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Kare-NEW thread name..Kare..NO more abuse! New Life!
March 14, 2010
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(((Kare))), That's just manipulation. He wasn't crying and putting you and his child under stress. I'm glad you called the cops. He already has a criminal charge pending. Stay safe though. He is loose cannon. And make sure the hospital personnel know that he isn't allowed to come see her or take her. Take a picture with you and a copy of the order of restriction. Actually, you can add this to the order of restriction as well. What an nightmare. Sleep well~~~

March 15, 2010
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Hi Kare,
im glad Isabella is 'ok'...
what a complete jerk!

he has some nerve, did he care about her when he put u in the hospital when u first got pregnant?
he has 'no rights' remember that, do u have evidence from the hospital way back then, u can use that in court against him, i cannot believe that he even thinks he has a chance ...(i would hope he doesnt) he shouldnt even get 2 lay eyes on her, i know he is the 'biological' father but he has no feelings...

i think he is just doin this 2 try 2 get 2 U! u be careful,, is baby Isabella added to the RO.. i mean so he cannot C Her..? I worry about him goin 2 the hospital when u r not there... 🙁
just be careful..

I hope u r feelin good tontie..
Im sure uve seen her everyday..Is she growing?

i wish i could see a picture of her(and you)

(((Kare)))
hope u r sleeping well 🙂

March 15, 2010
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Hi,(Fantas) and (Innerturmoil)..(Fantas) It has been such a nightmare.And i have spoken to the hospital.I went to see her the other day.They told me he called up there and tried to get info.on her.He just would not stop and let us be.(Innerturmoil) Isabella has grown a little and your absolutely right he didnt care.And as of right now she is not on my RO.I have to go to court for her this month.By the way i also wish all of you can see her and i.Thank u both again.And fantas thats a good idea taken them pics.thanks

March 16, 2010
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Kare when you go to the hospital whisper to her that GiGi thinks she is special.

Go to court do whatever you have to do to keep this monster and his family away from her. We are all here to lend cyber support. You are a Mama Bear now and Mama Bears fight for their Baby Bears. You are going ot be wonderful.

Bitsy

March 16, 2010
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I will be out of the country (and offline) for a week, but wanted to lend my moral support. You are doing a great job, despite very difficult circumstances.

I am sorry this jerk is dragging you into court. No way he can win. Did you document the physical abuse he put you through during your pregnancy?

Glad you have good lawyers and parents with fortitude. All will be well. Kisses to your darling Isabelle.

- Ma Strong

March 16, 2010
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Aunty GiGi i will be sure to tell her.And im trying so hard to protect her.I hate leaving her there,because i worry that he would find a way to get her;{....Ma strong i have documents of only two incidents.Sadly all the others i didnt report......Thank u all for support thanks for the kisses to Isabella..

March 18, 2010
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Hi,everyone it has been such restless night.I hardly got any rest at all.I was worrying about Isabella alot.I know my ex.is not up to any good and i just dont want him to take her.So,i stayed up half the night,and when i fell aslleep i woke in a panick.I was so upset first because i worried so much.And because the panicking is back.I hate feeling like i have no control all over again.I hate thinking about the long lasting trauma within me.I hate when this happens i feel powerless.Just feels like no matter what i will never WIN.It scares me because it seems like everything i do doesnt matter.Because at the end of the day he still have all the power.I know i shouldnt think that way,but thats how it feels.I love Isabella so much,and for him to take me to court..gosh.... its just like he will never stop hurting me.I hope he doesnt get to see her at all.I dont want to ever be around him..ever..When i seen him that day he came by my parents house i felt like a scared child.I felt shaky, intimidated,and very afraid.For a while i just sat there.I can only imagine how difficult and traumatic it would be to have to be up close to him.Im stressed beyond words i cry constantly and at times i dont know if any of this was the right thing to do.I start to ? myself....idk anymore........

March 18, 2010
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Sweetheart, is it possible that once Isabella is out of the hospital you can go stay with relatives in another state for a week or two. Just a change of scenery and not having to look over your shoulder for him for just a little while?

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Bitsy

March 18, 2010
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Hi,((Bitsy)) um my parents and i have discussed me going to stay with my aunt in another state.And i wasnt sure at first,because i didnt want to be away from my parents with Isabella.But i think i will now because it would be better if he comes and were not there.I dont know what he might do.....I hate feeling like this...like i use to everyday..afraid...I wanna be strong for her i really do.But it has become so difficult to stay strong.Thank you for keeping me in your thoughts and prayers i appreciate that a bunch.

March 19, 2010
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OMG!!! Isabella comes home Monday.But today was the worst day of my life.Its 11:51pm where i live and i cant sleep at all.Earlier i went to see Isabella and my ex.was there.IDK why..but he was..and his mother was there also.I think that they either was waitn there for a while or something...To make matters worst i had came alone. Because my mom was going to meet me there later.My parents were at work,and i didnt wanna be home alone so i went to see her.I stayed there almost to closed visiting hours.I was so afraid and im still not feeling right at all.Im in my parents room and everything.I want her home now!!;{ The things he was saying scared me...He couldnt even control himself security was called and everything.I feel so off balanced right now.Tears....

