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just broke up last night
February 3, 2005
7:28 am
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I was in a relationship for 4 years, living together. I have two kids from a previous marriage..teenagers. He didn't like my kids at all and made me choose between him and them. Of course I chose my kids. I ended up kicking him out about 4 months ago. Two weeks after that, he showed up and said he still wanted me in his life. We dated for 4 months and I thought it was going good. The 1st of January, he rented a cabin in Jasper for the month. He rarely called. I went up for a weekend and it was wonderful. Then he came back for a week and stayed with me and it was wonderful...my kids were with their dad as they had no school. Then he came back after one more week. That was last night. I hadn't heard from him in 6 days. He showed up and informed me he was leaving town and didnt know if he would ever be back. I begged him not to go...then realized he wasn't going to change his mind. We had some drinks together and we said our goodbyes. I just don't know what happened...I thought we were getting along. My daughter is 17...we were going to get back together when she was old enough...It sounds insane as I'm typing this..he was so right for me..but not my kids. I miss him. I'm scared...I'm going to school at 40. I need to be strong and I feel so weak and alone. How do u get through this??

February 3, 2005
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Hartless:

If he had to suddenly go then something NOT GOOD was up. Either his past caught up w/ him or a new problem has arisen. I doubt it is you.

To get thru, you get up and throw yourself into school, your kids, hobbies, whatever. Be happy you didn't have to face whatever terrifle thing w/ him.

February 3, 2005
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you will get thru this, you are still young, and have a world ahead of you...sounds like this man was a lil unstable to begin with,.....and did he honestly still accept and like your children in the long run??? you are most likely better off without him, he doesn't sound stable....keep posting here, and know that you are not alone.

February 3, 2005
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Like the other post said.. Throw yourself into school, and just put everyting into school, and you'll get so MUCH out of it... YOU have a lot ot offer, Just NOT to someone who is a little unstable or Otherwise... It's important to remember that yo were not dating his POTENTIAL, you got him, warts and all... as hard as it can be to do... Let it go, one moment/day at a time.. Your children your intrests and hobbies, and school are what need your attention.. and can be a wonderful distraction to your emotions at this time...
Take good care of yourself, FIRST and FOREMOST, afterall, You will always be with yourself, so keep doing all that you started for YOU... YOU are quite worth it!!!

February 3, 2005
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I've been broken up for 3 weeks. I would have said that like you my man was good for me but not for my children. I think truthfully, I was willing to accept a lower standard for me than for my children. I miss him, I physically hurt but take care of yourself like a child- eat, sleep, exercise. Stay busy. See your friends and do not call him!

February 3, 2005
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Realize that he has some major issues about committment that have nothing to do with you. His problems with your children would always be there. You're better off without him.

February 3, 2005
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If it's of any consulation I'm almost 40 myself (39) and just starting school and also pretty much alone. Besides my kids of course but they are not teenagers. 12 and 9 years old. I've made up my mind to concentrate on school and getting things done to try and not feel the loneliness too much and I'm hoping that I can make some friends in school that I can maybe hang out with.

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