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Just seperated and feeling quite horrible
November 20, 2000
11:50 am
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I am feeling confused... I am feeling hurt... and I want to,, cry. After almost 3 years, my girlfriend ended our relationship . We met in the university, had a wondeful time at first, thought we were made for each other. We started living togethe after 8 months, wondeful, as time goes by, she found the job, and I couldn't, I was trying different thinsg, so the passion was lost. She said on that night: 'I don't feel for you the way I felt before, I saw you more like brother , friend etc' Yes it's true. Due to some problems back home (parents divorced after 32 years) and I am 27 now, I was in serious depression. I love her, but never manage to express it the way i'd like to. So, she said it's over. I know that I have to live that moment, but I want her back too. I appreciate that she needs time on her own, it's ok. But I want to show her how I loved her, I still love her, we're still sleeping in the same bed, but like you know, not like before, I am going away for 12 days now. What to do next? I know that she still cares for me, I do too, but because of my inaction, and not talking to her at the right time, things came to that stage, I want to be with her, happy with her, and tell her how much I value her, only if I can see that she would listen to me.

November 20, 2000
10:14 pm
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I think everyone can relate to how you feel. Everyone perhaps except your girlfriend. It's a really hard time to go through.

You're having difficulty expressing how you feel... verbally? Why not try it in email? Some people communicate more honestly and openly in a more "sterile" medium. Just write what you feel, like it's a letter to your best friend or your counsellor or a stranger on the 'net. And see what happens. You might realize some things you didn't know about yourself too.

November 30, 2000
3:45 am
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i feel very similar to how you feel and the feeling is just utterly terrible..and i just want jump aboard on your boat to share my feelings too.. for weeks. i've been skipping home and just passing up on doing everything.. eating habits changed .. sleep deprived.. and a change in attitude.. i would cry in the mornings and nights and at times... i would be extremely angry that i break into tears.. i speak to alot of people about this problem but it just doesn't seem to help at all.. the pain lingers inside me and it hits me at various times.. i'm fully aware of what's goin on but i dont have the stamina or strength or motivation to stop it.. it just overtakes me and all i can do is just break down and cry..

i understand completely how you feel and i wish that things like this shouldn't be happening to people. but i guess everyone at some point or another .. will experience it in life. and i also wish that people should be responsible and be fully aware of their actions and how they feel so that they can avoid hurting other people.. i guess we just have to come to accepting things and move on.. but sometimes moving is so difficult becuase the wound is so deep it takes so long to heal.. especially when someone walks into your life.. presents a beautiful scenario.... and then anchors their feelings into you .. and make you care for them.. make you love them.. and only to have them turn against you in every way possible. i have to come into dealing with the lies and oh god, so much lies.. that leads to distrust. and this distrust caused further problematic issues.. i have to deal with cheating.. and selfishness.. inability to be appreciative.. and unthankful for what is already given but demanding for more... the inability to understand and cooperate... and to come to any sort of conclusion in the brief friendship/relationship... there was constant fights and arguments.. and no apologies made whatsoever for what is wrong. only able to see one point of view.. and it was just a big mess that builds up day after day.. and finally when i there is an end to all things. i come to ask for a conlcusion.. a closure of some kind becuaes i knew that it has gone way too far to forget.. .. instead.. the doors was slammed and the lights turned off.. and this is the pain i'm living with right now .. a leech that comes into my life.. suck my blood dry and leave off into its own world.. it's not nothing but emotions mixed with hate and...strangely enough.. love..

you have to come to a conclusion or acceptance. you have to seek for closure. and let time set in to heal you. an action and a decision should be made. i would never in my entire life allow myself to love or even acknowledge this person's existence ever again until a conlcusion is reached.. a closure.. of somekind.. a settlement or an understand of and acceptance of the damages that has been done on both side. and be responsible for it and learn from it.. but in your case.. you just have to come into acceptance.. let time heal you.. good luck

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