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Just lost my job
February 15, 2011
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The company I work for got taken over by another company and the new manager brought all of their own people with her. The new manager called me up and started screaming and hollering at me over the phone. It was payday and when I come to get my check come to find out that I don't have a job no more. I never had no trouble at the place I always showed up for work everyday. This just came out of the blue without any warning. Don't know how I will ever find another job cause this place has a paper that says I was terminated and not rehirable. I called the unemployment number and they told me that only people who got layed off can get it not people who was fired. This paycheck wasn't a full one cause I had taken some days off when my car broke down. I don't know what I'm gonna do I have nothing in the savings my car needs a fuel pump and this check which isn't much is all the money I have. I can't sleep or eat or think straight knowing I am going to be homeless in 2 weeks if I don't pay the rent. My landlord is mean she will evict me then no one will ever rent to me again. No where to go, no family, no friends, this is driving me crazy! I have health problems and now no insurance. My job gave me a letter with my paycheck saying they won't be paying for health insurance and if I want the coverage I have to pay like $300 per month. No way can I pay for doctors appointments and medications. When I get kicked out of my place I can't keep my car here cause they will tow it as it is sitting in my assigned parking space can't move it cause it don't run, can't fix it cause no money guess I will just leave it behind with everything else I own cause I can't afford a moving van. The weather is awful darn near freezing no way can I live outside. I have been on the phone all day while I still have one the phone costs $50 per month for the unlimited plan or 10Cents a minute and that runs out the beginning of next month. I have been calling around about jobs, no one is hiring not even Mcdonalds or the dollar store. The church will just give people a couple cans of food and a box of mac and cheese they are running low on supplies and this is only once a month. Running out and finding me a partner is impossible cause of my age and weight problem I tried the dating sites no response. Damn I am feeling so backed into a corner right now.

February 15, 2011
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This morning I woke up and went throught the yellow pages and called every business I could, no one is hiring. This man that lives down the way told me about low income housing where they let you pay rent based on income I called both of the places and one of the managers said it was a 1 year waiting list and people without kids is lower down the list the other said a 2 year waiting list and that they give people who are handicap a higher number on the their list. I called the salvation army the man there told me that they have had their funds cut off and can only provide a limited assistance like a box of food once a month if I sign up then he told me there be another man who might give someone money for one month worth of rent if I get me an eviction notice trouble with that is once the eviction process starts they will not take anymore money well then he said if I have to find another place I can get first and last month and thats it trouble with that is if I got an eviction on my record then nobody rents to me this is a loop. Still be no way for me to pay for deposits to get lights and gas turned on. Why fill up job applications if no job? The grocery store clerk says when there's opening people are lined up for a half a block and then she only see them hire young ones as young as 16. I think about my stuff, all my things that I can't take with no money for storage, no way to get it to storage, thinking about this makes me feel like I have no energy to deal with it. I seen my old boy friend he looked so dirty and was smoking cigarettes said he wants to get back with me we can go live in the dirt together what I'm wondering is if sleeping in the streets is gonna get us run off or sent to a jail cause I don't think people can do that. I don't want to get no eviction and I like have 2 weeks to get up and out of here. Think I will get what I need and donate the rest if anyone wants it that lady the way she talked to me on the phone I never met her before being so rude and loosing my job like that I did call the human resource man who said he can't talk to me on the phone or give out any information unless I show up in person with my id card I just want to know if they can give out information that I was fired without my permission. I'm gonna make more calls.

February 15, 2011
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Today a thought just came acrost my mind today and I asked the maintenance man if I give him the pink slip to my car can he loan me like $1,000 and he goes sorry he don't have nothing cause he owes like a ton of money in traffic tickets or something like that I even offered to pay interset thinking I can get the money now to pay the rent next mons so i don't get into the streets. The mainentance man give me a great idea he told me that across the highway there is a place that the laady there witll loan me money probaly if I give her the pink slip to my car I think he said might be high persent like 25 persnet I dont care just need to get rent money til I find a job bad thing about all this if I don't find a job then I loose my car I can't afford the repairs and it does me no good having int sit there broken down One thing I try to do is quit smoking it cost for the cheap ones over theree dollares hard for me to quit when I am stressed then if i don't have them i get nervous can't function I know this is bad really bad like I have no will power the same thing with food. When I see the food I eat it like not self control if I try to go on a diet I jsut feel so shakey sick soon as I eat I feel good then guilty. Everyday I promise myself to exercise loose weight and eat good food then I forget I even buy those lean cuisines at the store and stick them in the microwave then it don't fill me up and I just get hungry like not evern 30 minutes later makes me understand better how hard it is to quit things. I got some bags of white rice and beans stoked up the thing is I don't like to eat that stuff makes me ill. I will have to force myself to eat it then I can save up the money to pay for the lights and gas. Always I pay everything on time I am good about that if they go turning my stuff off I will have to pay a huge deposit to get it back on. Thelight company has a thing to help with the bill the thing about that Is I have to stand in line for hours and hourse and maybe I won't make the cut plus have to walk so far is this freezing weatehr. I am tired and can't get no good rest with all of this churning inside my brain Ok have to admit I ate real good at diner a bowel of quick oats then grabbed me a handful of cheetos like no control like I just had to do it wich I had control. I'm real worried about my cates whos gonna care for them if I get kicked out or live in the dirt, one is real old and the other is real affectionate just can't do that to them wonder if they would stay with me or roam or get hit by a car they indoor cats one time one got out into the hall and the neighbor bought her back. Thinking about all my stuff I can just do without most of it will be hard can't go with out eatting just to hang onto it most I don't even know its there. Tomorrow is gonna be the first day of the rest of my life I will keep my promises keep trying to get a job all day I am willing to do anything I am a hard worker to bad someone can't realize this no they rather hire a young person. If I was older I could just go live in the nursing home nothing to worry about. I was talking to someone today and he said when people get old they usually have a spouse who takes care of them and told me to find one and I am like how I just don't want anyone what if they stink drink or are mean that won't do me no good it's not like a good one is gonna come my way. one day I hope I can sleep and have my life all comfy again I worry that there will be crappy food to eat no warmth and nothing good the way my money is gonna dwindle have no idea how I will save up for another car that puts me walking and with my health what if my legs give out. My doctor said no salt salt and sugar very bad for me and I dont listen just eat it like no control then it makes me feel sick and I wonder why I do that is it really gonna make a difference if I eat the healthy foods is it really gonna help me out.

February 15, 2011
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The grocery store had these big old cup of soups for 50 cents and I stocked up real good on them. Woot Woot! Found some other real good sales like a economy pack of cereal for like five bucks. Funny how the things I took for granted like having enough money to buy decent food has gone out the window cause I got to worry about eating there is the church down the way that gives out a meal or two if you attend service and another that has a buffet on sat instead of letting all this get me down I am writing on my calendar where to get free food, glad I remembered it cause I don't know what I would do if I got real hungry I'm so used to cooking whatever I want. My favorite thing is baking mostly cakes pinapple I made so much I had enough for two batches gave one to my neighber saved one for myself I thought when I looked on the box the pineapple and brownsugar was included I didn't have that stuff and the cake tasted like pinapple anyways. Oh ya the cake mixes was on sale the other day I got a few. Like 75 cents. dont want to stock up to much cause the stuff can go bad and get bugs in it then just go in the trash or taste stale. The kittys have to eat and they real picky especially the older one got be the one she want the flavor or she wont eat I worry about bugs getting into a stock pile orf kitty food or worse yet mice my kitys good mouser chasing down anything. Last night I try to sleep and the young one curled up right near me then the other one jumped on me waking me up. My neighbor is not getting around towell uses a cane bad back has a little dog says he can't keep getting up to walk the dog and dont know what to do like maybe want s me to help him. Just can't right now and I feel bad about that cause I gotta spend every day light hour looking for work, somewhere somehow I just don't have other experience doing anything else even Mcdonalds I would work there not too proud just don't know nothing about that fast food. OKif I beg cause thats what I am fixing to do would that work would they see that I am worthy of a job or would they rather have me be homeless or they just don't care cause they don't know me and there's so many people looking for work that turning folks away is nothing they haven't seen before as long as they have a job what do they care. For cleaning products I wll just wash everything with dishwashing liquid can't afford the fancy oxy cleaning solutions soap and water should do except the last time I ran out of stuff and I mopped with dishwashing liquid the floor was real slippery and I alsmost fell then when I threw some of that in the wash the bubbles over flowed and doubt it got rinsed out and made my skin all dry and itchy. Will need cheap washing powder. Tried to download coupons and it would not, could not find any doesn't matter no printer, printer ink is way expensive the library lets me print for free if I want to stand in line. Wish I could invent a job then just like that I will have one been looking for areas with jobs and don't see nothign. Can't move far cause i don't have a car guess I could learn to fish, then have good healthy protein to eat don't have any place for a garden to grow my food, if I did I would grow brocolli and carrots then have grape vines and cherry trees if there is no water left then that won't work. If I stock pile beans will they attract bugs same for rice I know the grains get the bolweevels and the cans explode. Pnut butter could last a while don't know if it is good for me might have a hard time to digest it. Still not tired hope I get some winks in and get some things done tomorrow who knows I might get lucky then feel dumb for worrying.

