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just need to release my thoughts
August 30, 2006
11:24 pm
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I am feeling a little down on myself rightnow. I am not where I want to be. I am feeling tired, lazy and my self esteem keeps deteriorating from all the insecurities I have about the way I look and feel about myself. Lately I have given certain people importance and listened less to myself. I am so afraid of relationships. When they first start I am excited because it is new, but I have been realizing lately the guy or guys are really non-committal and are only looking for a sex partner or a "booty call" I so badly want to break away from this. I am always giving others advice and just can't seem to use it to help me. I know I will see thru this but I get so drawn into wanting to isolate myself from everyone. I know this isn't the best thing to do, but I sometimes just want to escape from myself and my thoughts. I have been lately feeling undeserving of being in a good relationship. It seems I always almost get there but I end up giving more and recieving less and when I am done trying they want to change. But I know they only change for a little while and end up being in the same spot of unhappiness. I want someone to give 100% equally. Not half ass. Just needing to vent.

August 31, 2006
6:20 am
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hi tender, why not feel good about yourself, and anytime a negative thought or laziness gets in your mind, replace it with something positive.

As for the non commital guys, they are out there, but not all men are like that, its best to pick up on
what they want and end the relationship if they are only looking for sex.

Do something for yourself, that makes you feel good, just go for a walk, anything, think good thoughts.

Hopefully by the time you read this
all the thoughts you had were just passing thoughts and you'll be feeling a lil' better.


August 31, 2006
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Nothing wrong with venting.

While the vast majority of single guys (and a few married ones too) are looking for that booty call I suspect that you are making either repetitive choices (using certain criteria) or looking in the same places (where the same type of guys are) when seeking an available male.

First I would take a break from looking. Second I would do some introspection as to "what do I really want, what is probably acceptable and what do I not want" and write this down as a list. You might surprise yourself by the results. And take it to a level that is only for your benefit (from looks, religion to work ethic).......head of thick hair is wanted, thin or slightly balding is okay, bald is not. Must like cats, dogs whatever. No pets is okay. Lover of snakes or lizards, or an animal hater is out.It is yur list so make it anyway you want.

You get the drift.

If your list is only "male, under 55 and alive" you takes your chances.

Regards. Notsure

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