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November 10, 2005
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I am just starting this whole process and doing a lot of reading. Someone mentioned a process of stepping back from a relationship gone bad. Can anyone tell me the steps involved or a resource to find them?

November 10, 2005
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I know off hand that there is detatching from a partner emotionally and going "No Contact", which is sort of a cold turkey approach to a toxic relationship. I will look around and see whta I can find about resources, I know that CoDA is one good way if you are a codapenant person.

Is your story somewhere here?

November 10, 2005
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Do you have "codependent no more"? by melody beattie - great book, really outlines the road to recovery.

Also, language of letting go, by same author....women who love too much by nora roberts....

But if you are a partner of an addict or alcoholic - al-anon or NA-anon (if there is such a thing) or codependent anonymous (www.coda.org) for 12 step support groups to help you build yourself up.

A therapist can help too.

If you are looking to get out - legal aid can help you if you can't afford it and need legal advice.

Not sure where you are at or what kind of relationship you are in, tell us more and we can be more specific.

November 10, 2005
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just bumping this up for you...

November 10, 2005
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Thanks for the information. I am going to see a counselor for the first time next week. I was in a relationship that was just not fullfilling. The more I tried the further he retreated until I felt as though the dogs menat more and definitely got more affection than I did and do. I was the one who said I need to move on but I have not been able to do so. I have recently scared myself with the obsessive lenghts that i have gone to know who he is with and what he might be doing at all times. There have been days when I could focus on nothing else. I have deleted all the IM screen names and dont call unless I really have a legitimate question, but I am having a really hard time moving on. I have begun to realize that I was a big part of the problem and I think I serious codependent issues and fear of intamacy issues. The physical pain of a broken heart has about gone away, but i just cant seem to let go.

November 11, 2005
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Hi roadback what is it that you are afraid of by letting go?

I have found that when I can't let go it is because I am afraid of something. Do you know if that might be the case?

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