February 16, 2011
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Slept a little woke up early thinking about a job and how to find one real quick so I can get the money that I need to pay for stuff in yikes less than 2 weeks. Where can I borrow money from, not from pay advance loans cause I don't have not pay to get advanced, can't get credit cards cause I don't have credit well I could go picking though garbage cans looking for cans and bottles then walk way the heck down the highway to find a place to pay money to recylce the stuff I heard old batteries are worth something kinda heavy too hard to carry too far could look for a wagon to carry the stuff in everyday I see people with carts digging through trash busting open bags now this is what my life may come to and nothing I can do about it better than starving if I get good at it maybe I can get a motel room they like over fourty a night be spending way more than rent and getting a roach infested bed bug body fluid dive to live in just not right. I think the government needs to help the unforturnate ones out the ones who worked hard their whole life and have fallen on real hard times no nothing for a decent tax paying person just some cliche words tyring to give me false hope Oh there was a homeless shelter here that some real caring people ran out of their house let the folks sleep on the lawn in sleeping bags and tents then they lost the home very sad very sad indeed. Still can go to the loan place with the pink slip don't wanna get my hopes up to high they'll probly find some reason that I don't qualify you know no job nothing to back it up and the car ain't worth nothing not running I guess it is worth a try just  fuel pump and it'll be ok other problem is the car needs to be towed to the garage no money for a tow truck can't push it there. There is a bus and it costs money like 3 dollars for a day pass that is a lot when you don't have anything at least it is there if I need it if I get a job maybe the job can front me money to pay for the expenses of going to it til I get my first pay check. Oh dream on I had a good dream last night maybe it is an omen that there is something good coming my way except I don't see it now maybe good luck will surprise me. Thinking about the gambling casino if I took a lil bit and tried to win then I could get ahead my friend won like a couple hundred except the place is far almost an hour away I can call to see if they have the free bus that picks you up and takes you there it sure is very very cold here worried about running up the heat bill will just bundle up and try to keep the thermostat down I did hear on the tv that there's a place that pays you to take surveys then I can take surveys all day and get paid once I took a survey at the mall and they gave me 4 packages of cream cheese it was hot out I was no where near home and I gave that away it was funny real funny cause the generic cream cheese tasted better than the famous branded  one and I think I have real senstive taste buds the ones the wine testers have and I know I gave them good advice about which one tasted better. I am braving the freezing cold weather to get to the church for free food no sense in spending my last dime on store bought food if I can't afford it.

February 16, 2011
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wishing you luck on your job...........i'd still apply for unemployment, cuz i was "fired" from a job in the past, and it had to be arbitrated, and

i still ended up collecting....its worth a shot. And maybe if you have anything that is worthy, clothes, books, items, try to sell them for

extra money, every penny will count. And yeah, the economy stinks, just keep pushing out resumes, and don't give up. I was in a

"not working" phase for 6 months, sent out about 100 resumes, only went on about 4 interviews.......alot of people are looking for

jobs, just don't give up!!! wishing you a good day!Laugh

February 16, 2011
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Hello Camer thanks a bunch for telling me all of this. My past job told me that I might not be able to get any unemployment cause the last people who owned the place lost the business due to bankruptscy and the new people who bought it said that they are not responsbile and can fire all the old employees and bring their own to the place. I been calling them to ask them to look itno my files so I can see what they got against me and they been giving me a hard time about it they asked me why and I said if I get a new job what will they tell them for a reference and they said just the dates I worked there, the pay and the title nothing else. This is funny the next time I call some guy answers the phone said he found my file the next time I call now they say they cannot find my file, anywhere and I am like what you are kidding me so now if I get a job they will say they don't know me now they are saying I did not work for them I worked for the other people who used to own the place and they are the ones responsbible for all this employee file and I need to call them to get the info. except no way to get hold of them I did call a lawyer who said they only handle worker injury cases not stuff like this cause they can't get no money out of this thing. I tried to call unemployment and very hard to get through just don't know what my chance is with a situation like this then I don't think I will get much anyways like how does it work I never been on it, did't make much to begin with then again some money will be better than none at all still don't know what I will do in the mean time. 6 months is a long time did you finally get work thanks for the nice words to me I need it now. Getting ready to make more calls to find out what I can gonna still try to get unemployment on the lne.

February 16, 2011
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camer I just called the loan people and they told me that they only loan money to people who own homes taht are paid for and will not take a pink slip on my car as collerarl they told  me to call a bank I really never heard of no bank giving a person money with bad credit and a broken care I doubt I will even look into that this has me stuck. You said to sell stuff my stuff is this old, old computer with a busted big old tv looking screen a busted keey board cause one of the keys is working badly after it fell on the ground an popped off not sure the CD player in it works besides it is all I have in this world and want to take iwth with me no matter where I go I have an old style hevay TV that I got form the thrift store for twenty bucks some plastic chairs, old clothes mix matched pots and pans and dishes nothing of value except some heirloom jewlery from my family that I would get penny on the dollar for that was a great suggestion just that it wont work I doubt the thrift stores will want my stuff better then tossing it. I had a eatting table then the screw came ou and the leg fell off and I put it in the hall way and some old fella took it chopped it in half and screwed it into the walls of his tiny aparment and I can't get it back it was kinda nasty dirty and old anyways someone who got kicked out of their place gave it to me. OK I got a little cheap microwave an oldfashioned land line phone probly have to pay someone to take it off my hands. I got this big old refridgerator that the maintenance man put in his storage place that I bought second hand from old chucks junk shop like years ago I mean it is nice not all tore up just don't think I can get much I tried and the maintenance man said he has no one to buy it. Afraid it will get to the time where I have to dig through my car and into the cushions for stray coins if I has to I will that's if there is anything. Bad thing is laundry is so high costing near 3 bucks for a load of laundry in these littlel tiny washer and dryer sometimes the dryer needs another set of quarters cause the stuff is still damp and I f I leave it like that spiders might crawl in and bite me and if I get a bite no money for doctors or medicine like my old neighbor he got a big old spider bite on his stomach that swolled up and no medicine and he said he had to pour bleach on it no way would I ever do it cause bleach will burn me and I am allergic to bleach then my other neighbor had a big old spider bite on her chest said the spider crawled on her at nite and bit her the doctor told her it wasn't a poison spider a brown house spider but bit old infection she had to take medicne then the other day she come knocking on my door her sid of her face all swolled up form a broken tooth had to borrow my phone to call her mama caus my care broke and I can't get her to the hospital and someone came and got her she alrigh right now thank goodness. I'm gonna go and think some and make more calls.

