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Just heard from codie g/f..Advice please
May 14, 2010
1:17 pm
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Me and this girl have had on again off again relationship for yrs.It has been over a yr we have not spoken,i really can not say why other then maybe we grow tired of each other in any event. I have gotten use to not talking and moved on with my life. About ten mins ago she just rung my home and cell number to tell me. She knew i was fond of her mom.That her mom is dying from cancer and she didnt want me to hear it from know one else..All my fears came back,of how me and her stop and start our friendship.I don't know what to do.Really njoyed no contact with her.what do i do? Just looking at the phone not sure if i should return the call.

May 14, 2010
2:54 pm
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I would keep to myself and maybe send a card to her mom wishing her well....esp if you want nc and are sure of that.

May 14, 2010
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Thx BFG i was eagerly awaiting someone advice. The thing is she moved to Fl i don't have her address and her mom has not passed yet.I feel like i am being rude with no response at all, but i don't wan't to have a conversation. I was thinking texting my feelings about her mom. What u think? Not doing anything right know. My gut is telling me WHY raise the dead!

May 14, 2010
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Yes, why raise the dead and I think that is what you would be doing if you did text her, she is not going to be in a place where she will probably have her codie tendencies in check, I mean esp now...you can feel bad for someone, pray for them or wish they well, but just cause you do not bend over backwards or even call them, does not make you a bad person, at all, I know, I would probably feel the same way cause i would feel bad, but you have to seperate that from the reality of her and it sounds to me, you ened things for a good reason...keep it there or else you might be back into something that feels bad pulling away from, of course this is my opinion on what I would do lady, it is your choice...but I think you already know that anwser...I am sorry you are dealing with this, I am sure it makes you feel as if you should do something, but doing something is not always the answer, sometimes NOT doing something is! (((SCL)))

May 14, 2010
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Thx u BFG..I prayed and did text her my feelings about her mom, not us and the burden i was feeling has lifted.She text me back thx for responding..U know why, i felt loyal because when my mother passed away she was there all the way for me, i can not forget that. So know that the reponse thing is over. I can go back to no contact.Whew! to rekindle that friendship is like a relaspe..Thx for being there..

May 14, 2010
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oh your welcomed, I know how it feels to end a friendship or not to have it rekindled and the other person does, and that is VERY hard, I have only one other friend that I have lunch with, but she is real and she is there for me, and she is the one who helped me "see" things with the ex...things I had been kinda of blind too, so I know lady how it feels, esp now, I am still kinda of going through the fact we are not friends anymore and it hurts really badly...

EVer hear the phrase...do not make someone a prioirty who makes you an option? That was me!

glad I could help you lady:)

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