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Journal Question for November 5
November 5, 2007
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4. Write out the circumstances of your family during your childhood. Things such
as:
a. Family size
b. Age differences (Your parents, brothers & sisters)
c. Financial status
d. Was there laughter?
e. Arguing?
f. Depression?
g. Were other relatives living with you?
h. Other circumstances?

When i was two months old, my mom, dad, older sister and I moved into the 2nd floor of my grandmother's house. My grandmother lived downstairs. My younger sister was born 6 years later, and 3 years after that, my dad left the family. So we were a house full of women: Grandma, mom, my older sister, me and my younger sister. My parents are the same age. There are 6 years between my older sister and I, and 6 years between my younger sister and I.

Financially, I know mom struggled, but we always had what we needed and more. We never went hungry. We got new school clothes every year. I had dance lessons and piano lessons. My sisters did too, and my younger siter even had horseback riding lessons. But mom had trouble paying bills, and was always getting calls from creditors. My grandmother was amazing with money. She rarely went anywhere though. She always had money to spare, even though she probably made about $5,000 a year as a seamstress.

My mom and grandmother argued a lot and there was a lot of yelling in our house. My mother also taught school and I felt like she didn't really have time for us when she got home. My grandmother was my best friend, and I spent most of my time with her. I know there was laughter too. We spent some time every summer down the Jersey shore, and that was fantastic. We were a cuddly family too, often snuggling all together on the couch to watch tv. God, I remember our first color tv. LOL.

Family holidays were especially wonderful. We're Italian. We always had about 20 people over on the holidays, and every holiday dinner started with lasagna. There was loud talk, lots of laughter and just generally great times. We did not have much alcohol at gatherings so they never got out of control in anyway. They were just always amazingly fun.

November 5, 2007
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we shared a 2 family dwelling with my mother's parents and sibling.
I had an older sibling who was a bit of a bully and liked to do practical jokes, and got into trouble a lot.

There was a large extended family on both sides. But the seperation at such a young age put a strain on relations. I can remember gatherings that the family went to whil parents were together. The mothers side always had gatherings.
Saw them every holiday.
There was much laughter and seemed to be much love.
I don't know what happened in my family. Greed, ignorance. Lack of education...the devorce, I think my parents were the only ones, and I sensed that I was inferior.
Much argueing too.

November 5, 2007
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we shared a 2 family dwelling with my mother's parents and sibling.
I had an older sibling who was a bit of a bully and liked to do practical jokes, and got into trouble a lot.

There was a large extended family on both sides. But the seperation at such a young age put a strain on relations. I can remember gatherings that the family went to whil parents were together. The mothers side always had gatherings.
Saw them every holiday.
There was much laughter and seemed to be much love.
I don't know what happened in my family. Greed, ignorance. Lack of education...the devorce, I think my parents were the only ones, and I sensed that I was inferior.
Much argueing too.

November 5, 2007
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continued (I guess I should have a journal:

There was deception between my parents. There were weekly visitations but no way to reach him.
We were not allowed to talk about my father's family. We were not allowed to love them.
I remember my mothers bitterness.
I remember here jealousy.
I believe she hated me.

November 5, 2007
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We were pretty poor growing up. My mom was a single parent, so we struggled alot . I have an older brother who is 7yrs.older than me, then I have a sister that is 6yrs. older than me, and then is me, and I have younger twin brothers that I am 5yrs older.

There were alot of arguing and fighting btw my sister and my mom. However, when I became older and to start to work my mom was very controlling about money, so we had alot of arguements about that.

Also, there was some good times too. My mom always made sure that we did something for the summer. amusement parks, and my grandparents lived in Fla; so they would drive up to pick us up and take us with them. My mom I think was really depressed, because this was not the life she thought she would have.

November 5, 2007
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five in the family: mom and dad about 24 years older than me. i'm the oldest of three daughters, with 2 years between each of us. we were poor. there were happy times, but really not alot when you think about it. parents got along alot of times, but argued some. my mom got really angry and yelled alot. they overused spanking. issues with grandparents, but they didn't live with us.

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November 5, 2007
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3 in my family. I was an only child thank goodness. My mother was a young mother she had me at sixteen and and when she was 19 she married my now my ex step father. He was just 2 years older than she was.

My "Parents" both worked for the state so we were not poor but all the money that came in was spent on drugs and alcohol. So I lived off of ramen noodles.

There wasn't very much laughter in my house. It was always a scary place to be I always felt threatened when I was at home. I never new when they were going to shoot me up with drugs or I was going to spend the night in there bedroom. I was always on edge.

There was a lot of screaming violent arguments when I was a child. Most of the time it was between my "parents" but sometimes other people would show up arguing and one time I had to hide because there was a man in the living room with a gun and he was threatening to take his anger out on me. I was 8 I think. There was also an argument that lead to my "father" chocking my mother on the bed that I witnessed.

I suffered from depression as a child and I remember that my "parents" were on antidepressants.

For a while we had my aunt living with us (a drug addict) who would go around the house calling my mom a whore while she was gone then I would tell my mom about it and I would get into trouble for lying because my aunt would deny it and call me a little liar. Then we had my uncle living with us ( another drug addict) who cared little for me. I remember putting some socks away in my "parents" dresser and having the huge TV that was on it fall down. HE ran into the room but didnt go to me first he ran to the TV to make sure it wasn't broken. Then we had random drug addicts living in the house.

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