February 16, 2011
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I don't have my job since I'm used to getting up and going to work I stayed on schedule out of habit I dunno now everything is closed and its dinner time will have to wait til tomorrow to start again. I did go to the park and they said that if I know how to teach something i could make a class and charge money then give 30 perscent to the place I got a packet and want to think of what to teach and turn it in I know that is something I would be good at with all my years of expereince I have to try try anything to keep my spirites lifited. Today is awful cold just bone chilling be nice to have my car and travel in luxury not on foot makes me feel like a bum good thing is I am getting good exercise. The man down the way with the dog that I can't help hime with asked me to go somewhere with him and I said no gee hate to think of having to take him up on any offers he is nice yet a little bit odd tall, no teeth, walks with a cane said he blacked out while driving years ago and damaged his spine now he is in pain I don't know why but he gets on my nerves like he wants someone to pay attention to him and right now I don't mean to be unkind but I can't think of anything except for this job thing and he don't understand cause he don't work. KInda sad though he said he had this girl friend that died at 30 and now someone said she had aides and he thinks he might have it even though all they ever did according to him was kiss and he's gonna get a test and asked me to go with and I might I don't know. He calls and always finds some excuse to have something to say first he says he's sad cause he was adopted then he calls and says he wants to quit smoking cause when he gets up in the morning he can't breath or somehting like that it doesnt' sound good he chain smokes spends so much money on that he has little left over for anything else He goes to the church for food so He gets fed then there is a place nearby that gives him food he looks like he eats. then he told me he loves music and took his music stuff to the pawn shop and wants to get it out he plays guitar, writes songs and I think he sings he asked me to come over and listen I told him no cause I really don't feel like it. Plus he has a dog and if the dog don't get out it goes on the flloor gets its little paws dirty and walks on the furnitnure I don't want to be in a small place that stinks like cigareetes and dog stuff but I don't want to offend him I just say no. I think I will go to bed in two hours thats if I can sleep I don't feel tired just wound up then in the morning I feel tired but wake up cause of all the noise from outside and the light in the window. Kitty amazing keeps my mind off of things can't believe how affectionate she is not a noisy cat either very playful all of a sudden gets a burst of energy and races all over jumping all over the place. Think I might play cards tonight I am pretty good at it keeps my mind off of this job thing then I play too long and don't get nothing done not that I have much to do just think I could spend my time better at least I have something to do. I ate some scrambled eggs for dinner and have plenty of food amazingly so and hope it lasts.

February 17, 2011
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Had a big old surprise today I was out and about and thought well I better check on my mail see if any came usually I don't check often cause I don't get much just junk nothing good well, today was different I get mail and check it and a letter saying that I had a good some of unclaimed money to collect wish the check was with it nope just a letter telling me to call write a number I called the number and it would not go through guess I will have to mail them a letter and hopefully won't be long before they sent me this money I know sounds to good to be true but this is for real. OK its not a huge sum enough to pay for rent and utilities and food for one month just hope it gets here before rent is due working on answering the letter and sending it back spent the day out and about getting stuff done looking into jobs tonight I have to meet a friend that will be nice just gonna be late and hope I won't be to tired took a nap today should be fine I did some washing and straightening up I feel better feel like there is some light her at the end of the way shining through weather not too bad not as freezing as before still cold this I can tolerate. Got me some TV dinners on sale like cheap 99 cents cause I don't need to be throwing away good money on food like a big old hunk of meat, cook it up then don't feel like eatting it day after day while it gets cold hard and dry. I like chicken and I forgot to buy some that I liked with steamed veggies maybe tomorrow I will remember to buy some or when I run out of food don't really like meat too much the other day I ate some onion in my food and it made me feel sick cause I read somewhere that this would be good for my health and cure my health problem but my stomach hurt for days seems some of it is healthy but doesn't agree not like I have a problem with my stomach cause I don't. Have no idea how I am doing with the diet thing cause no scale no way to weight myself just try to tell by looking. Think I'm gonna cut me up some potatoes that I got real cheap in a bag last week for under a dollar. Can bake a cake.

February 18, 2011
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Greetings care2much~

Wow... a lot has happened in such a short period of time but I wanted to say I wish You the BEST during this trial & will come back later to bring for more than just these Words... wanted to let You know there are Person(s) having You in Thought & prayers... I'll need to read each of Your Entries to get a Better grasp of the situation~ & do Encourage to keep chin up... I've seen Persons go from nothing to something... & visa versa but seems You are trying hard to pick Self up & look at the Bright Side of things~ Bravo! I Encourage to continue looking at the Bright Side... like that saying... after every storm, there is a Gorgeous rainbow!... Wish You the Best!Laugh I'll be back... Blessings~

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Hi there LoveandLIght. I'm so happy to look and see this answer to me. Thanks a bunch, really. Things were going along as usual just fine no problems whatsover then bam this job thing came out of nowhere for a while there were people getting fired I just could not believe it happened to me or could happen to me with no warning or reason all because the old company went out of business did not let on to anything about anything. It's like there are not jobs not the best time to loose one and the money thing. With this holiday upon us and things not open I didn't do anything except stay inside out of the freezing cold and stay warm things won't pick up til the holiday is over until Tuesday. I was hoping to take a little trip somewhere, not a good idea with cold weather and messed up car. I still have a positive outlook and a plan to survive all of this. Appreciate the postive words will be looking for a rainbow and maybe even a pot of gold who knows.

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Welcome to AAC.  You are sure going through a difficult time.   Just try to keep a positive attitude and keep looking for a job.  When one door closes and even better one can open if you are willing to walk through it.   Hang in there and keep us posted on your situation. Hugs!!!

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The company I work for got taken over by another company and the new manager brought all of their own people with her. The new manager called me up and started screaming and hollering at me over the phone. It was payday and when I come to get my check come to find out that I don't have a job no more. I never had no trouble at the place I always showed up for work everyday. This just came out of the blue without any warning. Don't know how I will ever find another job cause this place has a paper that says I was terminated and not rehirable. I called the unemployment number and they told me that only people who got layed off can get it not people who was fired. This paycheck wasn't a full one cause I had taken some days off when my car broke down. I don't know what I'm gonna do I have nothing in the savings my car needs a fuel pump and this check which isn't much is all the money I have. I can't sleep or eat or think straight knowing I am going to be homeless in 2 weeks if I don't pay the rent. My landlord is mean she will evict me then no one will ever rent to me again. No where to go, no family, no friends, this is driving me crazy! I have health problems and now no insurance. My job gave me a letter with my paycheck saying they won't be paying for health insurance and if I want the coverage I have to pay like $300 per month. No way can I pay for doctors appointments and medications. When I get kicked out of my place I can't keep my car here cause they will tow it as it is sitting in my assigned parking space can't move it cause it don't run, can't fix it cause no money guess I will just leave it behind with everything else I own cause I can't afford a moving van. The weather is awful darn near freezing no way can I live outside. I have been on the phone all day while I still have one the phone costs $50 per month for the unlimited plan or 10Cents a minute and that runs out the beginning of next month. I have been calling around about jobs, no one is hiring not even Mcdonalds or the dollar store. The church will just give people a couple cans of food and a box of mac and cheese they are running low on supplies and this is only once a month. Running out and finding me a partner is impossible cause of my age and weight problem I tried the dating sites no response. Damn I am feeling so backed into a corner right now.


Greetings care2much~

Hope Your Day is going MUCH MUCH Better & I mentioned I would be back~ & go through each section posted if I am led to do~
From what I have read in this section~... I have heard & seen when there is a buy out from Another Company... it is not Unusual for New Management to bring in their Own People~ & I would think You might be eligible for Unemployment & hopefully have applied for it since You received Your notice~ so based on the *reason* they let You go... You might qualify for some monies.

