stage hopefully not your final curtain call. To watch you sweep across the boards at the Globe is no mean thing!
Ace of Spades - fret not - just go with the flow sweet one.

April 27, 2004
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Where in the hell is my turkey leg?

April 28, 2004
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Hi Tw - I hardly ever download anything - but it's something my son does all the time - which is why I just idly had a go for fun - I tried to uninstall the stuff - which is the point where everything went 'funny' (Think I should join your computer club).
That'll teach me. I won't be around much for the next few days - have a small exhibition coming up over the bank holiday, (you can tell that, because of the weather) and I'm really busy - but I'll look in from time to time

K

April 29, 2004
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There is a May festival here to do with art and music etc, only small, just from 1st-3rd May, but there is a little exhibition of art and crafts that runs at the same time, and I have some paintings in it. Which is your other thread?

April 30, 2004
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Oh, poor you, sounds horrid. I am off the computer for a few days - banned from typing on account of my poorly arm. Left hand not so efficient. We are both struck down temporarily!
See ya.... eventually....K

May 11, 2004
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twinks
She is a married women! - And I - a honourable man. How could you think this of sweet kess kes! (smile) No actually she has hurt her arm a sort of tennis elbow I think - unable to write very much.

She is one person to miss very much - a package of charm and energy - wish I could kick my honourable self - a dozen yellow roses every week would be delivered to her door. Just like the Quite Man did in the John Ford classic - to Maureen O'Hara. No petty fingers if you please - no cupping the Holy Water for her to touch after mass. Yes I could go on! LOL. Anam

May 11, 2004
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Twink a winks
Hidy Hi - My Bath move is scheduled for the 27th May - that is if my buyer exchanges contracts with me in the next two days. Keep your fingers crossed for me. How are your days moving and in what direction? Anam

May 12, 2004
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Hello Twinks - thank you for asking after me - yes, I have tennis elbow! sounds so daft, trivial, but it has incapacitated me! I got it doing some carpentry, stupidly made it worse, and now I'm paying handsomely - to a physiotherapist, who forbade me to use the hand and arm until further notice. It's on the mend a bit now, I saw her this morning so she said I could do things as long as they dont inflame the tendon or whatever.
Enough of this - how are you?, silly question, - you've just explained. You are where I was fifteen years ago. I don't - and didn't know the answer. I had been on holiday with a girl friend, and soon after I arrived home he just announced that he had met the 'love of his life' and that he 'wanted to spend the rest of his life with her' (he had actually been 'with' her for many months) So the decision was thankfully taken out of my hands. I must say, though, when I found out - I suddenly knew that I wanted a divorce, and went that very day to a solicitor. I never looked back. I think you reach a kind of point of no return - when you have a real conviction that it is what you have to do, and bear in mind that I had been married to this man for twenty four years.
My boys were seventeen and nineteen then. The younger one took it very badly.

The mood swings, the anxiety, depression, confusion, money problems; - all sound so familiar, and so far away now, thank God. But it was a hell of a long haul - much longer than I could have predicted. We haven't spoken from the day the divorce was finalised to this day, hardly even when our son died.

I have just heard that he and the love of his life have split up. I felt sorry for him at first when I heard, but now I dont give a f***.
Onward and upward, 'FIFO'
Cheers, K

May 12, 2004
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Oops, I didnt mean FIFO to you - I meant that I am trying to adopt it as my motto, instead of being the doormat that I used to be!
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May 12, 2004
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Hi there Tw. Nice to 'hear' you, too.
FIFO? Well, a while ago I was trying to organise a trip with some friends, and I was tearing my hair out because everyone wanted to leave at different times etc. My chum said to me - 'Look H**, decide what YOU want to do, then make your plan and tell everyone FIFO. "What's that"? I asked
"Fit In or Fuck Off", she said.

Sounded good to me. So from then on I became FIFO woman.
Can't say I've really stuck to it - I still grovel quite a bit, but I'm in the improvers class, now, I think.

Cheers, K

May 13, 2004
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Hey Kess!

I LOVE that motto - FIFO!

Can I adopt it as well?

Sorry to hear you are down my friend. But, be honest... you got that tennis elbow from hitting Anam and beating him off with a stick right?

Love,

Zinnie

May 13, 2004
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Dammit Z, you are SO perceptive! 'Working with wood' I called it.