March 20, 2010
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((((Kare))), I'm so sorry about this jerk. The good thing is you now have more evidence of his abusive tendency. Hang in there and I agree taking your baby away to your Aunt's might be good for now. You didn't write hi name on her birth certificate, did you?

His whole family is really twisted! hang in there!!

March 20, 2010
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I think my aunt house would best also.And no i didnt put his name at all.But like he's saying he is going to take a paternity test.And that it would prove he is the biological father.He said he will get Isabella cause his military background.And that he has the best lawyer and everything.He was saying he going to fight until he cant fight anymore.His exact words were "Im going to break your parents down and you'll be back".Idk why..he keeps doing this to me..and Isabella didnt do anything to him........WHY ME!;{

March 20, 2010
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(((Kare))), Wow, what a disturbed person. Did you ever figure out how they found out you had the baby? Who is the snitch? This is not about you. It's about a psychotic man who thinks he can do whatever he wants. Stay away from him. He doesn't even want you and the baby, he just wants to win. It's like he is competing with your parents. How dumb is that? He can't just do a paternity test. It needs to be court ordered.

By the way, you do have other documented acts of abuse with your school counselor and with your friends. Have you considered having your friends each write a statement and have it notarized? Your counselor can be called to testify as well. You also have the pictures from the hospital. I would think this is enough to show his ability to hurt and abuse...

March 20, 2010
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Hi,(Fantas) no i havent found out yet.And i think that is pretty crazy to try and fight with my parents also.I dont understand why he is even doing all this.And i havent thought about having my friends and counselor involved.Now that you mentioned it thats a good idea.And i should still have documentation of when i talked to my counselor.I still have the pictures on file and everything that happened that one day.

March 20, 2010
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Because you did at one point use your name on this thread or another, I think you can use this is proof as well. You need to be consulting with a lawyer. Can you file a OR for you daughter today?

March 20, 2010
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Oh,ok and me and my parents have been consulting
my lawyer.And i cant right now because i have to go to court for her first.He's not suppose to be near her anyway until we go to court.

March 20, 2010
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Wow, hang in there. Keep documenting all the times he goes against the OR against him. The thing with these psychotic people is they really do think they are above the law and just don't care about it. Don't think too much about why he does what he does, just stay vigilant and make sure he is kept at bay from your daughter....

Otherwise, concentrate on your welcome home day for you baby.. How exciting!!!!

March 20, 2010
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Just popping in to say I am reading. I don't have time to post much but I am thinking about you.

Bitsy

March 20, 2010
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Thank you (Fantas) And your right i dont want him anywhere near Isabella.Im so very excited about her coming home.I just cant wait she so beautiful.Cant wait to see her sleeping in her room and everything.smiles....(Bitsy)Thanks for checking in on me that means alot.

March 21, 2010
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I really need to talk right now;{

March 21, 2010
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Type away... we are here. What's going on hun?

March 21, 2010
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Thanks its just he came to my parents house again this morning.And he actually came to my door and everything.He was telling my parents sorry and everything.My dad end up opening the door and trying to make him go.He kept sayn he wanted to see me.And at first he wouldnt leave until we called the police.He was so wacko he was very emotional and all over the place.He kept sayn all this stuff that didnt make sense.I just really wanna hurry and get away with Isabella.Im just so sad right now and scared.

March 21, 2010
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I just dont feel safe in my home anymore.And i fear for the safety of me,my parents and Bella.I dont know what he is capable of at all.Its just a terrifying feeling.Clearly he is not thinking straight.And i even found out he knows her name...like how....i hate feeling afraid of him still.Its just every time i see him i freeze up.I just relive all the abuse and that same horrible feeling comes back.I cried for hours today its like i cant shake this feeling.I suppose to see my counselor wed.all of this is too much.My mind gets in to the same mode that it was before,and im afraid of that.;(

March 21, 2010
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(((Kare))),
I'm really sorry and I think you are right to be afraid of him. At least the police are documenting all of this. I'm really curious to know who is giving him information about your daughter? Someone is talking to him. Can the police not file a temporary RO against him for your daughter until you can go to court given his consistent irrational behavior and the fact that he is breaking the last one?

I think he should have been thrown in jail by now for breaking the last few. Not sure what is going on over there. Ya, think you should go to your Aunt's straight from the hospital. Can your parents afford a security person for the next little while? I think you should on a phone meeting with your counselor for Wed, if you are away. This is such a nightmare. I'm so sorry!

Hang in and keep posting here!

March 21, 2010
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The police said they will do something about him coming.They assured me and my parents action would be taken.So we will see what happens.And i supposed to have court tmr.for her also.I will be going to my aunts as soon as she gets out.And they can get someone,and my lawyer actually talked a lil about something like that with us.But its just we dont wanna have to stay in fear either way.And gosh i dont know who is talking to him,but they have to be close to me.Its so frustrating.....

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