Re: Eviction-

***Now every State has their Own Laws but I would think if Your place of stay is NOT owned by a Property Management Company... the Person might (Personally) Better Understand times can be hard & IF You have been Cordial- Friendly to the Landlord (maybe even paid rent on time in the Past)... Person might give You a smidge more time to pay... so hopefully IF You receive Unemployment... that money could take care of Your needs to an extent.

There is a Process for Eviction & it is Highly Recommended to Understand-Know the process for Your State... there are Legal proceedings a Landlord must go through etc... to Evict & there is a time frame as well for Tenant(s) to be out of place.
I don't imagine Landlords wish to go to court for they at times end up on the losing end re: money...

I noticed You mentioned *Church*... IF this is a *Church* You attend... I imagine there are Person(s) who can even give sound Advice & steer in the Right Direction- also provide Other Resources for You... IF not a *Church* You attend... seems like they have provided some food items which is Better than Nothing... maybe they whomever heads Ministry can direct You to Other Resources too...

Re: Health Insurance-
***Cobra can be quite Expensive... quite...

It might be Advantageous to look into Clinics that offer *Free* or on a *Sliding Scale* based on income...
Many provide Quality Services & even give Recommendations- Referrals... Other Services that You might find Helpful.
Savings is Great when there can be an alternative to coverage & can get You the Medication (Free or at Low Cost) or provided *Free Samples*
directly from the Doctor- Even Doctor You currently have... might be able to give You *Free Samples*... Just a Thought...

Re: Car- leaving behind Personal Belongings

***I remember when I moved... it was Difficult to part with things however I learned there are Necessities & the *I want these*... LoL
It is also Amazing what People will buy when You offer to sell ... there is also way to donate where say- Am Vets or American Red Cross etc will come to pick up items You wish to donate (rid off hands) also items might be tax deductible... & same with car... there are *Churches* that will take vehicles & provide tax deductible benefit to the Donor...

A Thought- Health & Human Services provide Services that go beyond Mothers with Children... also Services for those in a Dire Situation or are Disadvantaged... Food- Clothing & Shelter also are available pending on where You Live...
These are just ideas to maybe look further into~ but again... doesn't hurt to investigate & have the information... may come in handy.

Sometimes... when You think there is *No Way Out*... & think that a Person would not Empathize like Your Landlord... it can be quite the opposite... Never know what can come... when the Internal Perspective Changes... it can also Change the direction of Other things...
Also Co-Workers You might have Befriended... may know of Additional Resources... maybe even a Mechanic to get the car running or would buy the car that hasn't been working for a period of time...

Re: Running out and finding me a partner is impossible cause of my age and
weight problem I tried the dating sites no response. Damn I am feeling
so backed into a corner right now.

***Now Personally I wouldn't recommend *finding* Someone for the sake of this Situation... that tends to backfire big time...
however I Encourage You to look passed what You *feel* are Your flaws when to Another they might be Beauty marks so to speak.
IF You feel Good about Yourself from the Inside- the right Person would be attracted to that Quality I imagine & many sparks could fly~
even more the way You wish for them tooWink  Dating Sites might not be the Priority right now from what You have mentioned is going on...
Seems there are Many Other things to take PrecedenceWink...
Hope what I shared gives some Ideas...

I wish You the Best with this!... I'll try to Address the Other Responses You have brought forth-  Blessings~

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This morning I woke up and went throught the yellow pages and called every business I could, no one is hiring. This man that lives down the way told me about low income housing where they let you pay rent based on income I called both of the places and one of the managers said it was a 1 year waiting list and people without kids is lower down the list the other said a 2 year waiting list and that they give people who are handicap a higher number on the their list. I called the salvation army the man there told me that they have had their funds cut off and can only provide a limited assistance like a box of food once a month if I sign up then he told me there be another man who might give someone money for one month worth of rent if I get me an eviction notice trouble with that is once the eviction process starts they will not take anymore money well then he said if I have to find another place I can get first and last month and thats it trouble with that is if I got an eviction on my record then nobody rents to me this is a loop. Still be no way for me to pay for deposits to get lights and gas turned on. Why fill up job applications if no job? The grocery store clerk says when there's opening people are lined up for a half a block and then she only see them hire young ones as young as 16. I think about my stuff, all my things that I can't take with no money for storage, no way to get it to storage, thinking about this makes me feel like I have no energy to deal with it. I seen my old boy friend he looked so dirty and was smoking cigarettes said he wants to get back with me we can go live in the dirt together what I'm wondering is if sleeping in the streets is gonna get us run off or sent to a jail cause I don't think people can do that. I don't want to get no eviction and I like have 2 weeks to get up and out of here. Think I will get what I need and donate the rest if anyone wants it that lady the way she talked to me on the phone I never met her before being so rude and loosing my job like that I did call the human resource man who said he can't talk to me on the phone or give out any information unless I show up in person with my id card I just want to know if they can give out information that I was fired without my permission. I'm gonna make more calls.


Greetings care2much~

It seems You are making the phone calls & given some Information to have for Future Reference~... what is Encouraged is this...
IF You are Advised to fill out Applications even IF a Waiting List... What have You got to lose by filling it out?
Now if You choose to NOT fill it out... You have already lost right?

Also I Encourage to track who said what & details of what was said... for Future ReferenceWink

Re: the old Boyfriend

***I don't imagine old Boyfriend Situation as an option...
There is that saying: Misery Loves Company & I don't imagine You would be Happy in his World...

Re: Health & Human Resources... (Social Services)

***Because in earlier Post You mentioned You were let go- (fired or however You wish to phrase)... it was against Your will from what I Understand so I would NOT think You would be penalized for that by the Health & Human Services & from what I understand... they also help with Job Placement. With that- You might find Yourself in Good Hands if You give them a Chance to show You what is available...
Also... re: Utilities... there are Non-Profit Organizations that do provide help for those who have had Utilities shut off etc... they may pay ONE TIME but at least there is that option... I Encourage to look forther into that...Wink

Just a Thought~

Keep that chin up! ... Blessings~

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Today a thought just came acrost my mind today and I asked the maintenance man if I give him the pink slip to my car can he loan me like $1,000 and he goes sorry he don't have nothing cause he owes like a ton of money in traffic tickets or something like that I even offered to pay interset thinking I can get the money now to pay the rent next mons so i don't get into the streets. The mainentance man give me a great idea he told me that across the highway there is a place that the laady there witll loan me money probaly if I give her the pink slip to my car I think he said might be high persent like 25 persnet I dont care just need to get rent money til I find a job bad thing about all this if I don't find a job then I loose my car I can't afford the repairs and it does me no good having int sit there broken down One thing I try to do is quit smoking it cost for the cheap ones over theree dollares hard for me to quit when I am stressed then if i don't have them i get nervous can't function I know this is bad really bad like I have no will power the same thing with food. When I see the food I eat it like not self control if I try to go on a diet I jsut feel so shakey sick soon as I eat I feel good then guilty. Everyday I promise myself to exercise loose weight and eat good food then I forget I even buy those lean cuisines at the store and stick them in the microwave then it don't fill me up and I just get hungry like not evern 30 minutes later makes me understand better how hard it is to quit things. I got some bags of white rice and beans stoked up the thing is I don't like to eat that stuff makes me ill. I will have to force myself to eat it then I can save up the money to pay for the lights and gas. Always I pay everything on time I am good about that if they go turning my stuff off I will have to pay a huge deposit to get it back on. Thelight company has a thing to help with the bill the thing about that Is I have to stand in line for hours and hourse and maybe I won't make the cut plus have to walk so far is this freezing weatehr. I am tired and can't get no good rest with all of this churning inside my brain Ok have to admit I ate real good at diner a bowel of quick oats then grabbed me a handful of cheetos like no control like I just had to do it wich I had control. I'm real worried about my cates whos gonna care for them if I get kicked out or live in the dirt, one is real old and the other is real affectionate just can't do that to them wonder if they would stay with me or roam or get hit by a car they indoor cats one time one got out into the hall and the neighbor bought her back. Thinking about all my stuff I can just do without most of it will be hard can't go with out eatting just to hang onto it most I don't even know its there. Tomorrow is gonna be the first day of the rest of my life I will keep my promises keep trying to get a job all day I am willing to do anything I am a hard worker to bad someone can't realize this no they rather hire a young person. If I was older I could just go live in the nursing home nothing to worry about. I was talking to someone today and he said when people get old they usually have a spouse who takes care of them and told me to find one and I am like how I just don't want anyone what if they stink drink or are mean that won't do me no good it's not like a good one is gonna come my way. one day I hope I can sleep and have my life all comfy again I worry that there will be crappy food to eat no warmth and nothing good the way my money is gonna dwindle have no idea how I will save up for another car that puts me walking and with my health what if my legs give out. My doctor said no salt salt and sugar very bad for me and I dont listen just eat it like no control then it makes me feel sick and I wonder why I do that is it really gonna make a difference if I eat the healthy foods is it really gonna help me out.