Yes FIFO is indeed something to strive for! My friend Gen. is an inspiration - she has the lifestyle I aspire to - successful, stable, reliable, in control, and always there when you need her. She tells me, though, that she admires me because I have creative energy. (even though I'm as mad as a hatter)
She told me that the acronym was coined as a result of her working for IBM many years ago. One of her customers told her that he couldn't tell IBM staff apart,as they all wore the same clothes, talked the same talk etc.
She said "It's company policy......FIFO".
For everyone on this site - it should be OUR company policy.
K

May 13, 2004
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Take care, K. Good to see you here and hope you'll soon be better.

May 20, 2004
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That must explain why they all like alike here in the U.S. Twinks!

May 20, 2004
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Yep! They do all look like clones. We have several companies here like that. EDS (Ross Perot's former company), IBM, MBNA. Have you noticed they are all "initials"? What's up with that?

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May 20, 2004
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Home today with the creeping crud, and LOUD will not let me rest!

I know what you mean, I come here to check up on folks I have become attached to, but I don't post nearly like I used to. Anymore, I only look at the threads that specifically have my name on them, or if one has a title that I can relate to.

Mostly I'm on late at night as it's a good distraction from the pain for me.

But... I'm finding that turning 40 last week was just fine! Celebrated my 14th wedding anniversary, FINALLY got to hold my baby Grand-Twins. They are sooooooooo gorgeous. Would you believe that at three months, they are sleeping six to seven hours through the night? I'm also terribly impressed with my son and daughter-in-law as parents, they really work well together.

Other than that - life is good! How about you, how are things going now that you have found a possible diagnosis of your husband? Any better now with further insights?

Z.

May 20, 2004
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Do you think he would be agreeable to therapy and medication?

May 20, 2004
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If he admitted that much to you, he is very understanding that there is a problem, and I would bet that if he knew he had your support, although sure he might fight against therapy, he would go and eventually things might begin to sink in and work.

Especially as he knows his marriage is at stake. When you say lack of intimacy, are you only meaning lack of sexual contact? Is that on his part?

Twinks, do you think he really loves you still? Does he want to stay married? What attracted you to him in the first place?

May 20, 2004
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Hi Twinks,

Well, believe it or not - with all you are dealing with, you are actually in a good place because you know what you realistically have to do.

You know another thought after reading what you just wrote made me think of the other problem your husband might have - is there the possibility that he is gay, but has not accepted it himself? I say that because I have a very very dear friend of mine who is gay. Just love him to pieces, and he always tells me that he could have saved himself thousands if he had just confided in me vs. going to therapy. Not that I would recomment that... I'm not a therapist, but sometimes it does help to talk to someone who is a friend who does not judge, which is something I try not to do.

Anyway, my friend if you were to look at him, and get to know him, spend time with him, you would still never in a million years guess he was gay. He grew up in a ranching community in West Texas, where men are "real" men, literally still cowboys working their ranches. So, I imagine that had to be really hard for him. He was married for a short time, and dated lots of women. He said he loved kissing and cuddling, had no problem with that, actually enjoyed it. But, he did not become aroused. It was the feeling of closeness and love that he felt while cuddling. He said he got married thinking he "could eventually become aroused enough to have children" because he really did want to have a family. Also, kind of like you are saying, to give him the semblence of normalcy. Eventually, it became too much and they divorced, although they are still friends. Get this... he is even "Uncle" to her three children. Does any of this sound familiar?

I'm not saying that the other problem, the OCD personality disorder does not exist, but couple it with the other issue? Can that be a possibility? Did you see the movie "Far From Heaven"? If not, rent it, tell me what you think.

Well, just know that if you ever need to talk, just shout out... put a thread out ther with my name on it, and I will be more than happy to talk.

Love,

Zinnie

May 21, 2004
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Hello Tw & Z!
I have just returned from a little holiday in the Lakes, and am looking in before I turn in, so to speak. I'm feeling really tired after driving back, so I'll be back tomorrow. Tw, no I haven't seen the parrot for a while, but the Florentines are calling!

Cheers, K

May 22, 2004
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One of these days I WILL share coffee and florentines with you at the Parrot, Kessie. ----------
Look here you two - where does the Parrot hang out - no secrets please!

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