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Just Figuring It Out
August 24, 2006
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Wow what a wake up call....I came in here looking for advice for a problem I was having and reading thru some of these threads, I REALIZED that I am definetly codependent. The problem I was having now seems to not be the problem. If you can make sense of that.

I spend my life everyday living through someone else and it never dawned on me till I was reading the signs of codependency. I'm thinking too that this could have stemmed from an abusive relationship, because I do everything in my power now to avoid confrontation.

So where do I go from here?

August 24, 2006
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keep posting, and keep reading posts, and know you are not alone...and now is the time to focus on you and not worry about others.

Have you read any good coda books yet, say by Melody Beattie or Robin Norwood...cuz they are soo helpful.

come on back!!!

August 24, 2006
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Sorry to sound cliche...but one day at a time...making it all about you, and learning about yourself, what YOU want...what makes YOU happy. Overcoming fears...fears of confrontation, of conflict, of failure.

Have you read the book "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beattie? That is a good starting place. Perhaps join a Codependents Anonymous--find a support group in your area...you're in the right place to start...these boards are a great learning forum.

(((Looking)))...Welcome--2b

August 24, 2006
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I have just realized this all today. In my reading of some of the threads, I wrote down the names of the books to get and will get them to learn more about this. Just finding out that I have this problem is some sort of relief in that a few of the problems I have faced lately were caused because of my ability to just say what I feel.

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