Greetings care2much~

Sounds like from what I read here... there was a lot on the Mind...
I'm a Single Mother of Two & work to make ends meet even on a road that may appear like it has no end...
There are days I remember where I Wondered where the next meal would come... however...
there were things I had to forego... give up that was not doable... or in the Budget... because it was a Luxury I couldn't afford...

Basically it came down to this~ when there is a *Change* I imagine it can be Overwhelming...
I imagine there are Many who have been through similar & have Stories to tell... Some might appear Worse or Better off than what
You mention You are going through...
but You walk in Your shoes & know how that feels...

IF You are taking the bus to get to places to get Your food & or other things (took bus to get to work before)... that is Good You have reliable transportation.
I didn't get the indication You had a vehicle because it wasn't running-

There are Dollar General Stores or 99Cent type stores that sell similar foods You would find in a Grocery Store that might fit Your Budget for now...
I made sure my Children (Munchkins) had Food but learned how to be Creative & do the MacGyver method to scrimp & save...

Sometimes I found that Overanalyzing & or going into Panic Mode can cause more Chaos than what is currently happening where Sound Ideas get overlooked... It can be so Easy to see how something may NOT work but in Reality... it might or something else might work Better...

Just a Thought again... I found that when I'm talking to Persons who might provide Service(s) or are a Resource... how I talk to the Person & being very sure that I am Respectful & Polite... for any Attitude on the Phone & or in Person... basically can ish- nay any help he or she might & or could provide...
I've heard Person(s) on the Phone get Attitude & as quickly as they called... they were quickly put last in line (I was waiting in line to be helped at the time) & have witnessed... also was in posiition to provide the help... been on both sides of the aisle...

Also- IF You have Cable & it is costing a pretty penny... that might be an area to cut back on & I have known Person(s) to use the Library for awhile... etc... IF You have a laptop... & can go to an Internet Cafe & use their Service for *Free*... might save You some money as well...
& I know of Person(s) who have stayed in Motel-Hotel & paid a monthly rate- so there was a roof over head (Utilities paid) & there are Organizations that help arrange Shelter where You can keep Your cats (either in Motel-Hotel with You or maybe give Recommendations of *Safe Places* for them to be cared for until You & they can be reunited)

Wish You the BEST!
Hope this helps with Ideas... Blessings~

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The grocery store had these big old cup of soups for 50 cents and I stocked up real good on them. Woot Woot! Found some other real good sales like a economy pack of cereal for like five bucks. Funny how the things I took for granted like having enough money to buy decent food has gone out the window cause I got to worry about eating there is the church down the way that gives out a meal or two if you attend service and another that has a buffet on sat instead of letting all this get me down I am writing on my calendar where to get free food, glad I remembered it cause I don't know what I would do if I got real hungry I'm so used to cooking whatever I want. My favorite thing is baking mostly cakes pinapple I made so much I had enough for two batches gave one to my neighber saved one for myself I thought when I looked on the box the pineapple and brownsugar was included I didn't have that stuff and the cake tasted like pinapple anyways. Oh ya the cake mixes was on sale the other day I got a few. Like 75 cents. dont want to stock up to much cause the stuff can go bad and get bugs in it then just go in the trash or taste stale. The kittys have to eat and they real picky especially the older one got be the one she want the flavor or she wont eat I worry about bugs getting into a stock pile orf kitty food or worse yet mice my kitys good mouser chasing down anything. Last night I try to sleep and the young one curled up right near me then the other one jumped on me waking me up. My neighbor is not getting around towell uses a cane bad back has a little dog says he can't keep getting up to walk the dog and dont know what to do like maybe want s me to help him. Just can't right now and I feel bad about that cause I gotta spend every day light hour looking for work, somewhere somehow I just don't have other experience doing anything else even Mcdonalds I would work there not too proud just don't know nothing about that fast food. OKif I beg cause thats what I am fixing to do would that work would they see that I am worthy of a job or would they rather have me be homeless or they just don't care cause they don't know me and there's so many people looking for work that turning folks away is nothing they haven't seen before as long as they have a job what do they care. For cleaning products I wll just wash everything with dishwashing liquid can't afford the fancy oxy cleaning solutions soap and water should do except the last time I ran out of stuff and I mopped with dishwashing liquid the floor was real slippery and I alsmost fell then when I threw some of that in the wash the bubbles over flowed and doubt it got rinsed out and made my skin all dry and itchy. Will need cheap washing powder. Tried to download coupons and it would not, could not find any doesn't matter no printer, printer ink is way expensive the library lets me print for free if I want to stand in line. Wish I could invent a job then just like that I will have one been looking for areas with jobs and don't see nothign. Can't move far cause i don't have a car guess I could learn to fish, then have good healthy protein to eat don't have any place for a garden to grow my food, if I did I would grow brocolli and carrots then have grape vines and cherry trees if there is no water left then that won't work. If I stock pile beans will they attract bugs same for rice I know the grains get the bolweevels and the cans explode. Pnut butter could last a while don't know if it is good for me might have a hard time to digest it. Still not tired hope I get some winks in and get some things done tomorrow who knows I might get lucky then feel dumb for worrying.


Greetings care2much~

After reading this Post... the FIRST thing that came to me was...

Re: the Older Neighbor with the cane & back problem...

***I can Understand how You are busy looking for work from what You are speaking of in the Post however...
I have found how by helping Another (without *Expectation* in return) can do Wonders for the Spirit-
NOT just for Yours but for his...

Many may not be able to put themselves in Your shoes but IF You try to put Yourself in his... he is in need & IF You offered to help which I don't imagine would take much time at all... just to walk his dog... should not take all day... You would really be doing him a Favor & doing a Selfless Act...
NOT a Selfish Act but a Selfless Act... (not just thinking of Self)

& there are Great Value items from the store that You can buy which hopefully won't make Your skin itch...
Noodles can go a long way along with rice... make gravy with flour & water etc... I imagine there are Many here who have money saving recipes that can last much longer than a single day... & lentils- other beans can fill & provide protein... & maybe Your Neighbor(s) might have coupons that You might be able to use...  I remember watching a show where these Ladies saved so much money by clipping coupons... yesssssssssss they spent much time doing but that was what they enjoyed & made their Passion- (I don't recommend spending all day doing such) there are even magazines in front of the Stores that are Freebies (offering Free Services- Listing them) even Sites that You can receive Freebies & have mailed to Your place... Sometimes the Resources are right under Your nose when You least expect it...

Unless Your place of stay gets overly warm or overly cold & storage becomes a problem... I imagine You could store Your items in a Glad type of container or Tupperware type of container so the *bugs* don't get into them... even in the fridge if You need to...
Heck if our Ancestors could store *without* refrigeration let alone Tupperware products... anything is basically possible... LoL

I wanted to ask... have You a resume to go with Your Application(s)? Have You tried Temporary Services also? Just wanted to ask~

Have a Great Day! ... Blessings~

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Slept a little woke up early thinking about a job and how to find one real quick so I can get the money that I need to pay for stuff in yikes less than 2 weeks. Where can I borrow money from, not from pay advance loans cause I don't have not pay to get advanced, can't get credit cards cause I don't have credit well I could go picking though garbage cans looking for cans and bottles then walk way the heck down the highway to find a place to pay money to recylce the stuff I heard old batteries are worth something kinda heavy too hard to carry too far could look for a wagon to carry the stuff in everyday I see people with carts digging through trash busting open bags now this is what my life may come to and nothing I can do about it better than starving if I get good at it maybe I can get a motel room they like over fourty a night be spending way more than rent and getting a roach infested bed bug body fluid dive to live in just not right. I think the government needs to help the unforturnate ones out the ones who worked hard their whole life and have fallen on real hard times no nothing for a decent tax paying person just some cliche words tyring to give me false hope Oh there was a homeless shelter here that some real caring people ran out of their house let the folks sleep on the lawn in sleeping bags and tents then they lost the home very sad very sad indeed. Still can go to the loan place with the pink slip don't wanna get my hopes up to high they'll probly find some reason that I don't qualify you know no job nothing to back it up and the car ain't worth nothing not running I guess it is worth a try just  fuel pump and it'll be ok other problem is the car needs to be towed to the garage no money for a tow truck can't push it there. There is a bus and it costs money like 3 dollars for a day pass that is a lot when you don't have anything at least it is there if I need it if I get a job maybe the job can front me money to pay for the expenses of going to it til I get my first pay check. Oh dream on I had a good dream last night maybe it is an omen that there is something good coming my way except I don't see it now maybe good luck will surprise me. Thinking about the gambling casino if I took a lil bit and tried to win then I could get ahead my friend won like a couple hundred except the place is far almost an hour away I can call to see if they have the free bus that picks you up and takes you there it sure is very very cold here worried about running up the heat bill will just bundle up and try to keep the thermostat down I did hear on the tv that there's a place that pays you to take surveys then I can take surveys all day and get paid once I took a survey at the mall and they gave me 4 packages of cream cheese it was hot out I was no where near home and I gave that away it was funny real funny cause the generic cream cheese tasted better than the famous branded  one and I think I have real senstive taste buds the ones the wine testers have and I know I gave them good advice about which one tasted better. I am braving the freezing cold weather to get to the church for free food no sense in spending my last dime on store bought food if I can't afford it.


Greetings care2much~

I read through what You have spoken & felt nudged to say this... it can *appear* that there are Persons who receive Blessings & maybe not be deserving of them & there are Persons who do *cheat* the System... & get away with that... I imagine that can be applied to all facets of Life...
but I Encourage to not let their Deceit leave a sour taste in mouth- I Encourage You to uphold Higher Moral Standards... Ethics- & Values...

I can also imagine it Frustrating when You are in need from what You speak & the Resources might not be available for You at the time...

There are ALL different Faiths that frequent this Site... but I can only speak for me... my Faith has kept me grounded & has taken care of needs
not only for myself but for my Children (Munchkins)
I've been without & been with... Both times I have felt Blessed because I looked at it like this...
Without the Struggles... I would NOT be Stronger... Without the Affliction... I wouldn't be able to Brave Another Day...
Many have just given up when there was not an easier way out... Where there is a Will there is a Way!

One Person's Trash is Another Person's Treasure I get reminded... what You might see as a Failure... Another might see as a Triumph!

When I had change in my pocket... & for a moment Thought- I am Broke... I got reminded that Another had no roof over head & not a penny to name but was Rich... he did not see himself Broke or Without...
things are NOT always what they appear I get told very often...
It's the Attitude-Perspective taken that determines Wealth from how I was taught...

From what You have spoken at the Beginning of this Thread... You have done much... have tried hard & may not have received what You felt You should receive but I Encourage You to look at it maybe this way.... what You don't need within Your Life that You can let go (let it go)... that is weighing You down... & then what are the Necessities... that You *feel* You can't be without because it is Life threatening... (Medications etc) work to hold onto... find way to keep...

Just from what I have read... there seem to be *Reasons* for why this or that won't work... but do You know they won't work? What gives You *proof* they won't work?
Sometimes a F.E.A.R. of trying Something can be more Overwhelming & does Self-Sabotage than the F.E.A.R. itself...
So many times I have been placed outside my Comfort Zone it was more Uncomfortable just thinking about it- so easy to just give up... forget about it...
but there are things I had to face... had to go through & had to deal with its Resolution...

I stand here Today because of that~

There are Others who have also... so I Encourage to Fear NOT! Not let the F.E.A.R debilitate You & or destroy the Dream for a Better Tomorrow...

I've seen a penny I held become dollars... overnight... Blessings can come in the most Unlikely of forms... & from the Unlikely of SourcesWink
Blessings can come if You give it a Chance by planting that seed of Hope!
Many are rooting for You I imagine~ Again- keep that chin up!!!

Best Wishes care2much... Blessings~

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Hi there LoveandLIght. I'm so happy to look and see this answer to me. Thanks a bunch, really. Things were going along as usual just fine no problems whatsover then bam this job thing came out of nowhere for a while there were people getting fired I just could not believe it happened to me or could happen to me with no warning or reason all because the old company went out of business did not let on to anything about anything. It's like there are not jobs not the best time to loose one and the money thing. With this holiday upon us and things not open I didn't do anything except stay inside out of the freezing cold and stay warm things won't pick up til the holiday is over until Tuesday. I was hoping to take a little trip somewhere, not a good idea with cold weather and messed up car. I still have a positive outlook and a plan to survive all of this. Appreciate the postive words will be looking for a rainbow and maybe even a pot of gold who knows.


Greetings care2much~

I tried to reply to each Post separately which would make it easier to read & also hopefully easier to Understand... LoL

Wanted to add One thing... I used to easily get Overwhelmed... Years Ago... used to Worry about Everything...
down to the wire... what would happen in the next minute & realized there are things *beyond* our *Control*...
We can only *Control* what is within our *ability* to do~ We can *Control* how we *Respond* to the Action- Event
& I realized how difficult it can be to relinquish *Control* ... I wanted to take hold of Everything- thinking I could do it... etc.

There are only so many hours in a Day... 24... that won't Change no matter how hard You work to Change...
There is only One You... so cloning right now is not an option... LoL...
Some *Action* is needed on Your part to get Results to an extent...
Very few things fall into lap... Your cats may be One... LoL

Time cannot be replaced... Once it is gone... Adios! it is gone... does not come back for an encore...
So time a Precious Commodity...

We can only do what is in our ability to do- we will be given just enough that we could handle (Some might think they can't
handle it by limiting Self- undermining Own Gifts)
(Some might think they can handle it all- Nobody might be able to do it Better)

Positive Thoughts & prayers I extend & I imagine Many Others extend Your way for much Success in All You do~
Good I have found does come out of the Worst Situations... it may not been seen right away but down the line...
there is that rainbow...Laugh

Best Wishes!! ... Blessings~

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dear curious64 I appreciate you stoping by to give me moral support that is important to me at this time in mylife. All I can do is hope that there will be a better job on the horizon, the other job was not that great although it did provide stready income and pay bills, it was my whold life there for a while and now it is gone. My attitude is one of wait and see not one of despair I do have a plan and write all of my ideas down on a list so as not to fortet them and do follow up on everything. Today was productive day i looked into opportunites and took many of my own ideas into consideration being ery careful to monitor the money situation so as not to run out. Trying now to network on line to see if anyone has any ideas, suggestions or job leads, I never know and no sense in sitting around waiting for someone to knock at my door.

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dearest Lovinglight thanks a bunch for answering my problems and helping out just want you to know that I am reading every word cause I realize I am open to all suggestions and you have offered some great ones, ones that I have never considered before. OK the eviction thing this person has a regular that goes around taking people to court left right and center you should see all the eviction signs on the places you wouldn't believe it I swear, lets see 3 no less the places empty with junk and flies buzzing aroudn cause the people couldnt pay. Like this person don't mess around with nobody yeah if I was to proof I could pay and had money coming in she would give me more time cause all she care about is the money. Tomorros I gonna send in the paperwork to get this money that someone says they have that belongs to me and that will help out provding they don't take forever or forget to send it. I am gonna file for unemployment as I have nothing to loose first thing tomorrow I am calling, standing in line whatever it takes I just don't think it pays much it will be better than nada. OK this thing about me trying to find someone I did go on line and try to register with the dating services all I got so far was some smiles whatever that means and some people looking at me then as I think more about it not a good idea right now as I have nothing to offer and know I aint the cutest apple on the tree and if they want to pass me up well they can jolly well go right ahead and I just don't think I am crazy about strangers not really into the romance end and I am trying to loose weight hard to when I am like not on a schedule I ate a artichoke and a piece of homemade chocolate cake with no frosting not the type of thing a dieter would eat. Now this business about the old boy friend I think he either lives in the streets or with another woman and he looks filthy I just know he said he loves me and I beleive him just hope he isn't hitting the bottle. The human service is off the highway and I plan to go and fill up some application to see if I can get something anything I don't care and from what I know they take a while toprocess it won't happen over night. This woman told me that the church is renting an apartment for ahomeless woman maybe then can help me but I am not really a member or a regualr attender just a person who gets the free food and meals that type of thing. the bus is like three bucks for a day pass and that adds up the car is needing repairs that I cant afford I am trying to decide if I should spend money to fix it and maybe live in it or just leave it unfixed and pay rent, probaly I wil pay rent cause Its against the law to live in a care. this internet thing I don't own a lap top I rmember long time ago when I did I was able to pick up wi fi. I hate to loose my ability to network if it happens int happens there is a way to make calls then again I tried and the person I was talking to couldn't hear my voice and I could here theres. This is a great idea and I will put it on my list of ways to cut back. People can get motel vouchers I have no idea how or from who for a couple of nights from what I learned the motels are like 40 bucks a night the cats are a concern I can't bear to think of living with out them they only know me and I dont think there is anyone who would want someones old cat and a young wild one. My neighbor wants the dog walked several times a day and for me to take him here and there and to give my time and food for free. I have given him several bags of groceries whan I had my care to picke them up and a job to buy them with then again he can afoord to chain smoke and feed a dog and I have to wonder his needs are endless then I think he is lonely and only talks about his problems is one mood one minute the next something else he talks to all the drug addicts and drunks this type of man and I just can't deal with him right now I mean I do take his calls every now and then and he says he is lonley all fo this depressing stuff its like he will ask to do a christmas thing with me I get up plan the day then says at the last minurte now cause heis depressed thinking about his adoption then I say OK lests go to church and he will call last minute and say no then he will call and say he wants to go then he talks behind my back telling people I dont' do what eh wants the way he wants and he doesnt like a peson like me asking him to make plans have a schedule. The type that wants someon to do things his way. Now I can't even deal with all of that. He does have a service to pay for someone to cook and clean it does not pay to walk his dog, type his songs, move his furniture. He finds people then they never come back cause he is always telling them come don't come. I used to feel sorry for him he doesn't care about my job loss and my worries thats Ok I don't need him to I understand he is sick and don't no no better. I have been filling out job applications on line cause that is how they do it now a days no more go to the place and fillup and job applicaton they really don't have temp. services here just some jobs to take care of elderly then you must have a car then drive here and work an hour or two then drive there and work an hour or tow no gass money I would take a job if offerend OH Yeah have to pay 45 bucks for a finger print that I don't have and go to trainging that I will go to but you have to find someone who want s you to care for them first. I did apply to the church to do some child care and they said maybe someone will let me do that until I find a job except it don't pay much like 20 bucks a day and that is better then nothing hope they dont need me to have a care or live far from the bus stop. Tommorw I have a plan and will get some more things done my plans go through until the first week in March trying to pretend I still have a life. I read everyword and am absorbing this into my brain cause I can't think things through due to feeling lost.

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care2much,

I am trying to read yor posts, but it is really hard for me when they are all in a big bunch like that. I had some head injuries and it affects how I read on the computer sometimes. I will try to follow, but I have to take it slow. If you can maybe break it up into paragraphs on your next posts, it would be very helpful. Thanks.

 

I know a lot of what you are going thru. I have been there myslef. When my ex-husband left me, he let our house go into foreclosure and I was evicted in the middle of winter and homeless because he cleaned out the bank accounts before he left, so I did not even have the money for a hotel.  Luckily I had some really good friends and neighbors who could help me with what they could. I am in the military, so the military also had some resources and emergency relief. My Commanding Officer at the time was very understanding, and my other leaders let me take time off when I needed to go to court or look for a place to live. I had one supervisor who even went with me to court, and talked to the judge to let the judge know that a lot of my situation was not my fault. They knew of my ex-husband, and thought he was a good guy and responsible person. He had a job with the federal government…..But he also had a gamling and shopping addiction.

 

Don't lose hope. You can pull yourself out of this. It feels like you are being sucked into a black hole. Just keep making small changes, take it one day at a time, and you'll make it. I am now debt free except for my student loan, which the military will pay back about half. My car is now paid for. It just takes time and perseverence to get back on your feet. A lot of days I only had rice and beans to eat. I went to the public library to use the internet, I gave up a lot of unnecessary things. I was able to bounce back from almost having to file bankruptcy. I refused to file bankruptcy or it would cause me to lose my job in the military. So I just had to make do with what I could. I still live very simply. If I don't need it, I don't buy it. I would rather use my extra money to help my friends and family who need it, or put it aside for the future. Sometimes the more stuff you have, the more you have to keep track of.

I will say that I do happen to buy too many books lately. I have had to cut back on that. I am a student, so a lot of books I do need, but I like to read for a hobby, too. I guess other people spend money for other kinds of entertainment, but I prefer to read. It keeps me out of trouble, I suppose. Laugh

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dearchinadoll I would sign up for the military except I am to old they would never evern consider it cause I heard you need to be young, way younger. I can't blame my life on anyone except for me just me no one else except for me. I did know a man that gambled and spent money that is all he cared about until he ruined his life and lost everything he even had a home that was paid for and didn't even pay the taxes on it and I wonder if he still has it this was years ago. I am not debt free and my car is not paid for I wish this was the case and it isn't. I am not a picky eater but beans and rice are hard for me to eat unless the beans have brown sugar on them or honey I don't know how to make it I tried to follow a recipie and it looked complicated sometimes I can eat rice once someone made it with cheese and pepper and it tasted real good it is funny when someone else makes food for me I eat when I make it I just go ugh. OK I went to the thrift store and donated some items a really supper long hose and some I mean a ton of curtain rods threw out a broken up old chair. Hey its a step also mailed off the request for my unclaimed money it was funny cause the store wanted like 7 cents a copy and I didn't have the money had to go all the way back home and get into my nickle and dime jar no kidding just that this need to get done just hope I get that money soon. Books is a good idea I used to read lots not no more too hard to see the print just look on the internet that keeps me entertained yeah there are places with internet except I think oh I am sure they charge. I can tell you are thrifty that is good no sense to throw away good money on junk. I don't really do any think that costs money for entertainment. A movie once in a while and that has been so long ago I con't remember I do like hot butter pop corn. been working OK today on the diet boiled me up some carrot, chicken breast, onion, brocolli, salt and pepper and it was yummy.

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Greetings care2much~

Hope Your Thursday is going much Better & I will reply to Your reply but like Others here wish You Blessings!
I imagine it can be Overwhelming & with so much at One time...
I used to try & tackle so Many things at once when it could only be tackled One at a time or maybe Two but
not All at once (or expect to have Achieved this or that in such short period of time)
It can cloud the Mind if inundated.

What is doable NOW can bring feelings of Achievement... In increments-
I'll be back later when I can digest what You have shared & bring forth some ideas that hopefully can be added
to the Ones Others have shared also. Keep that chin up... Hope hangs like a rainbow!

Have a Great One!Laugh... Blessings~

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care2much said:

dearest Lovinglight thanks a bunch for answering my problems and helping out just want you to know that I am reading every word cause I realize I am open to all suggestions and you have offered some great ones, ones that I have never considered before. OK the eviction thing this person has a regular that goes around taking people to court left right and center you should see all the eviction signs on the places you wouldn't believe it I swear, lets see 3 no less the places empty with junk and flies buzzing aroudn cause the people couldnt pay. Like this person don't mess around with nobody yeah if I was to proof I could pay and had money coming in she would give me more time cause all she care about is the money. Tomorros I gonna send in the paperwork to get this money that someone says they have that belongs to me and that will help out provding they don't take forever or forget to send it. I am gonna file for unemployment as I have nothing to loose first thing tomorrow I am calling, standing in line whatever it takes I just don't think it pays much it will be better than nada. OK this thing about me trying to find someone I did go on line and try to register with the dating services all I got so far was some smiles whatever that means and some people looking at me then as I think more about it not a good idea right now as I have nothing to offer and know I aint the cutest apple on the tree and if they want to pass me up well they can jolly well go right ahead and I just don't think I am crazy about strangers not really into the romance end and I am trying to loose weight hard to when I am like not on a schedule I ate a artichoke and a piece of homemade chocolate cake with no frosting not the type of thing a dieter would eat. Now this business about the old boy friend I think he either lives in the streets or with another woman and he looks filthy I just know he said he loves me and I beleive him just hope he isn't hitting the bottle. The human service is off the highway and I plan to go and fill up some application to see if I can get something anything I don't care and from what I know they take a while toprocess it won't happen over night. This woman told me that the church is renting an apartment for ahomeless woman maybe then can help me but I am not really a member or a regualr attender just a person who gets the free food and meals that type of thing. the bus is like three bucks for a day pass and that adds up the car is needing repairs that I cant afford I am trying to decide if I should spend money to fix it and maybe live in it or just leave it unfixed and pay rent, probaly I wil pay rent cause Its against the law to live in a care. this internet thing I don't own a lap top I rmember long time ago when I did I was able to pick up wi fi. I hate to loose my ability to network if it happens int happens there is a way to make calls then again I tried and the person I was talking to couldn't hear my voice and I could here theres. This is a great idea and I will put it on my list of ways to cut back. People can get motel vouchers I have no idea how or from who for a couple of nights from what I learned the motels are like 40 bucks a night the cats are a concern I can't bear to think of living with out them they only know me and I dont think there is anyone who would want someones old cat and a young wild one. My neighbor wants the dog walked several times a day and for me to take him here and there and to give my time and food for free. I have given him several bags of groceries whan I had my care to picke them up and a job to buy them with then again he can afoord to chain smoke and feed a dog and I have to wonder his needs are endless then I think he is lonely and only talks about his problems is one mood one minute the next something else he talks to all the drug addicts and drunks this type of man and I just can't deal with him right now I mean I do take his calls every now and then and he says he is lonley all fo this depressing stuff its like he will ask to do a christmas thing with me I get up plan the day then says at the last minurte now cause heis depressed thinking about his adoption then I say OK lests go to church and he will call last minute and say no then he will call and say he wants to go then he talks behind my back telling people I dont' do what eh wants the way he wants and he doesnt like a peson like me asking him to make plans have a schedule. The type that wants someon to do things his way. Now I can't even deal with all of that. He does have a service to pay for someone to cook and clean it does not pay to walk his dog, type his songs, move his furniture. He finds people then they never come back cause he is always telling them come don't come. I used to feel sorry for him he doesn't care about my job loss and my worries thats Ok I don't need him to I understand he is sick and don't no no better. I have been filling out job applications on line cause that is how they do it now a days no more go to the place and fillup and job applicaton they really don't have temp. services here just some jobs to take care of elderly then you must have a car then drive here and work an hour or two then drive there and work an hour or tow no gass money I would take a job if offerend OH Yeah have to pay 45 bucks for a finger print that I don't have and go to trainging that I will go to but you have to find someone who want s you to care for them first. I did apply to the church to do some child care and they said maybe someone will let me do that until I find a job except it don't pay much like 20 bucks a day and that is better then nothing hope they dont need me to have a care or live far from the bus stop. Tommorw I have a plan and will get some more things done my plans go through until the first week in March trying to pretend I still have a life. I read everyword and am absorbing this into my brain cause I can't think things through due to feeling lost.


Greetings care2much~

This maybe quite a longggggggg Post but it is much easier for me to respond to what You have spoken so hopefully there is not the confusion of what I am responding to... LoL

Re: Eviction

***I Encourage to know what Your *Tenant Rights* are for Your state. There are the horror stories of Evictions with property strewn on the front yard & Children crying in arms of the Parent... Heartwrenching image(s)... You might be able to buy more time & avoid eviction all together...
There is that saying- where One door closes Another opens... Positive Thoughts are sent for a door to open in Your Favor.

Re: Money that Someone said belonged to You

***Hopefully You did send it in... a Blessing & in same breath I recommend avoiding placement of ALL Hopes & Dreams in this money for it can take some time to receive... It is again Encouraged to continue vigilence on looking for job & maintaining Calm so Mind doesn't get Overwhelmed.
Each Day a new Day!

Re: Church

***Just a Thought~ there are Churches that reach out to those in need... & You have more to lose by not hearing of Opportunity than by turning the other cheek... Maybe giving Faith a chance to grow within You... allowing Belief in what the Lord is doing through... through these Person(s) wanting to help You... Even the smallest seed- Mustard Seed for example can do Wonders...
especially in reference to the *apartment* offer that might be available... it wouldn't hurt to find out more... You would have lost already when You don't even try.

Re: Ex-Boyfriend & Cats

***It appears his situation is not any Better & to be with him would mean HUGE sacrifice on every Level from what You have spoken about his current Affliction.
I don't imagine You would fair Greatly by living on the streets with him especially IF he makes *choice* to not Better his Life...
Some again... want a Companion when Miserable & I don't think You would wish to be Miserable with him.
It seems You have much to Live for- Gain in Greatness!

& with the Cats... that gets tricky for there are places that will not take them in however there is the Humane Society where they can work to find a home for Your pets or maybe You have neighbors who might be willing to care for them... Just an idea...
Sometimes it is not possible to take our pets during a move... but if Another can hold them for You- even temporary... that might ease the transition. Help lessen the ache...

Re: Your Neighbor with Dog

***This can be a tricky situation as well because there are always (One of the Other times I will use *always*) there are always two sides to a story.
[that phrasing Paul Harvey would speak of]... IF Others are speaking of this Man being *this* or *that*... I Encourage to base Your Own interpretation on Your Own Personal Experience... wild as it may sound... there are Some Older Persons who get a tad Grumpy & Belligerent...
You may be One of the Few who actually Understand him if You can be around him longer than Some... LoL
From the Services he uses... seems there is a Great need on his part for help... Sometimes a Person may not speak with Thank You or act Grateful
but that should not stop from giving from the Heart. Prayers extend to this Man... he might be hurting- suffering more than Anyone may realize.
I remember an Elderly Gentleman who didn't smile for the longest time but I kept on smiling & telling him Good Morning... it took quite some time but he eventually did smile & warmed up to me... I wasn't going to change my Attitude or way of Greeting & become a Sour Puss because he wasn't having a Good Day... hopefully I helped make his Day a Better One...

Maybe taking One Day at a time... doing what is do-able... Seems there is a tsunami of Emotions & Thoughts...
I Encourage to let the Insignificant get washed away... & leave what is Significant on the shores for You to pick upLaugh...

Best Wishes! Have a Great Monday... it is do-ableWink... Love to hear how You are doing...Blessings~

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